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Hello everyone! I am 28..single, and 4 months pregnant. I'm educated, I have a good job--and I am fully prepared to do this alone. BUT it's been tough so far. I was seeing this guy who's almost 30. He treated me very well. We had discussions about children, but not about us having children...and he literally detests them. So, needless to say, when I found out that I was pregnant...he was shocked and less than enthusiastic. He originally had plans of moving out of state...so we never really got serious. When I told him I was pregnant, it presented the question, "stay or go". He initally cried on the phone with me and gave me his full support and told me he would stay to go through this with me. A few days later, he called me and demanded an abortion and told me he wanted nothing to do with it--and basically refused to be involved. We talked on the phone a few weeks later and basically agreed to disagree. Having an abortion for being irresponsible was completely out of the question for me. He left for California and I literally did not hear from him for almost 2 months. When I went to have my 3 month ultrasound, i called him and told him...and he seemed open to at least look at the scans...and he seemed very nice and friendly over the phone. The day I had the scans was amazing. Seeing the little booger move, and it's face and hands and feet was pretty incredible. I sent him pictures of the scans and called him to see what he thought...and he literally sounded as though he had been crying and told me his reaction was the same that it has been. Needless to say, it's been tough dealing with all of the fun parts of pregnancy alone. I am a tough cookie, so I am handling it and preparing for the worst. I have tried a few times to talk with him since and he will not return any of my texts, and will not agree on a time for us to talk. I live all of the way across the country from my family, so this has been particularly hard. His family is from here--and it would be so nice to have some familial support. I know, ultimately, I cannot control him or his reactions...but what should I do? I want to make plans for the baby and I--and so far they do not involve him. Is it wrong to give the child my last name if he only continues to ignore me? I plan on listing him on the birth certificate so he will at least be responsible in some ways.