Really Need Someone To Talk To Please
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I'm 18, almost 19 years old. I'm now a freshmen in college, and I've been with my boyfriend since our junior year (almost 2 yrs now). Things are pretty serious between us - we've talked a lot about marriage, and i could really see us getting married and being so happy together in the future. But....here's the catch. He doesn't want us to be really involved with my family. He doesn't get along with my dad....and it really hurts me to see that. I love my parents and want them to be involved in my life and the life of my future family. I want to stay close to home, and my bf wants to move. What do i do? Everything else in our relationship is so wonderful - i dont know if i could ever get past giving it up, but i also dont know if i could live with knowing how i gave up my family. He's stubborn with his decision on this...so i dont know what i should do. Please give ANY advice....i would really appreciate it!!!
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 | SS - December 7 |
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If he loves you, than he will learn to live with your family. And vice versa. They are always going to be apart of your life because they were there before he was, in good times and bad. Theres no reason why you should have to give up your family for a guy unless you have a good reason to do so or if its truly whats in your heart to do. Good luck!
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 | dew - December 9 |
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I know family can be difficult sometime, live with in 20 minutes of my entire family (77 of them) sometimes they get a little too involved in your life and that can be hard for a significant other. Maybe the baby will bring everyone closer. (You didn't mention being pregnant. How far along are you?) I have to say, I worry about a man that would want you to go away from your family. I'm not telling you what to do, but your father is a man and he may be getting a "man vibe" that he's just not comfortable with. Your boyfriend should try to overcome that, not pull you away from your family. maybe I'm being harsh, but I think you should stay close to family, especially being pregnant, you will need them now more than ever.
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i was in a similar situation last year. Matt (my ex) and i were together for a little more than two years. we were engaged, and about to sign the closing papers to buy a house. then all of a sudden i realized : i love him so much, but since we have been together, i havent been as close to my family. he never wanted to go to family functions, or just go to visit. so i sat him down and told him that i wanted to put the house on hold, and give him the chance to change and want to be involved with my family like i wanted to be and like i was with his family. i told him that family was more important to me than anything in the world and something was gonna have to change or we couldnt get married....do you think that after 3 months of oppertunities he changed? nope. and the wedding date was coming up....so i said good bye. we are still friends, but my family is much more important.!!! good luck
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