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Well it does seem like a good soap opera. I have to say there seems to be some bullies on this site. As for abortion, you should think about it. Can you handle it? If you can't, that doesn't mean you can't handle it later. If you got pregnant by accident there is a good chance you could have one intentionally later.

I definitley see why you have been defensive for johnemib leslie_xx. It really a shame what I am reading here. Everyone bullied her away. I don't see any more posts either. It also seems like 3 babies for 41 is on here an awful. Is it possible that you maybe could have over reacted here? I don't see anything terrible with a different opinion.

Sorry, to be so heated over this issue but I hate bullies. I have just gotten the low down and apparently johnemib original post was removed? What is this the 3 babies at 41 christian anti abortion site! I think all of your posts should be removed. I don't care if she had the dammed plastic surgeon's number on the post. There are several other forums on this site where plastic reconstructive surgery is discussed. And the reason for that is because life isn't fair and the prettier your are the more dates you get. I am fumed that you are suppressing freedom of speech and abortion.

How is everything going, Nicensa__sy?

This is an interesting post...perhaps one of the more heated posts I have read on the over 35 forum. Sooo...since this is an open forum...here goes: 1. I agree with the ppl who have commented on the bullying notable on this post. Bullying is wrong....pure and simple. 2. Whenever someone posts a question about whether or not to continue a pregnancy...most of the commentary that follows usually incorporates religious overtones and emphatic pleas to NOT get an abortion. There is no logic in that sort of plea...really...for it shows lack of objectivity. People who post questions like this are generally seeking an OBJECTIVE opinion. 3. It's somewhat disconcerting also to see how most women who have posted here think being 40ish makes us too old...or somehow less able to keep up with our babies. Maybe that is true for some....but I can honestly say that at 40, I recovered quite rapidly from my csection birth. My boy was 10lbs8oz....and while the pregnancy sucked...the birth went alright. I basically feel I have about the same energy I did back when my daughter was born...when I was only 19. I don't feel old or run-down. I don't look old either...altho I definitely want to lose a few pounds LOL. My dh and I married at age 36...we met at age 35...and we are exactly 7 days apart in age. He loves that we are the same age...so hope for finding the right man in one's 30s or 40s really is not lost. Plus he can't keep his mits off me and doesn't have that internal urge to date women half his age on the side! Have hope everyone...even if you feel you are destined to remain forever single. Ya just never know what's out there. 4. I really wish women on this site would be more supportive and objective with each other rather than attack each other due to personal moral beliefs. Especially in regards to things like pregnancy, abortion, etc. It would be helpful for women to realize that all of us are a diverse group of people...and many of us are not christian. There are other belief systems out there so it just seems reasonable to me that we truly ought to leave religion out of our arguments. Ok...said my piece. Good luck nicensa__sy with your decision...for it is YOURS alone. Only you know what will truly be the right decision to make! Take care everyone!

Well, thanks 3_babies for checking on me. I thank you as well docbytch (love the name) for your advice and wise thoughts. I'm doing okay. I terminated today so of course I am hurting, both physically and emotionally. I will be okay. I know this was the right thing, although not easy. I wish others well and hope they find the advice they seek. I am here for anyone who may need advice if they feel an abortion is for them. Thanks again......

Nicensa__sy, hoping you will heal ----- both physically & emotionally. Take care of yourself.

Oh...and for nicensa__sy...yes I have been in a similar situation...and yes I have also terminated before.....a long time ago while I was in my early 20s and had a young child to care for. It seems to me that women have the impression that undergoing an abortion is a easy decision....it's really not. It's also not fun, and it's really rather depressing. NO woman should criticize or condemn another woman who has made a painful decision. For many...that decision becomes the lesser of two evils. I support women in whatever decisions they make....for again...decisions regarding pregnancy, adoption, or abortion are strictly INDIVIDUAL. Good luck to you! You will heal over time....I did.

Thanks for the advice docbytch. You are right....it is a very difficult decision. I know I made the right decision but it's still hard to grasp. I feel better today. I know time will tell. I also know in my heart that this was not the right time to bring a baby in to my world. Thanks again to all who responded....