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Yeah Val, I'm ok. Just depressed really. I'm just sad that I could not have enjoyed this pregnancy more. Instead of something so beautiful, it has been one hard deal after another. I broke down again last night after talking to my mom. Not because she was being sweet and supportive, but because she was being a b___h. I always wanted a mother like my MIL, but instead got someone who is not like her at all. Unfortunately I have tried to have a normal mother-daughter relationship with my mom, but have come to terms that that will just never happen. I went through a ton of therapy to get over my childhood resentments, and I thought I had all that dealt with, but for the past year, I have felt so much animosity building toward her. Yesterday's conversation just validated my feelings, so that saddened me and angered me all at the same time. I was hoping that none of her shortcomings have rubbed off on me so I don't do the same things to Savannah. I want to be a better mother, more nurturing I guess. HOPEFUL, I am so excited that your due date is approaching. One of my SIL's is due the same week you are. I'll say it now just in case the booger is early......GOOD LUCK and best wishes!!!!

Good morning Ladies, My doctor's appointment was canceled on Tuesday due to my doctor throwing out his back.. poor guy. The office rebooked for Thursday however if the doctor is not back in they will send me to the hospital for a non stress test on the baby. HOPEFULLY I wll have gone into labour before that! We went for a long walk yesterday, not one contraction! The babies head did engage a few times though. Does anyone else struggle with stairs? Gravity is really working against me at the moment. No Ladies, I'm not refering to my b___sts!! Well, not yet anyway.. lol Val, that's great you have a handy man in the house. Saving money is always a good thing. MOre to spend on your little angle. It does feel great as the house comes together, it makes you feel a bit more prepared. How long are you taking off once the baby is born? I am missing my pay cheque also. At least there is sickness benefits which help out a bit. My Maternity benefits kick in April 8th. Tracy, So glad that you and your baby are ok. The car is replacable, just an object. I was in an accident with my last pregnancy which happened just outside my doctor's office. The doctor saw me right away and reasured us that our son was ok. It is so hard to be on bedrest, I would love to leture you about spending more time off your feet. Knowing how trapped you must feel at this point with the never ending bedrest., just try your best to take it easy. The shot I was given at 25 weeks was to mature the babies lungs in the event of preterm delivery. Hopeful and Exctied, did you pack yourself and hubby some snacks in your hospital bag? Not sure what your hosptial offers after the baby is born. With each child I remember being starving after my boys were born. We also keep drinks and snacks in the car. You never know what time your baby will chose to show up! Take care!

TRACY, glad you're ok. I"m sorry about your mom. I think I've probably written on here about my relationship with my mom - it continues to be rough even as I've gotten older. Sometimes I get frustrated because I feel like I'm only one making an effort. And she almost always brings up all these grudges she has against me from 15 years ago, but if I try to explain how I feel, she just gets mad. I keep wishing we could just have a normal relationship (or at least one where I didn't end up in tears every time I talk with her) but I guess that's just not meant to be. Sometimes I think it gets harder as we approach motherhood - I know I'm afraid of making the same mistakes she did, but I think I'm a lot more self-aware so hopefully that won't happen. I am very grateful to at least have a wonderful MIL. One of my concerns is that my MIL and I might not agree on certain aspects of baby-raising, but DH is good about reminding me that she is not like my mom - we can have different opinions and it shouldn't be the end of the world. I hope he's right. I just don't have a good role model for that! LB, hope you get in for the test tomorrow! Thanks for the tip about snacks. It's amazing to me how bad hospital food is... all those pre-packaged foods and preservatives and stuff. But I suppose after the birth, I probably won't be as picky about organics and stuff - probably will just eat whatever comes my way! It seems early to be packing my bag, but I think that I probably will start putting some stuff together soon, just to be prepared.

