Pregnant By A Married Man
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anyone ever been in a similar situation??...ill explain my story...
I met the babys father online in febuary..he quickly swept he off my feet and we were dating early march..our relationship seemed sooo perfect..(hes 37..im 23)..I remember one time asking him about ever being married and before he gave me an answer he asked why...He then went on to tell me that he was still married but they havent been together 2+ years..that she lived in another state and had a boyfriend..they were still good friends so it wasnt never a rush to get divorce but that he was going to work on it..i still to this day remember him telling me he was going down that day to get the divorced started...
He broke up with me two times..the last time was june 18th (the day of my kids dance rehearsal)..I told him i was pregnant 4 days later..He wanted me to get an abortion. He said that he would be there with me every step of the way that this baby wasnt going to help "us" and once it was over we could work on us..After going back and forth I REFUSED to get an abortion he became distant for about a week.. He said it was his way of dealing..fine.
He finally accepts he is going to be a father (this is his first child)..ive always cared for him and thought our relationship was soo perfect and that he was an awesome guy..he said that we should take it slow and be friends and see where it goes..for almost 2 months we hung out and had a good time..i was starting to believe this would work..then one day out of the blue he said that we should just remain friends and that he wasnt going to date while i was pregnant as it was wrong..i was devestated..
He became distant again and i brought it up..he said we had our own lives to live etc etc..then when i expressed how hurt i was things got back to normal..then again he became distant and he said he was just busy etc etc.. i finally found out through facebook when one of his close friends said "hows the happy couple?"..my heart sank and i felt like i was stabbed in the back..
i questioned him and he said that him and his wife were talking again and that theres a chance they could be a couple again..that she knows we are friends and that we come #1 ..that he will be at the hospital all the time and spend nights at my place..that she knows we will be doing stuff together in the fall and at holidays etc
I dont believe him..ive been lied and let down soo much and im still soo hurt over it all..
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Sorry about your predicament. Some guys have hang-ups about relationships - find it difficult to commit - relates to how they got on with mother. I think his renewed interest in the wife is just a distancing ploy - not serious, but meant to keep you at arms length. At this stage your best bet is to ignore the wife and work on keeping him close, without making an issue of it. Having him present at delivery will be a big plus. Something may come of it, something may not. Try to keep your own feet on the ground, though I do understand your emotions are all twisted up at this stage. Good luck!
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I guess she moved back in with him :/ she was living in a different state and she told him she was in an "abusive" relationship and she left a note and left him..I'm finding it hard to believe and deal with. He says he knows I'm upset and that he cares for me and that we have a special bond. That he still kinda loved me and it made him sad sometimes.. Why is he putting me through this? She's his past.were his future. He said they didn't work out before because he felt like he didn't have time for a relationship. That music took up a lot of time and they grew apart. How is it any easier now? Nothing has changed besides the fact he has a daughter on the way to take up MORE of his time. He says he's told her over and over we are #1. I can't help but see this becoming an issue. I'm shattered and feel like I've been stabbed in the back
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Hmm! Musicians are a breed apart. Maybe that is his true love, and neither you nor she can be his number one.
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If you are single and pregnant, you don't have to be! Check out my profile for Facebook page information on finding a man that will love and adore you during and after your pregnancy, or search 'Pregnant and Single' in Facebook. I have also established a Yahoo group called 'PREGNANTNSINGLENLA' to put single pregnant women together with men who possess a strong s_xual attraction for pregnant woman. So, if you're still pregnant and single, that is purely your choice as you don't have to be.
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I understand how all of you feel. I'm about 8 weeks pregnant and I work with the father in a remote location. The father of my child has said that he wants nothing to do with us... but he's going to be a "nice guy" and give us a little money every once in a while. As soon as he found out he decided it was time to work things out with his wife and 2 kids (whom he had been separated from) He even told her about us and she is fine with is so long as he has nothing to do with us. As a it's going to be ok present I just found out that they have put an offer on another house. I'm so frustrated and I'm wondering how I could have ever been so stupid.
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I have established a Yahoo group called 'PREGNANTNSINGLENLA' to put single pregnant women together with men who possess a strong s_xual attraction for pregnant woman. Check out my profile for Facebook page information on finding a man that will love and adore you during and after your pregnancy, or search 'Pregnant and Single' in Facebook. So, if you're still pregnant and single, that is purely your choice as you don't have to be. :-)
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