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My ex and I split when I was 7 weeks pregnant. We were both really stressed about becoming parents and he decided that he wasnt ready to be a father right now. He moved to another state in Jan when I was 4 months preggo. We barely speak to each other, once in a while on yahoo i/m and his mother just phoned me yesterday to ask me to meet with her and to bring the baby. I have only met her on 2 occasions. 2 weeks before I gave birth, I sent her a letter telling her that my baby existed because he didnt tell her. I guess I am pretty nervous about meeting with her. She wants me to come by her house but I think we should meet in a public place. I was going to bring pictures with me to give to her. Do you think that is a good idea? Thanks!
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 | rl - October 4 |
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I think you would be wise to meet in public for the first time just to be safe and find out what her intentions might be as far as pictures go you could take some with you and see how it goes if you feel you want to give her some then do if not then don't just remember the ball is in your court and you make the rules who knows his mother could turn out to be a good thing in your childs life even if her son is not!! Hope it works out for you good luck!!
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Of course its a good idea. She is the childs family. I dont understand what the big deal about the meeting place is...its your choice. GL
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Thanks everyone. Well Emma its a big deal to me because she is pretty much a stranger. I just want to make sure that myself and my baby are in a safe environment. I'll let you girls know how it goes.
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rl & lonelytears - exactly! she is family but if I were in that situation, I would meet in a public place. Try a shopping area, or a place to go sit & eat. That way, if things get uncomfortable, you can always leave feeling OKAY...where as if you were at her house, and something uncomfortable happend, etc...and you wanted to get out of a certain situation...you might not because you wouldn't want to be rude :)
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You could also bring a family member of yours. I think pictures are a great idea, this is your babies grandma and she deserves pictures. If she didnt know you were even pregnant, you have to give her a chance to be a gradma regarless of the dad
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 | Lia - November 1 |
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So lonel yTears, what happened?
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My child met her grandparents and they were thrilled to spend time with her. They told me how thankful they were to meet her and want to raise her up as part of their family. They even gave me some money to buy her some things that she needs. I am going to do my best to try to include them and I hope for the best. I still havent spoken with her father. I think he resents me for having the baby, which worries me. Im not sure if I would trust him to have alone time with her because of his feelings.
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LonelyTears...good for you. That was a mature step letting your daughter's grandparents play a role in her life. It sounds like they will be a good support system for you and your daughter.
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