Oh, I'm preparing the bag very soon. I feel like I dropped more today and have slight menstrual cramps off and on. I almost called the doc's office about lunch time but decided to wait it out. I think I had another BHicks. Val, I remember you sharing about your relationship with your mom, that's why I knew you'd understand where I was coming from. For the longest time I bought into things and blamed myself for not being the perfect daughter, etc.... until I had been through enough therapy to realize that it was not me at all that was the problem. DH always asks me why I try to talk to my family about personal stuff in the first place, and I say because that's what families do, and he has to remind me that there are plenty of families out there that don't share every nuance of their lives, because they just can't. Like, in our situations. Ok have to go check blood sugar.

hey all hope everyone is doing OK....sorry to hear about your car tracy and your talk with your mom....your pregnancy has been full of hill and bumps all through but as soon as you hold that little precious baby girl in your arms every struggle and bump will be almost forgotten........i have been feeling kinda bad lately and really tired i knew we had to go to the grocery store on tuesday afternoon so i laid around the house and was pretty much lazy so i would have the energy to go .....and i was beat after wards.....monday i cleaned house and i didnt think i could get DD in bed soon enough so i could lay down......yesterday DH and DS helped me re arrange the living room (they arranged while i supervised) and i was tired but not bad...and the living room looks good now made more room for the baby swing and such....it is getting closer now......had 3 braxton hicks contractions while sweeping yesterday and menstrual type cramping last nite for about 15-20 min not sure what that was all about.......gonna start getting my bag packed soon too Dr really stressed it at the last visit and to get car seat in the car ....i thought it was kinda soon still and he really stressed bringing several disposable cameras (he is real big on pics taken after baby arrives and if you dont bring him one to your 6 week appt ...his walls are lined with pics) (because of him insisting on pics being take i have the BEST one of me on C section table looking at my DD for the first time and she is holding my finger and looking at me and DOC leaned over curtain and said daddy take this pic it is a keeper.....i didnt even realize the pic was snapped and DH never told me until like a week or so after she was born i was cleaning out my bag and there was the camera and DH said we needed to get them developed and i was like yeah next week and he was like they have pics of DD in delivery room!!! i thought it was some we snapped of visitors and such so we rushed to walmart and paid the 8 bucks for 1 hr and i was so shocked at the pics i never knew was taken.....but doc suggests a disposable because anyone can pick it up and use it where if you have fancy digital camera somepeople may not know what to do to get you a good pic and in this situation you may ask a nurse or anyone to snap a pic for you ........just some ideas for you ......also in addition to the snacks pack some change for coke/coffee machines because sometimes the change machine is broken and in middle of nite no one is in gift shop to make change......any more suggestions that anyone has as far as what to pack or not pack post it to help us all out..........later guys love yall hugss to alllllllllllll...............

Punkin, it's funny because my mom called me yesterday and was as sweet as can be. I swear she is like Jeckyl and Hyde. Talk about this pregnancy and hills and bumps......yesterday evening I started feeling achy, and by 10:30 I was aching all over, stiff, had fever and chills, and had a contraction. I freaked out and called the doctor because it all seemed so sudden and I have just started the pill Glyburide for the GDiabetes. Anyway, he said it just sounds like a virus, and I was like, "great! just what I need right now." I then started sweating and was so hot while DH was freezing. I slept for about 20 minutes at a time, so was up pretty much all night. I can't tell you the last time I got a good night's sleep. Apparently that's not going to change anytime soon. My baby shower is tomorrow. Nothing has been bought off my registry at BabiesRUs except the swing, and I already received that from UPS from one of DH's parent's friends. So, I have no idea what to expect.

