Pregnant And Scared Unsure On What To Do
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I'm 24 years old and a college student. Just found out I'm three months pregnant. I was really excited about when I found out but a few days later I was no longer as thrilled only because my fiancé told me he had been cheating on me for the past four months and the other woman is pregnant. We are no longer engaged and now I'm pregnant. I am now pregnant and single with barely any money to support myself. I've been supporting myself since I graduated from high school and I got no one to really help me or support me. My family disowns me since they disliked my ex fiancé and my friends are to busy enjoying the college life. I know I'm not ready to provide for this baby and I feel like an abortion is the best thing, but I'm scared I might regret it along the way. Anyone been in my situation because I could use alot of advice right now but I know at the end of the day it'll be my decision whether to keep the baby or abort it. Thanks!
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Hi it's a big decision that you have a head of you but also a decision you have to make fairly quickly as you can only abort at so many weeks. Have you considered adoption for your child? I hope I am able to give you some advise please ask me anything you like I'm 25 I have a 5 year old daughter I had an abortion when I was 18 so I know what you will go through and I am now 5 months pregnant to my fiancé who left me 2 days before our wedding I too have no family support and my friends are to young and imature to talk with me about this as they don't understand.
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Also may I suggest that you find out what sort of support that the government may give you in terms of a home and financial support as it might help you to make a decision a lot easier.
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Thank you for the advise. Yes, I only have a few more weeks to decided what to do. I have considered putting the baby for adopt. I mean I know if I did get an abortion it will probably destroy me on the inside but I don't know if I could have this baby only to give it up. But, I have some difficult choices I need to make soon but thank you. By the way, have you regretted having an abortion? And, I'm sorry about your fiance walking out on you but I'm sure you are a strong woman. I know you will find the strength to overcome this =)
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I regret my abortion everyday of my life. I'm not telling you this because I don't want you to get it done cause it's your choice. Adoption can be a wonderful thing for families and children I come from Australia and the families here are on the waiting list to adopt a child up to 10 years of waiting that's how desperate they are to have children. It would be hard to give a child up but at least you can have the hope that they can have a wonderful life. Please let me know what you decide to do. I'm here to support you no matter what your decision is. No one can judge the decision you make cause only you no what is best for your child.
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I imagine that is tough. I was pregnant at 17 the first time and he died when I was 6 1/2 months pregnant. Feels like only yesterday and wow it was 18 years ago this month. I know its a different situation my point was no-one may completely understand your problem but they may feel for you...
I know you have to make the right decision for you. My husband and I haven't been about to have any children and that can be just as frustrating.. We have recently had an adoption to fall through so we know the ends and outs of adoption. If you need answers I might have them. No pressure but we would be willing to offer your baby a good home... If that's what you decide. You can contact me at 205 335-3333. We are in Alabama...
The best to you...
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Hi smilen as you can see I have comment plenty on this post. I hope so much that you and you husband get a child soon it must be hard seeing all these young people not wanting their children when you are desperate for one. May I suggest that maybe you could make your offer as a subject on this forum as someone may see it. Good luck
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I wish I could tell you something to help... But I regret my abortion everyday of my life too, You dont think it will affect you at first but then it comes back and haunts you and its not a nice feeling....
You need to have a good long think to yourself and dont let anyone tell you what you should do, I hope you make the right choice for you.... goodluck!!!!
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