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Amberlee I'm sorry with all that has happened. Is getting an abortion what you really want to do or do you feel like its your only option? Well I can attest that an abortion is not a precise science. I went in for an abortion 7 weeks ago found out I was pregnant with twins got the procedure done. 1 week later I found out I was still pregnant and with twins neither one of the sacks had been touched. So all I'm saying is make sure you want to have the procedure done and don't let anyone influence your decision.

First off, what exactly happened between you and your guy friend that hurt you so much? Second, are you positive that you want an abortion? I'm not trying to talk you out of anything because it's totally your decision. But maybe you should talk to a counselor or a trusted adult friend who can help you figure out what to do before you make any hasty decisions. If you have sat and thought this thru already.....then good luck and I hope that everything works out for you. But I'm here if you want to talk or need advice

Thanks girls for replying. Yeah sorry I didn't exactly make that clear did I, thinking out loud I suppose. Well we'd been friends for a few months, and I did fancy him, and when I broke up with my boyfriend he came over supposedly for support but forced himself on me. I've never got an explanation. He's even been round since but I've been too scared to face him. No one in my family knows so I'm basically on my own with this and I'm too scared to go to the police, I cant bear all that you have to go through. and anyway, what evidence would there be he forced me now? I'm pregnant but that only proves s_x. I cant even bring myself to say the word :( He kept texting me saying he's sorry so I broke my phone. I just feel so bad being pregnant. The m/s has started and I just dont want it in there it's making everything just 100 times worse :(

God tray how did that happen?? I've thought this through every minute of every day and pretty sure I want to do this to help make it all go away. I keep having these dreams where I've got this baby screaming in my arms and it hates me and its 'father' comes over and takes it off me and cuddles it. They make me sick

im sorry to say hun, but having the abortion isnt going to make what he did to you go away, i actually think you are going to create a whole new set of problems for you to have to deal with. is there no one in your family you can talk to, or maybe even a councelor somewhere. there isnt a way to prove rape now, unless he were to admit to it, but rape is rape, and he should still be reported, he may have a record and that could help you especially if he has been reported for this in the past.

Tray are you still pregnant now and will carry this pregnancy through...?

Thanks for your reply. Yeah I think I understand it wont make that go away :( But it will make that part of it if you get what I mean? I feel awful knowing he's put that inside me and its growing in there and it just feels like being violated over and over again :( I havent told anyone in my family and my friends dont know either. There's only 2 people that know, me and him. I suppose I should be telling someone but its hard and I'm not sure who would be best to tell.

I feel very bad for you Amber, can you talk to mom...? Maybe she will be supportive even though she is angry...? If you go to Planned Parenthood I think they offer counseling and they can inform you of all your options and can refer you as well. Mabe a teen pregnancy hotline where you live..? You really shouldn't do this alone. I hope you find someone to be there for you.xx

Amberlee.. do you know for sure that this baby is the one who raped you and not your ex boyfriends?? It sounds like it all happened sooo close... Would that make a difference in your choice to have an abortion??

Hello. I probably could speak to my mum, its just been hard to deal with it all, and she frets so much I didnt want to worry her. I think I will talk to her though because doing it on my own is really getting to me now. I've hardly left the house these past few weeks and she knows something is wrong, she's been calling asking why I havent been round. Do you think the doctor is a good idea? I live in England btw. I've got an app for next week to talk about/arrange an abortion. Sunshyne, its definitely not my ex's. We hadn't had s_x for a couple of months before we split up, and I'd had normal periods inbetween then. I think yes, it would have been a difference choice if ti was his, even though we have split up :( Feel really angry at the moment.. someone on the teen preg site told me I shouldnt have been "spreading my legs" and that I was sick. Why do people jump straight on and just a__sume without finding out why?

Dont listen to them on the teen boards.They have alot of room to talk.I have read some posts on there.Have you thought about adoption.You would be doing a great thing for a childless couple or someone who wants to complete their family but cant.If you would like a friend to chat with off of here email me noterdamelady@yahoo.com Hang in there

Amber I'm sooo sorry it was rape. You said he kept texting you saying sorry its not much proof but it is a little bit - maybe enough for serious consideration for the police. As for me I don't know what happened but I am very much still pregnant that for you FRANNY and am 14 weeks now.

Thank you. Tray would you say you were glad that it didnt work out? Sorry, that is a very personal question and you dont have to answer it at all. Indymommy I have a lot of respect for people that can give their babies up for adoption, I truly do and support it all the way. The thing is in my situation, its the pregnancy itself that is the problem. I know its sad and hard to understand when you would love to be pregnant, I understand that. But there was no way this child was made from love, and having it in me makes me cry every day and remember over and over again every single detail of what happened that night. I'm sorry I can't explain it better, I suppose you never know until you have been there. Its the worst experience of my life ever, and I think the only way to make this a little easier is to go ahead witht he abortion. I'm 95% sure in my head this is what I need to do to begin trying to overcome this. Tray I smashed the phone up and deleted the texts when I was very upset and angry he was doing it. God I know I shouldnt have done that now. But I couldnt bear them being on my phone.

Amberlee - I am glad to still have my babies but I know it will be hard I had a baby when I 18 and now that I finally have a handle on things and my daughter is 8 yrs olds now i go and get pregnant. Life goes on and I am excited. The police can pull phone records and more if you want to report him I'm quite sure they could recover the textes.

Amberlee I respect your descion.You do what you really need to do.I do understand how you feel in a way.I was raped at age 16.I didnt get pregnant but Im sure it has to be hard for you.Be strong things will get better for you

Thank you indymommy. I'm so sorry it happened to you. I can't understand why people do it, its a terrible thing to do and I dont know how people can live with themselves. Tray I'm so glad that your situation turned positive. You'll find a way I am sure. I've told my mum over the weekend all that has happened, and she has been so supportive. The only thing was she told me off for not coming to her earlier. But she understands. We'll find a way. I'm still not sure about going to the police, but thank you for that, its definitely something I'll be considering. I think I've still got the sim card for the phone.