Just Found Out I M Pregnant
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So for the past couple weeks I've been anxious because I haven't started my period and then I was just having that feeling that I'm pregnant. Three main signs: sore br___ts, some cramping, and orange juice almost made me sick. I took a test the other night; positive. I took another the next morning; positive. Then I went to a free clinic, and they said the same thing. I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend doe three years, we have even talked about getting married in the future, but I don't know what to do. Boyfriend doesn't want the baby right now, I agree in part that we aren't ready emotionally or financially (and I'm not against abortion) but it's a big decision. My mom is Christian; enough said. I just don't know what to do.
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I've had a few close calls myself but thankfully I didn't turn out pregnant. Anyways, I've had to think that same decision over myself. I am in the exact same situation you are, except I'm not (I hope) pregnant.
Basically what it came down to: I couldn't kill it. I am pro-choice completely, but I know I could never forgive myself if I let them harm her. Your baby was created out of love, something like that can't be all that bad. To add to that, you'll be making your mother happy - and you defiantly need all the support you can get right now.
Now you'll have time to explore your options and look into seeing if you can somehow manage to care for your child. There is government support out there if you really need it.
What it comes down to is, do you think you will make a good mother for that child? Do you think you will be able to raise it right and provide for all of her needs?
If you can, great and I wish you the best. If you can't, please do the right thing and put it up for adoption. There are many couples out there waiting for their own babies.
Personally, I would try to find a couple that would let you be involved in the baby's life if that's possible. That's what would hurt me the most, not being there for her. You want your daughter to know that she is very loved and that you made the loving choice to give her up and that you do care for her.
My.. well that was more than two cents. I've had a lot of time to think it through.
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Brittney, in the long run you will want to be able to look back on your life and tell yourself that you have done well for your progeny. Will this pregnancy be on the plus or minus side of the ledger? There are pro-choice Christians, even if your mom is not there. Adoption seems like a win-win-win proposition, but very few women can bring themselves to handle that. You have a tough decision to make. I wish you well.
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