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Hi there, Wow... alot to think about. There is always adoption. That way if you decide to not keep your baby at least it is able to have life with another family. Give it some serious thought. Sometimes what we think is horrible and impossible now turns out to be a huge blessing in disguise. we never know whats around the corner. Abortion is a final thing that comes with many emotions that can last a lifetime. Give it serious thought, look at your age, the situation. I'm rooting for you! You'll make the best decision for yourself and your baby. Good luck and remember situations can change on the drop of a dime, how things seem now can change tomorrow. babies are such a blessing!! Hugs, xoxox

Thanks so much for your response. I really wish I had a better situation, but then again...who doesn't..right? I go to my OB/GYN Thursday and hope to have some questions answered and decide from there. I'll keep you posted. I'm glad I found this forum.

Hi! This is just my opinion, so please don't take as being intrusive. You have just 5 more months of school and 7 months of pregnancy. It's totally duable. And not having the father along doesn't mean you can't do it, in fact, a lot of women raise their kids by themselves when once they though they had a great guy by their side and he ended up being a jerk. This could be in fact your last chance of experiencing how wonderful it is to be a mother. It's not easy (I'm a mother of two and might be preg, will find on Tuesday - totally unplanned, kids are grown ups and we were not planning either), but it IS rewarding and wonderful. Please consider your options carefully, and good luck to you. Hugs xoxoxox

Nicensa__sy, you are so blessed to be able to have a child. Sounds like you have your hands full but everything happens for a reason. I hope you can figure it all out. Best of luck to you!!

Wow babySD...sounds like you have a lot going on too. Best of luck to you Tuesday. I wish you the best. I do appreciate your kind words and advice. I thank you too FrancesM. I sure hope I can make the best decision soon......

Thanks bunny. I do believe in God and therefor lies my struggle. I don't wish to be selfish, but I did want to have my new career going before I even thought about kids. I'm nervous about my health (few issues there) and of the baby's health. Also (and here is where I'll lose a few fans...I'm sure).....the father is married to someone else. I know...I know.....believe me...something I swore I would never do. We were great friends for a while and then it happened. I really wanted the father of my child to want to at least be on board with the idea, but he has raised his two and I already knew he didn't want more. We did use protection, but that didn't work out. He's allowing me to decide and I truly have no idea. I change my mind every hour. One minute I'm excited at the thought of being a mom and the next...I'm scared as you know what. Well, I'll know more on Thursday and will keep you posted. Good luck to you if you do decide to have another little one. And thanks again....

Nicensa__sy, I can be a loyal friend (you lose no fans here), and I learned (through the bible, ofcourse, and common sense) NEVER to judge. Things happen, and people do make mistakes. Anyway, now you have someone besides yourself to think about. If need be, put your career on hold. After the first few months, you can pick up where you left off with your career ---- many single women do. Trust me, I'm sure there are others in this same situation, who still become successful. If you are nervous (as you said) about yours & your baby's health ---- talk to a doctor regarding it, but most of all, tell your concerns to The Doctor (the Lord) of doctors, who has been watching over you & your baby thusfar; He hears & understands you, when no one else does. Last but not least, since you change your mind ("one minute I'm excited about the thought of being a mom, and the next... I'm scared as you know what.") every hour, the next time you're being excited about being a mom, let your brain get stuck in that mode. When you see that baby for the first time, you'll wonder how you ever could've wanted to get rid of it. Take care my friend, Bunny

Hi nicensa__sy - the good news is there is no wrong answer here. You are completely in control of your decision, and you need to make the one that is right for you. If you believe in good things, they will happen ...and you never know what is around the corner for you....maybe Mr Right... For years I thought I would try and have a baby on my own if I didn't meet the right guy. Better to be a single parent family with a loving mother, than being a 2 parent family that isn't happy right? I decided to do it, and by chance and fate once I made the decision to go for it, I met an amazing man.....my dad calls him a one in a million. Funnily enough when I met him I told him I was planning to have a baby. We got married after a year on Dec 15th and conceived on our 1 month anniversary - positive test last night - yay. So moral of the story is....I made the right decision for me, and good things came my way. This may be one of your only chances to conceive, or you may have hundreds........and if you decide to have the baby, lots of guys I know have no issue at all meeting a girl with a baby and moving to a serious long term committment.... No matter what you decide, you can finish your studies (which is awesome), and that will help with your career. In my opinion you can't go wrong. Good luck xx

hello everybody. i am 41 years old and never married or have any s_x experiences, so would plz tell me get pregnant in this for the first time will be with risk or not?thans

Good morning minabanoo. You have asked your question under someone elses post. It would be more beneficial if you start a post of your own; then maybe you will get more replies. Instead of putting your "question" in this area where it says "your answer", near the top right of the page, click on "click to ask your question" (blinking red & blue), and then simply ask your question.

Personally, I think johnemib (emily) is just looking for attention. Anyone who thinks there is something wrong with being anything other than "skinny", has definite issues; as if being "skinny" is the epitome of beauty. Wow, what a shallow person. There are plenty of overweight women that get married, because there are some men out there who are not (like some people seem to be) shallow-minded, and see beauty as only being skin-deep. How about personality & morals? Do you know anything about that? I'm 41 (and not "fat", as you might try to say), and I could snag any man I want; before hardly getting touched by a lightning bolt. How about this ----- YOUR dating life is over, when you mess with YOUR looks. Let's see how well you do, when YOUR looks begin to fade. I see you have no regard for life, simply telling others to "get an abortion", if they are not america's standard of beauty. How about YOU just get an abortion, and let others make their own decisions.

Emily, what is the matter with you? You are wrong...that was extremely cruel. Personally I think that peole like yourself ought to banned from this website. That was unnecesary, unkind, shalow and completely untrue. I think you have some serious issues that you might want to deal with. Sa__sy? do NOT listen to her....you will know the answer when you find it. In the meantime there are plenty of women here who are on your side, will not judge you and want the best for you. Hugs and best to you....

Hi Nicensa__sy, sorry for the complete rudeness of "some people" on this website; who remain nameless (you know who you are). Anyway, IT'S THURSDAY!! You said you would know more by today; and said you would keep us posted. Well woman, I'm excited (I hope, justifiably) to know what your decision is. I mean, I know it's an ongoing thought process, but give a girl some good news lady! I'm rootin' for ya!!

Hey Bunny and Leslie...thanks for thinking of me. I have been sick these past 2 days. It must be all the ugly fat I'm carrying around. Speaking of ugly and fat, well I won't mention Emily's name here. Anyway, had an ultrasound..saw the sac and itty bitty white spot, but no heartbeat. The doc said she can't consider it a viable pregnancy yet. I'm still confused but leaning toward termination as there are more reasons to do that than to keep it right now. I do appreciate your support. I do need to decide this weekend. I'll keep in touch. I so wish I was more decisive about this.

Nicensa__sy: We are fortunate enough to live in the USA where we have freedom of choice. Whatever you you choose, be sure you can live with it. My aunt had an abortion when she was young, it was the child of a married man, and this decision has haunted her forever. I personally think a child is a gift from God and a miracle, and if you are handed it you can handle it. I wish you much peace and love as I know you are in a difficult situation. No judgements me girl :)

that was no judgements "from" me :) I can't type when I am holding a squirming baby!