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I wanted to share my response to the mother expressing her joy with new motherhood AND MAKING TRIBUTE TO SINGLE MOTHERHOOD...
FOR THOSE OF YOU NEEDING SOME INSPIRATION, AS WE ALL DO... AT TIMES...
Remember that, "WITH INTEGRITY ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE"...
My dear, I give you credit for following your heart and not letting others make you feel you are not capable and worthy. I too had a child at a young age, I was raped at 13, and had my baby. I decided to keep him and raise him myself as a single parent. I was in a situation similar to you, without alot of support or belief from others that I could "do this"... My son is 25 now, and, has been a tremendous joy in my life. He has also been a motivating factor that allowed me to be determined and focused, and to succeed in whatever endeavors I followed. When "YOUR HEART" is in the right place... and, you follow it, the "MAGIC" happens for you... Keep this att_tude because this will bring you toward "your destiny", with streangth and confidence. You WILL be able to make your dreams come true... I am now 40 and still single, by choice, I have had many opportunities to become part of a patnership but have felt that I have had too much that I must accomplish and experience and prefer to have relationships but have not found someone truly compatible with my everchanging plans...I have had a wonderful life fulfilling many of my dreams........... To me, "life" is an exercise of learning lessons, growing and experiencing life with passion and happiness... as... "LIFE" develops and changes...I find that "It is important for me, PERSONALLY, to trust that MY DESTINY IS SECURE, AS LONG AS I TRUST MY SPIRIT." It never lies and will always guide me correctly.... A good friend once shared a story that explained when "You are unsure, and you feel that your fear is blocking your faith"... Picture yourself walking along a path... where you happen upon a cliffs edge that halts your progress...when you look forward... you see the path has ended because of this...and when you look below... you cannot see the ground in order to step forward to reach the other side, where the path continues, (knowing this is where you are "supposed to be")...and when you look at the abyss that falls between the two places... you are confused and fearful... ( this is natural to feel fearful, initially, as the unknown makes this seem really scary...You may take as long as you like to find your confidence...) AT THIS POINT YOU WILL HAVE THE FOLLOWING CHOICES...You can turn around and not take this path... OR, You can stand at the edge, and look longingly at the other side, as you are wondering how you will ever get there... OR, You can step..., with your faith... as you believe that the bridge will be THERE..., and "the amazing thing is"... that "THE BRIDGE" is built one step at a time, "RIGHT UNDER YOUR FEET", but, only as you take the steps of "FAITH".
MY EXPERIENCE ------You will find with time and experience that the scariest thing in life... is "FEAR" itself...when we do not confront and conquer "our fears", we can get stuck and stagnant... because this is how we grow... (thus why they call them "Growing Pains")
As you confront your fears, and overcome them... they become your streangths... and when you do not confront "your fears", this keeps you from your pursuit and accomplishment of your divine and unique life path...
You will find that once you start to confront and conquer fears...(and tears are good, cherish them, they are a sign of feelings)... You find that this experience is so empowering and that the endorphins are amazing, they will allow you to feel the beauty and happiness of what it is to truly be you...
This happens throughout our lives with times that "we feel more confident and capable or not", no matter what age we are...
So here is my prayer for all of us..."That we can follow our heart and allow the joy and pleasure that are ours to experience in this magical life, and when we falter and feel scared and lonely... that we will be surrounded by loving and caring angels that magically appear in our lives with the inate knowledge that we need them at this particular time...
I am now pregnant again at 40 and blessed with another child due in April. I find myself again experiencing this pregnancyas a single parent... seems to be my destiny... I feel that this is a path that has been designed for me on a much higher level, than anything I could design, and, therefore, should not ask "why or what" at this time... because again, in my life, it is something I will understand better from retrospect...and it will be very interesting to experience another single parenting experience at 40 comparatively to 14 years of age... So realize that I do understand how it feels to be you, and know that I wish you, and all the single mothers and cherished children, "tremendous happiness and joy throughout your developing lives..." A MOM
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