Hello all! Sorry to have been MIA again - I have been busy as usual and that, in turn, has made me VERY tired, and then yesterday, when I really could have done with the chat, I was having pretty bad pains in my right side which were hitting both my back, abdomen, groin and thigh. Horrible! I almost thought I should go to the hospital but thankfully the pain has gone away now so I think it may have been a weird sort of indigestion or trapped wind thing. Thank goodness it's over though - what a trial yesterday was and it was exhausting too!! In other news, I went to have my "Introductory appointment" at the local hospital and, of course, the Bean was quiet (as is usual in the morning for me) so they got hold of my belly and jiggled it about really quite roughly - very odd feeling! They were also concerned (yet again!!) about my GD results from earlier this year and recommended that I do the test again. Well, of course, that got me worried so I got straight on the phone and booked the test for the next day (Thursday just gone) and thankfully all is well - my fasting reading was 85, after an hour it was 157 and after 2 hours 139 (they only do a 2 hour test here for some reason) so they said all of them were fine. What a relief! I suppose one good thing about it is that they've written it all in their notes and so will check the Bean and me for any diabetic related things when s/he arrives. I have my acupuncture appointment on Monday which supposedly helps with relaxation, can encourage labour and can reduce the whole experience by an average of 2 hours so I'm hoping that'll be the case for me. Bean's head is not yet engaged though (I'll find out more on Wednesday next when I see my Ob/Gyn) so I don't really want to go into labour until that has happened naturally. DH and I also went on a tour of the maternity ward on Wednesday. Such a welcoming place - very warmly decorated/organised, lots of low lighting and plenty of "labour aids" to hand and only 2 women in each ward once you're out of "observation". Hopefully it won't be too busy on the day I go in so my DH can also stay (for a small fee) in the room with me instead of another mother for a few days and nights. The funniest thing of the tour was that while we were waiting for it to start we could hear a labouring mother wailing down the corridor. We were all a bit nervous about this (all first timers!) and so that put us on edge as you can imagine! However, after the tour was over a few of us stayed behind to ask the midwife some questions and as we were talking the baby arrived and we heard its first cries. Wonderful - I'm so glad we were there to hear it and now I don't feel nearly as nervous!! Great stuff!!!!!! Oh yes - and lastly - the parcels arrived from my sister-in-law. THREE OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!! Incredible - she had gone to a second-hand store and bought the contents I think!! LOL!!!! So many useful things which we hadn't got so nothing has doubled up which is amazing. So yet again I'm doing washing today to get it all ready for the Bean. Anyway, that's all from me. *********** Tracy - I do hope you're feeling better today. What an awful time you seem to be having. I really wish I could take away some of the aches, pains, trials and tribulations. I'm so glad your mother returned to her Jekyll state but you could really do with her staying like that couldn't you?! Also, I hope you're not too shaken up by the car accident. What happened? How horrible. Well today is your baby shower and I'm sure that will be a welcome distraction from all your traumas. Have a great day and let us know how it all went as soon as you can!! BUT rest rest REST afterwards because you'll need it. If you're anything like I was after my shower, I don't think you'll have any trouble!! Val - I've also had those 4am wake up calls where I couldn't put my mind at rest. The last time it happened I went for a quick walk around the apartment and then put on a relaxation CD which put me right back to sleep. You could use one of those hypnobirthing CDs and I'm sure it would help. Lovedblessings - how are you doing? I wonder if you've gone into labour as it's been a few days since you've posted (mind you it's been a few days for me too and I'm still very much "here"!! LOL!!) I know what you mean about the stairs thing. Me too - they're exhausting aren't they? However, I try to use stairs before elevators (and feet before car) so that I feel like I'm doing something exercise-wise. I haven't been swimming in ages but I just don't feel comfortable enough to go. (Baths are soooooooooo much easier!!!) Anyway, re. snacks in my bag - yes........I've put in a few boxes of muesli bars and will make sure some bananas get packed on the day along with some watered-down juice frozen into icecubes in a flask. I think the hospital are pretty good though and have a buffet available at breakfast and supper time so maybe they'll have some "leftovers" at odd times of the day. Punkin - glad to hear your nesting instincts are in full force!! DH came home the other day with a gorgeous restored chest (originally for linens etc) so we used it to store all the stuff in the living area which we don't use and then pushed it to the side of the room and are using it as a coffee table. Perfect! DH says that any time we need to tidy now we just have to go out and buy a box!! It looks lovely though and the space is so much more organised as a result. A wonderful surprise! Can't think of anything else that we should or shouldn't pack in the suitcase - Mine is just full of pyjamas (I just tie-dyed two pairs and they came out fabulously!!) and the usual. However, I've also included a lip-moisturiser (very good when you're breathing so much!!), some labour tea, a heat pad, some ma__sage oil and lavender essential oil and some music. Hope they give some warmth and relaxation! ********* Anyway, I must go - the washing is calling!! (and lunch too!) Hope the rest of you are well. Can't wait to hear more news from you all and I'll try my hardest to write a bit more frequently now that I'm running out of chores (and energy to do them!! LOL!!) so I've a bit more time on my hands!! Big Hugs to everyone. TTYL XOXOXOXOXOXO

