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i do have my mom who is my heart and backbone. i don't know where i'd be with out her. she keeps reminding me that she raised 4 kids on her own because our no good father walked out on us so i will be able to raise one. more than anything i'm upset because i was raised without a father and i just can't stand the thought of my child growing up the same way.

miss, Can I just say how much you sound like me? I am having a boy and I was so dead set on my son having a father, so dead set on it that I kept letting him screw me over time and time again, but let me tell you that just because he made the baby doesnt mean he is going to be a father. It takes alot more than that. Also there are many families out there that consist of step parents and there will be someone who will love you and be that father figure for your son. I had to figure out if my son would be better off without him or with him and while that is still left to be determined, (I dont know if he is going to step up or not when the baby is born) I am letting him come to me! He needs to prove it to you that he wants this baby and is going to be there for you 100%! If he cant do that then he needs to move the hell out of the way and let someone else step in and be that father figure.

i just needed to come back here and thank all u wonderful women who responded to my problem in my time of need. i'm sure u all will make great mothers as i can already see ur nurturing qualities. my boyfriend called me today and apologized for his words and behavior because they came from shock. he says while he still has his doubts he's not gonna let this stop us and we'll make it work. he wants us to buy a house together to make a home for our baby. if there were no baby involved i might have just told him where he coulda shoved that apology but i believe i have a responsibility to my child to at least try to make it work with its father. while i'm still skeptical because who knows when the pressure will get to him again, i am glad that he is making an effort and we will see where it goes. i'm not putting all my trust in him yet, he'll have to earn that back cuz if he abondoned me once i'm sure he can do it again. thank u again ladies for ur support it has helped me more than you know.

You are in the EXACT same boat as I am. My boyfriend wanted me to have an abortion when I found out that I was pregnant, I didn't think that I could live with that decision, so I didn't go through with it. He told me that he had no intention of being a father, so he left me when I was 3 months pregnant. I'm now 7 months along, So depressed and cry all of the time. I often wonder if I should have gone through with it. I am just as confused as you. What a horrible position to be in, to have somebody make you feel guilty for keeping your own child. My advice to you, do what you can live with. Men come and go, but this baby will be with you forever...I doubt that you will regret it one bit once the baby is born. I totally understand how you feel right now, I feel the same way. I wish that I could be happy about my pregnancy and never thought that I would be in this situation, but I am, and I'm trying to deal with it the best I can. I know that this pain is only temporary, it can't last forever. Things happen for a reason. If you need to talk, please email me Jwillis1115@yahoo.com It would also help me to have somebody to talk with. Take care and stay strong:)

Miss, I wouldn't rush into buying a house with that guy. He sounds unstable and he has his doubts about what to make of this baby. Stay with your mother and work on your relationship with your boyfriend from the safety of your mother's house. Your mom isn't going to abandon you, but your bf might. So stay in the stable environment where you are right now. Let him prove his commitment to you and the child. I have a 2 month old daughter, I was abandoned by her father when I was less than one month along. But she was born in October and I'm back at work earning a living for me and my child. I found a babysitter to provide daycare. We are making it without him.

Oh I have been abandoned too, by the last man on earth that I thought would do such a thing. Guys have a way of making us feel responsible. DO NOT let him make you feel that way. I am sorry that you are sad. I know just how that feels, as I go through the same thing. He made many promises that he has broken. It is scary to be alone, but a real man doesn't run from his responsibilities. You would always resent him if you had the abortion for him. He isn't worth it, no matter how hard it is to be alone. You are strong. Hang in there!! You will be in my prayers

hey im sort of in the same boat! im only 13 and my bf left me when i told him! and now he hates me because i dont have it in me to abort the child! mi msn is lilybolton@hotmail.co.uk if you need 2 talk x x x

I don't know who you are, but I want you to know I'm in the same situation as you. I'm a month pregnant and 16 years old. Half my friends, my older brother and even my own mom are all wanting me to have an abortion. But for the same reason of guilt and regret I'm choosing not to. I haven't personally talked to the father of the baby since before I found out I was pregnant. It turns out he had an on and off relationship with his current girlfriend while we were "seeing" eachother. He's from a different state than me so he was only here for work. Well he went home and when he came back he brought his girlfriend with him, I was crushed and the day after I saw him last I found out I was going to have his baby. I was confused at first but now I know in my heart that this baby is staying and nobody can tell me different. I loved the father of this child with all my heart. When one of my friends told him that I'm pregnant he claimed that he never had s_x with me. At first I was sad, but I'm not anymore, the way I look at it is this, if he won't stick by you and support your decision then why would you be interested in spending the rest of your life with him?? I have a friend who's 15 with a 2 month old baby, her fiance is planning on adopting her baby, and every chance he gets he shows her how much he loves her. That's why I'm not getting an abortion, I have friends who will help me and I have family who will help me, if I meet a respectable,loyal, trustworthy guy than so be it, but until then I have all the love and help I can get.

I am in the same boat, except, at first he said he wanted the baby, then changed his mind then changed his mind again then ended. Basiclly, God wants you to have this child and he will bless you for it. God knows every hair on that baby's head and you and your baby will not lack for anything. It is hard especially because of our constant growing reminder of the father but, with gods help you can do this. If they really Loved us like the said they would still be there. I am due march 2nd and im very excited now. You don't need him. But hopefully he will acknowledge his child good luck with everything. and it gets easier. I don't feel like I did about the situation now.

Look when you have s_x everybody knows theres a chance of std and pregnancy so the chances are there. The heck with your ex he's not worth it, i would never redo my kids . I loved their father and he's a jerk but i'm tired of catering to his needs. It's now all about the life growing inside of you. It's easier to replace a man even if you love him then it is a child. Think about the future and go look at that ultrasound picture, if he's saying this to you is he worth it? You will know what do do in your heart.