20 And Pregnant Boyfriend Just Walked Out
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 | T. - July 22 |
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I am 20 years old and this is my frist child, I never thought that this would happen to me. Having a baby and my babys father walking out on me. I am 6 months pregnant now. But when I was 4 months my 25 year old boyfriend walked out and told me that he did not want me or the baby in his life. I cry a lot because I really loved him, I thought that he would be there for me and your son because he is older then me. I don't know what to do about all of this. And how am I going to tell my son that his dad dose want us or love us anymore. How do you tell a little person that. I feal all alone and sceard of what is going to happen.
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 | Zz - July 23 |
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Hi T. I was 19 when I got pregnate with my daughter. I stayed with her father until she was 6 weeks old and I couldn't take it any more. I ended up leaving. It was really hard. I moved to another state where I had family thinking that they would be a big help. They wern't as much help as I though they would be. I lived in a very very small town (of about 2000) and finding a job was nearly impossable. I got on welfare and my daughter and l lived on $372.00 a month. But there are all kinds of programs out there to help you and if you NEED them I strongly suggest you find them. You should always be as self sufficient as you can but get as much help as you need. You can get energy a__sistance, food stamps, and help with day care. If you want to go to college they usually have lots of programs and grants to help you with that also. I wont lie and tell you it is easy, but it is do-able. Thousands of people do it every day. Just get out there and find the resources. You can start to get a__sistance now. Go to WIC. Get on a wating list for a day care program. Go to your local welfare office and ask for resources, look under "social services" in the yellow pages, and also a human resource center. As far as telling you son that daddy dosen't love him don't you dare tell him that. He may have his head stuck up his hind side right now, but just maybe someday he will want to be a part of his childs life. You certanly don't want your child harboring bad thoughs about his dad. That can also cause him to later on have similar thoughs about himself. "If my dad is a bad guy and I came from him, that must make me bad too." or something along those lines. Maybe seeing a theripist will help you sort out some of these emotions and feelings and help you to decide how to handle this situation down the line with your son. I know you feel alone. I did too. It's not a great situation to be in. And even though it may feel like the end of the world sometimes it's not. It's jsut the begiging and every will find a way to work it's way out. If you'd like to talk more you are welcome to e-mail me at zzfemale@hotmail.com. Good luck. hope to hear from you.
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You're definitely not alone. It happened to me too. I'm 23 and my 27 year old boyfriend walked out on me when I was 4 months pregnant. Some guys are just idiots. That's just the way it is. We deserve better. Don't worry about what to tell your son until it becomes time. You have many many years before your son will need to know what happened, and in that time you just might find a great guy who will love you and love your son as his own. Or the father may get his head out of his arse and come back. I wouldn't take him back if I were you, but would allow him in your son's life. I had my baby a week ago, and let me tell you... all the c___p you go through when you're single and pregnant is worth it. I love my daughter more than anything and feel sorry for her father because he's missed so much already. He's still around, sort of. He visited her once this week (better than nothing I guess) but I'm just glad that I'm not with him and don't have to deal with his BS anymore, and there's now way in hell that I would ever take him back because of what he did to me. Trust me girl, you may love him, but you're MUCH better off without him.
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i am 18 and my little girl is now jus about a year. her father left me when i was 5 months pregnant bcuz we found out she is terminally ill. i have raised this little girl on my own, wiht all i have and can honestly say i think we are better of with out him . he now wishes he could change what he did but i ahve moved on and no longer wish to be with him. i had just turned 17 when i found out i was preg. i know that if i was able to care for my disabled angel, u will be a wonderful mommy. i know its hard to think about raising a baby alone and the fears that come along with that as to when ur angel gets older and u need to start the tlaks abotu wheres daddy and stuff but it all falls into place. if u need to talk feel free to email me at dymondcolon@aol.com or IM me - mysweetkiss101
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