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Tammy, you feel people may 'talk' about you, who cares, your husband is 10 years younger and i am sure people 'talk' about that, but it hasn't stopped you having a relationship with him. Mary, if people ask if you are maybe a bit old tell them you are just lucky and if they have negative comments could they please keep their opinions to themselves. I am in my 40's and pregnant and i am going to be poking my belly out in public the minute it gets big enough to show.

Hey mom 35...I'm 36 and think I might be preggers with #1. There's nothing wrong with waiting to have children until the time is right for you and your husband. Anyway, how do your insensitive friends know that you didn't want to have children earlier. People like that are just ignorant. Please take pride in your beautiful condition and show it. The fact that you and your husband are happy about it should be all that matters. Best Wishes!

By all means show off your pregnancy and be proud of it...your confidence alone should shut up the evil words of your "so-called" friends...apparently it's harder for the younger ones of us to look proudly pregnant...I have 2 going on 3 and I "look" younger than I am...my husband and I are both 25 and "look" like we're still 20 or so...so with 3 children you can imagine the evil that goes through people's minds. I can still remember seeing an OLD "snooty-looking" lady smugly frowning at me and my husband in the grocery store with JUST 2 kids last year! I just try to flash my wedding ring around so they don't get "that" idea...surprisingly she noticed the ring finally and began to lighten up a bit...can you imagine!! I saw the change in her face right before my eyes! Thank God you're not going through what I am! HAHA!! Just don't let it get to you...at least YOU know you're doing the right thing..let THAT give you the confidence you need to be proud of your pregnant condition! Everyone tries to find somthing wrong with someone else to boost themselves up...so remember that next time someone says somthing mean about you...they're trying to boost their own self confidence. Because OBVIOUSLY there is NOTHING wrong with having kids when you have a husband that loves you and you both are mature enough to raise them properly. SOME PEOPLE just don't get that!! They think age ACTUALLY MATTERS!!

You are not crazy. I will soon be 43 and I have one son graduating from high school this year and one that will be born in early September. I also have a 17 year and a 2 year old in between. I am so much more patient now then I was way back. Find some supportive friends and just remember that we are the lucky ones--we were able to do this!

Mary, it saddens me to see how negative you are about your pregnancy. My hubby and I had also given up having a baby years ago and gave it to God. Well, I found out this month that I am already 3 months along! I cried with joy, and a little nervousness, and a little worry.. but I know this was meant to be. I pray every single day that this baby is healthy, and I do everything I can to help it be just that. Your baby is meant to be in this world, or it wouldn't be here. I hope once the emotion levels out you might be a bit more optomistic and positive about it and be looking forward to the adventure your family is about to start on :) You mentioned Downs.. we've decided not to even have the test because we love this baby and want it no matter what. Downs is not the end of the world, they are beautiful, loving children who can function as well as anyone normal, if there is a normal. Also, don't pre-worry about finances, everything works out when it needs to! I wish you the best and hope you can find some happiness and joy in this new little person.. relax :)

I'm 38 and 12 wks along with my first. We had been trying for 3 years to get pregnant. So far, friends and family are very happy for us (even my MIL, who I was sure would be a big problem)! I was also afraid my dad (a grumpy old man) would say something like 'aren't you too old for this?' Surprisingly, he has not. So my biggest fears were nothing to worry about. I'm still in shock - not denial - about finally being pregnant after trying for so long. I told my husband last week that maybe I feel this way because some of my clothes still fit! I'd say find new friends if these are only giving you grief. Your husband and family are happy about your baby - you should be happy too! If it's just these few so-called friends giving you a hard time, then you don't need them in your life. Hugs to you!

Hi ladies. I feel great and relief when I read through your threads. I am 38 and trying so hard for my 2nd. I had my DD when I am 35 yrs old. I will do anything to get pregnant for this 2nd, even though dr did mention to me about the Down syndrome and others. I am now trying hard to get information on how to boost up the my fertility at this age. Any one could help me?

Well mom35, the votes are in for you and be HAPPY, Thankful for this wonderful life you have growing in you. Your husband is your biggest supporter and his advice to you is perfect. So, forget the others and enjoy. This is my first and by the time my baby is born I'll be 38 and I can't be more thrilled and excited than I am at this time. All I want is a happy and healthly baby to love and nurture and you will have the same.

I will be 40 in December when my 1st baby will hopefully be born. This was my 3rd IVF and I had given up hope, so I really don't think I am too old to have a baby. Intead I think that now I know how to raise a kid and I will treasure every moment.

gosh, I think you're young! You don't have a thing to be ashamed of! I ran into an old friend (a guy) and he made a remark like "there comes a time when you have to stop that and live again" and I said to him "Says who?" He was speechless! And I guarantee he was jealous! Along with his "old" wife! LOL! I'm proud! You better believe there are woman who would love to be in your shoes. So many are TTC now in their "later" years and having a hard time. Anyway, to me, you are still very young!!!!! Be happy! Maybe the day you wrote this post, you were in a melancholy mood. How's it goiong now?

Wow, look at the outpouring of people in our age bracket that are in the same boat as us! I think that people of our age groupe is not as uncommun as it used to be, like our parents in the Dark Ages. Halaluiah! I'm happy to be pregnant and happy to be alive! Sc-ew what some people might say to our faces, underneath it, they are just jelous anyways, lets face it. They would like to be healthy like us at our age to be able to have a baby still. Never feel ashamed, as long as you have your good health, you have nothing to feel ashamed about. Terrible to tell you this, but, while you'll be going to their funerals one day, you'll live to 100+ AND THEY KNOW IT !!! SCR-W THEM. C'est ca, c'est tout.

The good news is, that when you're 45 with a 10 year old, someone may mistake -you- for being in your thirties..and all your 'friends' with college aged kids can't pretend to be young any longer, ha ha. Botox or not Botox. Well, all kids are a blessing, no matter what age you have them. Your husband is a sweetie..it's just your hormones...hope you feel better soon.

There is nothing to be ashamed of! Shame on the people for making you feel like you should be. Be proud that you are bringing in another life out of love shared with your husband! Congratulations!

dont feel bad im 35 and pregnant ill be 36 when my child is born it has been hard emotionally and physically i hurt more lol be proud and your husband is right

Hey, there! Be happy! Sounds like your friends didn't have a life of their own before children! I'm 37 and pregnant with my first, by choice. (One of my friends -- a college professor -- is pregnant with her first at 41.) By waiting to have a baby, women can focus on education, career, establishing finances, traveling, and enjoying personal interests. (I wouldn't have done it any other way.) Because we've waited, just think of all we have to share with children!

Don't be ashamed.... they should be ashamed... your feelings are most likely caused by hormones... you and your husband are having a baby together... he is happy and proud, you are too, but are just letting other peoples petty and negative sayings get to you. Hold your chin up and show them you have nothing to be ashamed of.... the best defensive is a good offense... so let them see they can't get to you.. I am 41 and having my 5th... and me and my bf are very happy.... and if anyone every said those things to me, I would just smile more broader and rub my belly... LOL Hugs