Support For A Broken Heart
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I was in a long term relationship with the love of my life. We had just talked about marriage again. We had split up nine months prior, went to counciling, and we stayed living seperate. I got pregnant, he was so excited. He had excuse after excuse as to why he couldn't stay the night with me and yadda yadda. I started spotting one morning and tried to get ahold of him all day. I ended up in the er alone where they told me there was a sac and no baby, incomplete miscarriage. I called his mom in the morning and asked if he had come home the night before to find out he didn't even live there and had being seeing another woman the month before. Come to find out he had been cheating for 2 years. I was so devistated. I shut his phone off and told him I found out. The next day I went to my OB and found out I am 5 weeks pregnant not 8, so everything was fine. I emailed the father and got no reply, the last he knew I lost the baby. His mom said he didn't say anything about it. He is active in his other child's life. I am so heartbroke and don't know how to get through this. I want to be strong but feel like I can't. I am 26, in nursing school, and landed a horrible man. Any advise?
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Poor you, that is horrible and even so more during your pregnancy! Yikes. Okay, as hard as it might be--but you know it will get easier--you have to separate him as your ex boyfriend and him as the farther of your (plural) child. You will be (from the sounds of it) doing this on your own, meaning no partner for you. Hopefully he will take his responsibility seriously and support you and your child emotionally and financially. Perhaps if you are closer to his mom, to let her be the go between--if it is too much for you to deal with him right now. Hopefully she is supportive and loving towards you...is she...? Focus on yourself and the baby and make sure he give you the space you need. Perhaps a few months from now you can begin talks with him about how he envisions his involvement with his child and how he plans to support you both. It is natural that you feel so hurt and angry you just don't want to hear his voice...so be it and just don;t speak with him. Maybe you can pa__s on the news of your checkups thru his mom. Are you near your parents? Do you have support near by? Good luck!!
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