Is It True -pg117440923363
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I'm pregnant but I broke up with the father. His mom said the baby has to have his last name because they have rights and the mother always names the baby with the fathers last name. I DO NOT want the baby to have his last name..I don't even trust him with my baby, we got in a fight one day and he tried to punch my stomach. He also has ADD and I can not trust him to take my baby with him anywhere. Do I have to put his last name and can he take my baby outside of my house? By the way I live in Ca.
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One thing I want to say is just because you have ADD doesnt mean your going to be a bad or less compatent parent and I find that very insulting. you dont have to give your baby the fathers last name you can always put father unknown.
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Yeah, I know about the ADD, but he forgets everything and is very immature and only 16.
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No you don't have to give the baby his last name and if you two are not married and unless he fights for his rights as a father and establishes paternity he has no rights to the baby. My uncle is going through the paternity test thing right now trying to be able to see his child.
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I live in cal and I have talk to a lawyer extentivly about the FOB...first off you can name the baby whatever you want in CA...and since your not married, for him to even be put on the birth certificate he would have to be there....second he has to file for a parternaty test to even have rights to see his child...after that you will have to go through courts the best you can hope for is supervised vist for the first 6 months to 1 year of your child life. And if you b___stfeed, he can not take the baby for more than four hours. So the best advice is to not do anything and let them do all the work because honestly they have to. It kind of sucks for them but I think my ex deserves it.
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nOT TO BE RUDE BUT MOST LIKELY IF HE IS ONLY 16 HE WONT BE THE ONE YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT. iT SOUNDS LIKE THE MOTHER IS THE ONE WHO WILL TRY TO MAKE YOUR LIFE HELL. As for last name, give the baby yours, he he can not make you use his. Also i have been through this and if the grandma gives you a hard time, quietly remind her that she has NO rights. There is a thing where grandparents can go to vourt to see the child but the most they would ever get is maybe 2 hours a month.
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I feel so much better now thanks. I can finally relax now, I am going to b___stfeed. About the ADD thing sorry if I insulted anyone its just he has it bad and he's constantly drooling and being obsessive and always crying and when he gets mad he gets crazy which is also why i don't want him taking the baby. But his mom spoils him so much saying she has the rights and all that. But I feel much better.
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Yep, everything everyone said is true...and besides you don't even have to tell him when you are in the delivery room, which would make it easier for you to not have him on the birth certificate...if he is there and he signs the birth certificate he has every right to fight for the baby and would make it harder on you.
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but also know that just because he is on the birth certificate...he doesn't automaticlly get rights to see the baby...my male cousin who is also a dead beat dad...was there for his daughters birth and signed the birth certificate and then demanded to see the baby when ever and the mother of the baby looked into it and if You contest his rights they still have to do a DNA test and settle everything in court. The plus about having to go to courts is HE will have to pay you...if he doesn't have a job they will set up an IOU program and when he gets one they will garnish his wages.
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