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I guess anything is possible.... but I've never heard of it. Have you asked your doctor? It sounds like it is most likely your boyfriend's baby, but only a paternity test will tell. Why did he leave you? Is he going to take responsibility for the child?

Well he just left me less than a week ago(had me leave...I was living with him and his children). He just said he doesn't have "the feelings" and he didn't tell me sooner because he was afraid of hurting me and of hurting his kids. I thought everything was fine for a long time...he told me he loved me and we were affectionate. I begged him to keep our family together but he says it's not fair for either of us to go on and pretend that he's happy. So now I'm 27 and forced to live with my mother. I feel so completely lost. I have good and bad days. He claims he will be there for our son, though. Atleast I have that. He hasn't called as of yet to check on me and see how I'm feeling....etc. with the pregnancy, though, and I'm having some complications. I guess only time will tell.

I'm so sorry to hear your situation. There are a lot of us out there in very similar predicaments. Good luck.... try to relax. Everything will work out!

Thankyou very much...I'm trying to stay strong! What's your story if you don't mind my asking.

Under Single & Pregnanat, go read "30, Single & Pregnant with my First! " You can see all the details.

Wow! I'm so glad that you're att_tude about this is so positive! I feel alone but I'm managing. Having my mother helps. I don't know how I'd be if I was alone all day every day. Too much time to dwell. We just need to keep our chins up. Another added stress factor for me, though, is our baby has an increased risk for Down's Syndrome. I had an amnio done a few days ago and I'm still waiting for the results. I'm wondering if my son does have DS if I should expect more from my ex. He can't expect me to go through that alone. I'm hopeful but that would just open up a whole new set of issues and problems. I don't understand men's logic. AT ALL!!!

May I ask, why is there more of a risk for DS?

I had a triple screen blood test done at 15 weeks. The doc called and said that a woman my age normally has a 1 in 900 chance of having a baby with DS....the results of my bloodwork took my risk from 1 in 900 to 1 in 70. I had a level 2 ultrasound and they told me that my baby's femur bones were measuring short which can also be a sign of DS. They asked me if I wanted the amnio and at the time I said no for several different reasons. After thinking long and hard about it I decided to get it done. I would rather know. I'm a worrier by nature. So I did and I'm still waiting. It takes 10 to 14 days for results. Today is day 7. It's very scary.

Hey Hayley, I read your story, I'm 27 too and my TSB showed my daughter had an increased risk of Trisomy 18, Edwards Syndrome, everything turned out ok, my church prayed and I have a very good friend who prayed and cried with me. I don't know if my daughter was healed in the womb, or if she never had it, but she is an absolute joy and blessing. I am praying for you, God has a reason for all things. I went through my ultrasound and amnio with just the baby and me, we have a bond that I never had with my older two, I can't explain it. Just know that it will be okay, things have a way of working out.