Hopeful, glad to hear you are well and enjoyed your tour of the maternity ward. I would have freaked out if I heard that woman giving birth! I would have contacted my doctor immediately and told him to schedule me for a c-section! Sounds like you stay busy, busy, busy. I actually try to also, because bed rest just isn't happening. I don't seem to get much accomplished, but I am always on my feet!!! Physically resting is just impossible. I just hope the next time I get PG that I don't get RLS because I swear I will lose my mind. For the first time since starting to check my blood sugar, my fasting level this morning was 84!!! That's awesome. Yep, my shower is today. I'm nervous.....nobody has gotten me anything from my registry, which means I am going to be in BabiesRUs tomorrow buying everything that is truly essential. I was just hoping that since I am supposed to be on bed rest that people would save me the trip, but I guess that's not meant to be. I can be on my feet for bits at a time, then I have to sit (which is usually when I post). I can't walk long distances either. Shopping trips need to be short and sweet. Well, whatever caused my aching, chills and fever the other night has pa__sed. I thought i was going to be down for a few days, but nope, it was some kind of 24 hour thing. Strange!!! It came on quickly and left quickly. Anyone ever experience anything like that before???

Seems like I contradicted myself when I said I am always on my feet, then said have to do things in bits......put it this way.....I sit, I get up and do more stuff, then I sit, then I get up, etc..... I don't sit for long, but I am never laying down and just taking it easy. The longest I am down for is when A Baby Story is on!!!

Good morning Ladies, Well It's my due date today and still no baby.. AHHHHH!!!! My body is so tired at this point, I feel like I'm ready to explode. My doctor was going to induce me last week however he through his back out.. poor guy! He has been off for just about a week now. The doctor set up a stress test for the baby at the hospital which went very well since he kicked at the monitors the whole time. He mangaged to get all his required movements in the first 5 minutes. I did have to stay hooked up for the whole 20 minutes of testing though. My next appointment is Monday at 9:00am, I hope my doctor is feeling better so we can get this show on the road. My son just woke up, i will catch up very soon...if i'm not giving birth..THAT WOULD BE SO GREAT! Take care

Lovedblessings - wow!!!!!!!! I can't believe it's your due date today - especially after all that stress about the baby coming early! I'm sure it's not going to be long now. Tell me - what did you mean by "required movements" - sounds a bit daunting to me. Do our beans have to jump a certain amount of times during tests? I've never heard of this or is it something to do with being overdue and checking that baby is not distressed? Do let me know. Well, like I said earlier, the pains I had yesterday have disappeared but I do have the same sensation that I have before my period starts (lower back pain and a sort of slight ache in my lower abdomen). Anyone think that could be signs of labour coming anytime soon? Tracy - GREAT NEWS on your fasting levels and that you're feeling better all round. Perhaps a tiny mouthful of cake today won't hurt (for "quality control of your shower food" purposes only!! LOL!!)? Oh yes - and I forgot to tell you about another thing I've packed - our VERY LONG list of potential baby names. I know most of you know what you're going to call your little ones but we decided to wait until we see him/her and then choose. I'm hoping s/he will come out immediately looking like one of our favourite choices but I've packed our list of "possible" names aswell because I know I won't remember them all in all the excitement. Anyway, must go - stuff to do as usual. Big Hugs!!

Yeah, I'm curious about the movement/stress thing too. I like your idea of packing a list of names and seeing which one is more befitting. In Finland, where my mom is from, they don't name the baby for about three months I think, then they have a name day. In the meantime, they call their baby by a nickname. My cousin's daughter Veera was first Baby Venus. I know that may sound silly to some people, but it's actually just the way they see which name is more befitting of the baby as they get to know him/her. Oh, and you can bet I am going to have some cake and stuff today. I will try not to go overboard, but I'm sure a little bit won't hurt, right? Can I tell you I have the nastiest stretch marks on one of my hips? They are subtle on the right hip, but all over my left hip. I want my body back!!!!

