 | g - December 24 |
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Ok sorry to drag ya all down i just am hurting really bad rite now. My ex called last night saying he wants us back in his life an hour later he says i want our daughter and you to spend the night with me after work and to tell her. I did , he came and said nothing about going. When i brought it up he acted suprised and said he was drunk last night and doesn't remember it,rolled his eyes and grunted then come to the apartment. It was late and i wanna make sure no girl is gonna be there so i was not wanting to go, he told our daughter it was my fault. But you could tell he didnt really want us there, so could she. Then his phone rang and i know it was one of his girls. My daughter didn't want him to go so she started to act up then after he left she just cried. I asked her was she hurt and she said yes. I broke down and cried with her. It's like With all he's done/doing i am still hurt that he wants me only whens he's drunk and i'm wandering how in the he** i can even still be hurt by that? No one likes promises broken to them especilly a child. I don't know what to do for her. I just told her she needs to make up her own mind about him and no matter what i will not be mad and will love her. Uggh theres so much more going on and i cant say it and plus i complained enough. Thanks and sooo sorry so long.
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Your situation sounds similar to mine. Men can be such jerks. It hurts hoping that the father will come around, and he never does. If there is one thing for sure, he will always disappoint you. You want to believe his promises, but don't. He sounds like a real jerk to be pulling this stuff on you right before Christmas, try to stay away from him. As hard as it is, believe me I know, in the long run you will be so much happier with out him. I'm also trying to let go of my ex right now, and it is so hard. I just have to remind myself that this is all his loss, and hopefully in a year from now I won't even think twice about him, just his child support check!lol. G, nobody deserves to be treated like c___p especially when there is a child involved. Try not to let him have so much control over your emotions, as hard as it is, just try and let him go. There are better men out there, at least I hope so! haha. Take care, and good luck with your guy:)
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| g - December 24 |
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Thank you. I know its just so hard. It's like i know no relationship is perfect and even my sister is having trouble in her marraige but i am still jelous. I have been alone for the holidays for so long now. Makes it harder. He's supose to take her out today, we'll see. I wish you luck to. How do i let him go? I want to. I think it would be esier if i had another guy like his got his group of women. But it's like i cant seem to find a any guy that wants to be with me. Oh well rite? Have a Merry Christmas.
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| g - December 24 |
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Well we went to MCDONALDS and he was quit with me as usual. Didn't even want to look at me. He said how quit i was then i said he was to. He said it's "cuz you will b___h if i talk to you" I said you been quit the last few months and he said it again, then i said well one minute we are supose to be dating and the next you dont show up. He said again it's because i b___h to much. Well when u go from spending time together then he doesnt come around as much, only touches you once a week, is embaresed of u in public and you have a feeling he was cheating on you yeah i b___hed then. He moved in one ex for 2 weeks then the numbers (that was before that ex) then only wants it once a month, and never wants you around yeah sure sighn. Then he moves this women in. Keeps lieng about it and ITS ALL MY FAULT!!!! I went in the MCDONALDS bathroom and cried. Well sorry gotta go my girl needs me. just still crying and so hurt. ihe gets mad when he sees me cry and says oh god here we go again and leaves.
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| g - December 26 |
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I know. But it's hard to stay away when i have his daughter he has rights to see and i watch his other kids from a previouse relation ship. II want to get over him but i don't know how. His cell phone rang and it was one of his girls. I went inside and just cried. II agree to stay away from him but how??? Thank you for your advice.
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you are making exuses so you can keep to seeing him. Stop babysitting his other kids. No it's not selfish if doing it is hurting you by giving him a way into your life. He can still see his kid but he has to pick her up at your mother's house or you can drop her off at his mother's house. You don't have to do this forever, just long enough for you to get over this loser. You need to get away from this guy for a minute just so you start thinking straight. How are you gonna take care of your AND HIS OTHER KIDS if you are always off crying because you think/know he is screwing over you? Do you think the things they have been seeing are setting good examples?
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| g - December 29 |
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I am not making excuses to see him. Infact i don't want these hoes who drink, have orgies there with him and probably some do drugs around my kids or any kids. He has several women around the kids kissing them all i am sure in front of the. He lets them watch p___n type movies, always drinks, lets them do whatever they want and it gets SOOO much worse then that. By me protecting his kids and ours for as long as i can i will no matter. I know one day he will take ours but i am scared of that he knows i don't trust him. The law is the law and they said all that is going on his choice and ok. As long as he doesnt beat the kids he can do as he wishes. My daughter is well taken care of and very happy not to mention spoiled by my family. I usually except at MCDonalds cry at night when i close my eyes. Now he's making the moves on the other mother. Yeah it sucks but theres not much i can do. I am going to have to deal with him any way even if i took a break , isay at this point the sooner the better. My little girl does not want to go alone with him.Rite now he gives me opertunity to go. So if i have to kiss his bu** to be around my kids then oh yeah i wil. But he has made it clear he wants nothing more to do with me in that way which i broke up with him and never plan and sleeping with him again. I dont want my kids to see this but he has a different way of raising them and so called morals and i cant stop what he teaches them when i 'm not there. Even though he's kinda that way now infront of me. Well thanks anyway that is a good idea not to see him but i count my days a blessing when he doesnt come by.
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very best of luck to you....
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It breaks my heart that you're having to go through such a painful situation, but perhaps the New Year will bring you new hope. I know you're trying to do the right thing for your daughter and it's good that you don't bad mouth her father. My mother and father split when I was younger and he was just like your ex, but she didn't tell us any of that and let us figure him out on our own. Your daughter will appreciate you more in the long run because you're always there for her and know that you're not alone and let her know that she's not either. You'll ALWAYS have each other and the bond between a mother and daughter is unlike any other.
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| g - December 30 |
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Thank you. The only thing is when he promises for her to spend a night(of course i go) and says oh nevermind or doesn't bring it up, i just say "this is up to your father and his desicions and how he is" "make up your own mind, talk to him." But yeah by me telling her she would go straight for him and believe him so yeah its up to him to act this way infront of her and she will see. So last night he thought i was making the moves on him ,cuz it sounded as if he wanted the other mother of his kids so i flat out asked him. He's all "no '"you know if you want to spend the night you can." Than asked if i was in the mood! Yikes , it was hard to ignore it but i am so far! So i am glad your mother let you all make up your own mind and that you are happy for that! Good luck to you and i hope the New Years brings you your dreams!
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