Another Woman Single And Pregnant
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I am new to this post and wanted to share my story and see if anyone has inspiring words of wisdom or similar storys to share with me. Ok, I moved 700 miles away from my family to be with my boyfriend. One month later, I found out I was pregnant. It has now been over three months living this far away (im 15 wks) and I am so stressed out. My boyfriend broke my car (our only means of transportation) he will not get it fixed, took my money, and leaves for work for 12 hours a day. Sometimes he doesnt even come home. I planned on moving back home because I have no medical insurance, and no friends or family here. But he is purposely keeping my car away from me. Every time I ask about it, he has an excuse. I sit in a house by myself everyday, and my only means of communication is with my friends at home over the phone. I cannnot go home until he fixes my car. Sometimes, he leaves me here for a day without food even! He is heartless and I regret moving here. I just want to go home. Anyways, I am getting seriously depressed being in a house everyday all day (at home i was always out and about) any advice on how to keep myself sane until I can find a way home? I just keep telling myself, this baby needs me to be strong, so I try my best to eat well, and keep an uplifting mood, but its hard.
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hey, hun. i'm sorry about your situation. yes i know how awful it is to sit at home all of the time. it is very depressing and can drive ya nuts. it does me at least. if my youngen aint here to keep me company, sometimes i just sleep b/c i dont have anything else to do and it pa__ses the time. i really dont have any advice, i'm sorry. but it does seem like you NEED to get away from your boy friend. especially if he is leaving you with no food. the way you described how he acts is scary, like he is keepin you prisoner. is there any way someone in your family could come and get you, or pay for you a plane/bus ticket? i'm glad to hear that you know your baby needs you to be strong. good luck sweetie.
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Jill, any way that your Mom & Dad, or a friend, will let you put your car repairs on a credit card of theirs so that you can get your car fixed ASAP, and then begin paying it off when you arrive home? Waiting around on him will get you nowhere. You need to be back with your family and friends in your hometown.
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The bus? Hitchhiking? Honestly, you should get yourself out of there ASAP. Leave some of your things behind if you have to take the bus -- stuff can be replaced. I think you can buy bus tickets on line with a credit card. If you don't have your own credit card, maybe someone back home can buy you the ticket, and you can pay them back later.
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Take a bus or train. If you don't have the money ask your parents or friends back home to wire you the money and tell them your situation...they will be happy to help you out. Good Luck to you.
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One thing I forgot to metion-I have no credit card and the reason I cant take a plane, train, or bus is because my dog is here with me. Other dog lovers will understand-hes like my kid. If i leave him here, this guy will leave him for days without food or water...I just cant do that to him. Any other ideas?
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ok then, this just shows you're not thinking logically. If not for your dog, would you find another reason not to leave?
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If you don't have a credit card and buses or planes are not an option will a friend or parent not loan you the money to repair your car? Then you AND DOG and soon to be baby could come home.
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i dont see how her NOT wanting to leave her dog, who is like her kid, is not thinking logically.
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Because, in life you have to make decisions between humans and animals. As much of an animal lover as I am, if faced with a no medical insurance, a baby on the way and an unsupportive boyfriend who was leaving me alone without food for days, I would sadly have to choose myself and unborn child over the animal (and d__n, i LOVE animals.) P.S. i would make arrangements with a pet rescuer before leaving it to live with the boyfriend
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If that's the case then call your family and ask them to come get you, your unborn child and your dog. If they love you they will.
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See if you can't get a bus ticket to go home. The way this guy is controlling you sounds like trouble. When they are like that they usually don't get better they usually get worse. Once you get home maybe your parents can help you come back and get your car. If you don't owe anything on the car. It might be better just to make a clean break and let him keep it. good luck!!
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You want to leave but the only thing stopping you is a car. Sorry but you have to let the car thing go, he is obviously too self centered and is using this to manipulate you. If you really want to leave, you need to take your car somewhere where he had no access to it. Maybe just store it somewhere, till he pays it, or you end up paying for it. Then you can hire someone to drive it down for you, or get it shipped later. Don't leave your car with him, so he can black mail you later if you break up. But get out of there and go home where you feel happy. Good luck with your baby though you sound like a very strong and smart girl.
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You can also fly pets, I don't know how much it is it might be expensive. I guess you could fly your dog and you can take the bus to save money.
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