HI Ladies, The test requires to have six movements in 20 minutes where the babies heart rate is elevated and then goes down with each movement. This is the same monitor that you are hooked up to when you are in labour to trace contractions and the babies heartbeat. This test can be performed once the baby is big enough for the monitors to pick up the heartbeat. At 25 weeks when I went into labour the nurses had a hard time tracing his heartbeat. Every time the monitor found his heartbeat he would hide in a new location. We are also waiting to name our boy until he is born. although with our last son he was born with gobs of what looked like Vaseline in his eyes. Your not allowed to wipe this away,. within a few hours it dissolves on its on. Not sure what we would of named him at the time. Not such a pretty site! Hopeful I have been having the same cramps for a few weeks now. It's a great sign that your body is preparing for birth. My son seems to have a lot of hiccups, with his head being engaged it certainly feels strange. Even his movements are much different. This is the first time I have gone full term so it is a new experience for me also. He just feels so big, I fear I'm having a ten pound baby.. OUCH!!!! It is interesting to see his elbow and feet poke out. My body feels like it's been invaded at this point. Tracy, I hope you have a great time at your shower. Have some treats for me, my heartburn is so bad eating is not something I am enjoying. Although I do like chocolate again.. Try not to worry about your stretch marks they will fade. There are some great creams out there, they also work great for face cream. Val, Hospital food is really bad, pick a snack that you love. Soon enough you will be back to counting calories as you try to get the baby weight off. I look at it as the last cheat before I follow the b___stfeeding diet. My bag has a huge bag of yogurt covered peanuts which I just love! Plus some other fun snacks!

hey all!!!! how is everyone today??? tracy hope your shower was great.....you know how i was just telling you that i was following a regular diet and my BS reading was OK then for the last week they had went up some so i started watching what i was eating closer and it came down some but not to the levels my doc wanted so when i went back yesterday to have my blood pressure checked it was kinda high but not enough to make him worry but he was more concerned with my blood sugars (fasting am average 120) not responding to diet and walking so i am now on pills to regulate it and i have to do a 24 hr urinemonday tuesday and at 32 weeks i will start having to have a NST every week .....i always enjoyed them with DD because you get to hear the heart beat and all for 20 + minutes until they meet the requirements that the doc wants to see ..........and i still havent got to take my meds yet i got the perscription yesterday after 5pm when i was seen at the doc office and MIL wanted to take us out to eat and DH wanted to go over there afterwards and i reminded him about my meds needing to be filled he was like OK we will leave in a few but momma wants to see DD and since she has been so nice and bought so much lately we need to go over there for a while( grrrrrr yall that keep up good know me and HER dont get along at all so going over there for 5 min is way too long and its like since DH and her have made up so to speak he wants to go down there all the time and it is driving me nuts......) but anyway i start checking my cell px for the time at 7:30 and my pharmacy closes at 9 so you would think me looking at the cell px 3-4 times would be hint enough but no he kept sitting there until 8:45 then he said we need to go and i was like never mind now (she lives about 25-30 min away) they will be closed by the time we get there....and DH was like why didnt you remind me and i was like hello honey i pulled out my cell px 3-4 times to look at the time when the VCR in the living room had the current time and a wall clock had it too why do i have to remind you your not 3 yrs old and have to be told things that need to be done......like do i need to remind you to breathe??? and he was like no...then needless to say we drove home in silence because i know how he is about his mom he may get mad as hell at her but when they make up she does no wrong and me saying something about leaving would have been me not wanting to be around his family.......not i needed meds so i just sat there and said nothing so this am he got up and took it to the pharmacy and they said they were so behind it would be after lunch before it was ready and i had to be at work early so i didnt get it yet ....he called a few minutes ago and he picked it up already for me .......so i guess i will start it when i get home YIPPIE!!! (that was with a sarcastic tone) loved ....i know you are excited about making it to the due date....hope everything goes OK for you .......thought of another thing that might be easily overlooked when packing is phone numbers to call friends and family after baby is born.....Dh had a long list of people that wanted to be called and we kept taking it out of the bag to write down another name and #.......well i will check in later guys take care.........

