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This world is so funny, some people are praying and disparate to have kids, and they can do anything to have them, and some people get them as easy as 1-2-3. Your husband should appreciate that; this is a bless from GOD for both of you. What another child can add to your financial problems? What is the difference between 4 members in the family and 5? The livelihood of those kids is the responsibility of their creator, not yours or your husband’s, maybe he is the one who put the food on the table, but God is the one who provide.

bumping up for additional responses, thanks for the reply

Congratulations. Quite truthfully who (average Joe type) is ever really ready financially for a new baby? Since you're a stay at home mom you can save on the child care expenses (wish I could). I have a son who will turn 12 in July, my husband has a 22 year old son from previous marriage and my hubby did not want anymore children after our son was born ("Im too old" he said). Well buy the time he wanted another me at 38 and him at 40 I got pregnant twice in 2004 and both ended up miscarriages. I have not been able to get pregnant until now (40 years old). I'm very worried about miscarrying again. My advice or words of wisdom - enjoy! Tell your husband and I'm sure even though he wasn't expecting it I'm sure he'll welcome the idea once the shock sets in. Best of luck, stay clam and healthy.

Now, you have the debt and are staying at home. With a baby, you will have the debt and will stay at home. Not much difference there financially, is there? Especially if you have leftover equipment/clothes from your youngest. Will there be some national child benefit payment?

Hello, Reading your post about "being terrible about taking my pills" was a mirror-remark of myself. I'm actually smiling now... 20 weeks pregnant with our third child. My husband and I had our first two kids 16 months apart. Having them so close was our choice because we are not getting younger and our energy level seems more depleted with each year that pa__ses. We felt blessed to have a wonderful family, but, we agreed... no more. Then, I let my prescription lapse and in the 2 weeks it did- Mother Nature took over and put me in check! I beat myself-up for 12 weeks... fretting about money , a bigger home, diaper genie refills and pampers, and exhaustion. My husband and I acted like two unwed 16 year-olds that had a one-nighter! Meanwhile, I am 35 and he is 43! I was so focused on the outside factors, that I was not taking a second of time to be thankful for God's gift to us. Then, after an abnormal quad screen for DS and an amnio... all of the "outside factors" didn't matter one bit. (I posted the Positive Quad Screen Result and Scared on this site) After the news came back that the amnio showed no signs of chromosomal abnormalities, things were put into proper perspective. He/ She is a blessing already and I feel an extra special bond just because of the hell I put myself through with the quad screen and amnio. My husband and I have refinanced 3 times in 5 years to consolidate debt, swearing each time that we'll manage money more efficiently. I have my credit cards racked back up to almost 10 grand and so does he. The whole "debt thing" is another burden, but do not let that be a source of negativity regarding the pregnancy. My husband is a stay-at-home Dad for our two kids. Yes, the double income would be great, but, if we were to pay for childcare... why work!? I love going to work knowing my kids weren't pulled from a sound sleep to go and spend the day with someone who could not possibly love or tolerate them as much as we do. It is great to see them being nurtured at home with their Dad. I teach in a public school and it is a daily reminder of how many kids are emotionally neglected and starved for attention. Some have been in daycare since they were 8 weeks old! No thanks. One day my husband and I pretend we will be out of debt and banking retirement money... ha ha I'm trying to say... don't be so hard on yourself... you are pregnant and that's that. You need the support of your husband, tlc, and rea__surance that he is there for you. Dwell on the blessings instead of the burdens. And with any luck- we'll win the Power Ball lottery! Keep us posted. :o)

Well, I told him last night. I was shaking and crying, but I had to. He actually didn't take it like I thought. He had questions, I could tell by the look in his eyes, but I think he was almost relieved. I was crying so bad and I said "I am so scared, I have to tell you something, I am so sorry." I think he was prepared for the worse. Anyway, thanks everyone. All your responses have been so great, and I knew they would, that's why I posted here! Well, we still have a lot to discuss and MANY weeks to go, I am feeling pretty good. My b___sts are a little sore, esp. in the evening, and my lower back really hurt last night. Other than that, I am good. I'll write again soon. It's gonna be a nice day here in Cleveland today.

i am so glad that its over, and i am sorry for my first answer.

So glad your announcement went over better than you had expected. Again, congratulations and best of luck to you and your family.