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Don't let this loser get you down. You will be a wonderful mother and you don't need him. If he is going to refer to your child (a precious life you BOTH created) as "that" then do you really want him around your child. He obviously cannot be honest and faithful and that is the last kind of role model you probably want for you child. I know it is not easy (I am going through a similar situation) but it will work out in the long run. You will see eventually that this is probably the best thing that can happen to you. One day you will be with a wonderful man that will treat you with respect, care for your child (like it is his own), and be faithful (wanting you and ONLY you). I wish you the best of luck and also for your little one.

I understand and am so sorry you are going through this. It's going to be hard but keep concentrating on your little one. Men are such pigs. If we want to call them men! Watch,he will eventually treat this girl the same if not worse. Heck he already has lied to her to cuz he was with you. Std's are not worth taking the the chance with him. Trust me i know. You need to show your baby and you that you two are the most important people in this world and work on pampering yourself! It will be ok,i know always esier said then done. Good luck.

Believe it or not I know almost EXACTLY how you feel. Although I was only with my ex for 1 year instead of 3, we did live together and I was 22 and he was 27 at the time that I was pregnant. We kept living together until I was about 3 months pregnant and then we both moved out of our apartment. I moved in with my dad and he moved in with his parents. We continued to date for another month and then he decides he "can't be in a relationship and needs to focus on his business" 2-weeks-later he's dating a 19-year-old that he'd only known for about a month. They got ENGAGED 3 months after that (when I was 7 months pregnant). Talk about shock of a lifetime... mr. "can't be in a relationship" goes and gets engaged before our baby's even born! He spent my entire pregnancy avoiding me. It really hurt me while I was pregnant because I felt like he didn't care about me or the baby at all. I didn't understand how he could just throw us away like that... when I needed him more than ever. Honestly, I'm glad he did what he did though, because he made it sooooo easy for me to get over him... and I now know he was never the one for me anyway. Good ridence. Our daughter is now 6-months-old and he's only came to visit her once. (Although I've taken her to his parents house WHERE HE STILL LIVES! several times). I'm telling you all this because, it does get easier. Both of these guys are HUGE losers and we are sooooo much better off without them. Even if you're hurt now, you won't be in time. Actually I couldn't care less if I ever talk to my ex again... I have absolutely NO feelings left for him. I do feel bad that he doesn't have much to do with our daughter, but then again she doesn't have to be influenced by him.. which I see as a good thing. If he ever wants to come around I'm not going to stop him, but I'm sort of glad he's staying away for now. Your ex WILL have to help you financially whether he wants to or not IF you go to domestic relations for child support. He has NO choice. If he doesn't pay, he goes to jail.. and once he gets out of jail he STILL has to pay.. haha. There's no way around it. He helped make this baby now he gets to help support it. Anyway, just keep your head up. You really will get over this loser. I know I got over mine! The funniest thing is... the guy is now 28 years old, he lives with his parents, his fiance is super-possessive and cheating on him, his friends all disowned him, his business is failing, and the only thing he owns is his POS car and a laptop... which is sad because he has an engineering degree. God catches up with these guys.. I'm telling you. Just sit back and wait for the fireworks... your ex will get what's coming to him too.. they always do.

youngNpg I know exactly how you feel. You look after yourself and your little one. Get support from family members and friends if you can. Try to forget about your husband. He is not worth it. I am currently 34 weeks pregnant when I found out 2 weeks ago my husband is in a loving relationship with another woman overseas. They have been childhood friends for a long time but their feelings for each other developed 5 years ago. I asked him to choose and he said he can't decide because he loves both of us equally. However, he is not that intimate to me anymore. I bet he is much more intimate with her as I have seen a picture of him and her together smiling happily whilst taking the photo. My husband tells me he still loves me. He cried when I said we should divorce. Although he cheated on me, he has never abuse me. He has always been really nice to me so much so I never suspect a thing until I found a letter with her number and connect the mobile phone number to the phone bill I receive each month. Yeah, I still love my husband. At the moment, we are having a trial seperation and remain friends. I don't know what couse of action to take but I know for the sake of my baby, I have to be strong and think about her health and safety first. So the end of my story is that I'll continue to be friendly to my husband, he still wants to see our child. In the meantime, I have asked him to go overseas where the other woman is and to sort out his feelings. Hopefully by then, I am ready to move on.

Oh nice! He wants to play daddy to someone else's kid?? That's very responsible of him (please add sarcasm). Perhaps he's playing house with her to see how the shoe fits? (haha, just kidding.) He's going to have to pay financially if you file for child support, so don't worry about that! Just move on... You don't want him around anyway.

So he has all these bad qualities, doesn't give a flying c___p about you or his baby, takes care of another woman and HER baby.....what is it that you still love about this man???

RE: He was the first "man" that I ever loved and it's hard to get over those feelings and I will always love him because he is the father of my child regardless of his many negative qualities. I don't LIKE him though or have respect for him.

I thought the same thing, "I will always love the father of my child..blah..blah..blah..." Then I actually had my baby! Try waking up every 2 hours to feed a baby for the next three months. Then tell me if you want to "love" your man anymore when he isn't around to help you. Being a single mother is much harder than it seems.Things will change once you have the baby. I'd be interested to know if you will "love" him after you have the baby and the father isn't around, but still playing daddy to someone elses child. Love is overrated!

I'm sure you are right. I'm looking forward to having my baby and getting a new start so to speak. Maybe I'm just jealous/angry that he is moving on with his life and I'm moping around like a lost puppy. Nobody I've met wants to date a pregnant woman and it likes I'm so needy for affection sometimes. Each day gets a little bit easier but what I'd really love is to slap him hard across the face...if he happens to make it to the birth. Either way I'm filing for child support. So he can pay or go to jail.

OK, so you love him despite his negative qualities, but once the baby comes your priorities should straighten themselves right out. To hell with him, get his child support and be done with it. You are strong if you want to be. If in the past you could not be strong for you, then be strong for your child he or she deserves better and you being all ga-ga over this loser will only set a bad example for your child as to what a healthy relationship is. First loves are hard to get over, but not impossible. Personally, I could NEVER love someone i didn't respect. And if he's taking care of another woman and her child, well that is a slap in the face that I would never tolerate in any way (unless he was supporting my child even MORE). Men can be DOGS, but when you find the right one, it is wonderful and you wont have to worry about this kind of drama naymore.