i just have to vent ....sorry to come on here to do it but it seems like since having DD and getting pregoo this time i have "lost" all of my friends were all at different stages now in our lives......once DH and i met and all it was great so its not him we would hang out and do couple things but now since i had DD one couple dont want to be around us much because her hubby wants another baby SOOOOOOOO bad now and he is always on her as to why she had her tubes tied when she had their son that is now 13 ....she is happy and dont want more but he does and he has cheated before and she thinks he may try to find someone who can give him a child .......another couple divorced and the male isnt allowed to talk to any of his old friends and the female has hit a drunk spree and wants to turn each and every visit into a reason to drink and hubby and i dont drink ......maybe a gla__s of whatever new years eve but thats all so we dont want to hang out with a drunk and dont want our kids around it and the last couple cant have kids (she had emergency hysterctomy before they met) and they both want one so bad it think it just hurts them to be around us ....we still talk on the phone to them but not like we once did and he gets mad because Dh dont want to go to events like car races and concerts because he has a family and all....like the year i was preggo with DD the oct nascar race was comin up and i was due nov 14 but as yall know it can be earlier and he didnt want to go get tied up in that traffic and me call and say its time and then like nov 8 or so there was a concert over 100 miles away and he wanted DH to go and he was like no way my baby girl may be born soon and i cant go sorry man and when she was born nov 5 he was like now you can go ....Dh was like HELL NO i am staying home with my family.........so now he is p__sed at DH because he wont take off work to go gamble in Mississipi and DH is saving as much time as possible to have at home when DS is born and to help me with DD so they are mad at him and me and he told his wife that "I" took his frined away from him...so childish..........and now MIL vent she took us out to eat last night and she knew i just had left the Dr office she never once asked ME how it was ...was i ok was baby ok nothing ans she wouldnt even sit next to me it was 6 of us the 3 guys sat on one side of the table and me and her sat on the other with chair between us (me and hubby sat on the end and put DD at the end so we both could tend to her) so they come over to the house earlier (they always come over when i am not at home DH says its not true but it is only one time in past 4 months have i been home and that was because i worked 1st and not my regular 2nd shift) and Dh IM's me and says momma wants to know how you feel and how your appt went yesterday and blah balh blah ....so IM him back and said so why didnt she ask yesterday she sat one chair down from me and never said 2 words to me the whole time but she comes over and i am not there so she wants to make out to be the concerned MIL to my hubby so she asked how i am whoopie freekin do!!!!! she could have asked last night that would have meant more to me ........anyway i just needed to vent sorry to take up space on your post but i just need a friend close by to call and gripe to sometimes and DH tries to listen about my "friend" situation but he is like f'm who cares and part of me feels the same but still after being home with DD all day it would be nice to have a female "friend to sit and chat with .....and especially the MIL vent time would be great cuz i cant do that to DH ........thanks for reading and i love yall and wish we could get together for a nice long chat with our babies so we could see all of our beatiful creations..............later guys

Punkin, is the pill you have to take called Glyburide? Don' t worry about venting here. I don't have a lot of friends right now either since I can't work, so you all catch the brunt of my anger, etc.... Well, apparently in Finland, they don't have baby showers either, because my mom showed up to mine yesterday with gifts from her friends, but nothing from herself.....not even a card. I thought that was just rude. Your own mother not making an effort to get her grand baby anything, but showing up to eat the food???? Sometimes I just don't get that woman. I was very disappointed. I don't even feel like talking to her right now. I got shafted at Christmas, shafted for my birthday, and now shafted for the shower. I think she's being pa__sive aggressive. I can't get into all the details of why, we'd be here for days, but I really believe that's what it is. My sisters are never forgotten, but seems like I am a lot lately. I have a shower for a friend to go to today. I am excited to go because I think it will be fun, but when I see what normal mothers are like, it makes me a little emotional. I know her whole family is in town. I'm glad someone has a good, nuclear family. At least my sisters called me last night and wished me a happy baby shower day over the phone. DH's side of the family has spoiled this baby so far, and my side, well.....not so much! Doesn't seem like my family recognizes the struggle we went through to get here, nor the importance of what this means to us. His family gets the picture.