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Ouch RIA, kinda harsh. I would say that mommie2b is simply being blunt, not to say that it makes it any easier for Amberlee to listen to. Amberlee- you need to do what you feel is right for you. I'm glad that you are talking to people at the rape crisis centre. It won't make things magically better, but it is good to be able to talk. You do what you need to girl :)

I am not judging you and I do feel bad about what happened to you but.......about the abortion.......My only thoughts are that that child was given to you by God for a reason, whether it makes sense now or not, beforeyou do it just think about the baby, the child did not have a choice in how it was conceived. Like I said before, I am not judging you b/c I've never been there but I honestly don't think that getting rid of the baby will help. Or do like some of the others suggested and put it up for adoption.

since everyone is saying wat THEY think, I think that you shouldnt listen to anyone - if you want an abortion go for it i wouldnt be able to carry or keep a child made from hate and rape. and it wouldnt be fair for the child to be a child baby. I think your doing the right thing for you. GL

I'm sorry, I must have missed Amberlees post about SHOULD she have an abortion. Oh yeah that's right..she DIDN'T ask about anyones opinion on abortion (smart girl). Brandy- c'mon...gift from god?? She was RAPED for crying out loud, that is no gidt from so called god. She's young, scared and needed to vent.

there is a difference in killing an animal than a baby and i am blunt i speak whats on my mind and i do not hold nothing back and yes i can be a b___h but i try not to be

meant to say "so called gift from god"

I didnt have any choice in how it was conceived either... There is adoption yes, but what I've been trying to say is that its the actual being pregnant that is the worst thing. People can have their opinions but it wont change my mind, and really I never asked anyone how they thought about abortion. I appreciate everyones views and I wouldn't ask anyone to change how they feel about the subject, but I think there are ways to express your opinions. Being blunt is one thing, saying things like "You're sick and I hope you regret it for the rest of your life" is another altogether. And if I think doing this will help me, isn't that what I should do? Anyway it doesnt matter, I know in my heart I am doing the right thing for me. I wouldnt expect everyone to agree with what I'm doing, or shroud me with sympathy, but what I didn't expect is to be called sick and being accused of lying about being raped. That is ludicrous and I wish people would think about what they are saying and how they would feel if it was said to them. Just be aware that people dont all think the same and it is wrong to think you are the only one that is right. Anyway, I have seen the counsellor now, they are putting me on anti-depressants, I doubt I did myself any favours because I broke down and became a bit hysterical. I've lost 2st in the last month and they are concerned about that but I cant help it at the moment. I just wish things could be how they used to be. Thanks x

Hey Amber, dont worry about anyone on here and their blathering opinions and judgements. Exactly - you never asked for views on abortion but everyone has to jump on the bandwagon. From what I can see you only needed support after such trauma.. Anyway, how are you doing now? Have you got an appointment this week?

Amberlee... please do not get an abortion . i am from the " infant care " website, and im here to tell you that getting an abortion will not solve your problems, nor let you forget about the man who did this horible crime to you. maybe a baby is god's way of healing you . this is not the baby's fault and it is an innocent child. i know you are hurt right now beyond measures, but you have to find comfort in knowing that everything will be alright ! one day you are going to look back at what happended that night he did this to you,.......then you are gonna look down at your baby ( son or daughter) and smile knowing that you made the right decision to keep him/her. please either keep it, or give it up for adoption to a loving couple that has tried so hard to have children. good luck ! and i hope you make the right choice...

ash, shes getting an abortion. who would want to be a rape child. a child of hate. and it growing in your body. This has nothing to do with a so called god. a god never made her prgnant a man with rageing hormones did - shes getting an aborttion and she is doing the right thing.

It's over now. I can start trying to get my life back together. I dont even know how I'm feeling to be honest. Just a numbness and some relief. I suppose it needs to settle in. ash2 I've said why I was doing this. Its wasnt healing me in any way, to me it was killing me. I can only look to the future now and get things together. I'm still sure this was the right thing for me and I'm not regretting it. I realise now nothing would have changed my mind. I'd just like to say thanks to everyone thats supported me x

I hope it haunts you in your sleep.

BTW. you were very selfish to think that this could actually be an innocent baby's fault that all it wanted to do was for someone to love it..... i cant wait for the government everywhere to outlaw abortion. it is murder, and the innocent suffer.....

Ash2 you are quite possibly the biggest b___h on here. I'm sure she is already haunted every night by what this man has already done to her. I speak from experience that rape is no fun. It's disgusting, disgraceful, and makes you feel like everyone and everything has failed you. The last thing you want is the pervert or raped you to consume your life with a baby growing inside you. She didn't think it was the baby's fault. And it's not selfish to look out for yourself. It is unhealthy to be depressed and this baby was hurting her more than healing her. I was raped when I was 17 as well by a friend. I had been drinking and pa__sed out and woke up in a parking lot in the middle of it. It was the worst experience of my life. I did not end up pregnant from it but I cant even imagine how horrible it would be. It was already hard enough. Amberlee as long as you did the right thing for yourself then you should be proud. It takes courage! I hope all is well and good luck overcoming this. Don't let him take anymore of your life away.

Little Momma I'm so sorry that happened to you. We are the ones that get judged and called murderers. These people suddenly forget that people like us were the ones who were traumatised and victimised in the first place.

well said waiting impatiently