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Even with the pill and condems still not 100% and no we should have not slept with a married man but no one can go back and change what has already happened. So if you have nothing to say about right now nothing you say can change what has already happened. We have no choice but to deal with the right now and present no could've ahould've is going to change what is already done.

We all know the consequences of s_x. You just sould have kept your legs closed the first time.

U reap what you sow, so like you he is hurting. Use your head next time...hope you have an idea of how much you hurt his wife now.

once again to all the people that is posting with nothing good to say besides "trying " to condemn or judge, find another place to post ur thoughts.

Wow i dont even know what to say.I noticed someone said that you reap what you sow as if the babys were a burden of punishments on us. Everything happens for a reason.If it wasnt intended to happen then god would have never let it happen.All of you married women on here are blaming us for your husbands cheating.If it was meant to be then he wouldnt cheat.You cant go around blaming other women because the guy you decided to marry was not the one and hes a jerk.If thats going to be the case then maybe you should be single.You wives are aparently not doing something right for them to come to us and its true,weather you like it or not, that men lie about being married.One man told me he was a widower and when he got caught with me and i asked him why he lied he told me that he didnt.I asked him if he was married and he said yes but she died and that i never asked him if he remarried.It caught me by surprise. One more thing,you wives sitting here telling us we are stupid for being with a married man,YOU ARE EVEN STUPIDER TO KNOW HE CHEATED AND YOU STAYED WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!

Something that has been said on here over and over I just don't think is fair. I am not the wife, I am the other woman. But for a man to cheat on his wife, does not mean the wife was doing anything wrong. They may have had intimacy issues, they may have had communication issues, but the fact that he left the marriage and got whatever needs met elsewhere is his burden not hers. In all kinds of relationships, marriages, friendships, dating, etc. there are always issues that people either choose not to focus on or that one finds more prevalent but does not confide in the other how they feel. So to read that the wife was not a good wife, or not good enough, or did not know how to please her man so he did not cheat just is not realistic. And if a wife chooses to "try" to forgive her husband after an affair, then she truly is a kind hearted woman.

Me too.... Thank you for saying that. I cant believe what i have read on here over the last few days. Its hard enough for women to forgive affairs, but its people like Angelina who make it even harder. If anyone on here has had a long term affair then you will realise how 'feelings' can take over, its those sort of feelings that make a wife want to work out her marriage. I have been married to my husband for 10 years but have been together for 14, and i can honestly say i love him just as much now as when we first started dating, and ill be d__ned if i am going to throw those years away because another woman has made it easy for my husband to have an affair. If we as women would stand up and say NO as soon as you realise the man is married, then there would be a lot less misery around.

REMINDER: Women who date Married Man?? Cant any of this lady have self worth and just say NO?? That's way Divorce is the way it is...these Men know there are a lot of women willing to play there games, that's what encourage them is women like you. If more of you stood up for yourself and found a loving man that can dedicate themselves to you, you wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. All these stories are ALL the same..."I was involved with a married man, now Im pregnant...boo hoo, I told his wife, he doensn't want me" Duh, your not the marriage material obviously if you are willing to be his other women. I HOPE EVERYONE learns from your post. There is defenitely no future with a married man.

First of all i would like to apologise for my little outburst yesturday. After having many nasty text messages and phone calls from the other woman in my situation yesturday i took it out on here when i know i shouldnt have. Maybe someone who has been the other woman could help me understand why she wont let my husband go. I understand that they have a son together and accept the fact that she will be a part of my life for as long as im with my husband, but why does she insist on hurting me. Some of the things she says are really nasty,e.g. yesturday she said that she hopes i rot in hell and if i were to get pregnant again then she hopes that the baby would die. What she has done has devistated me and already because of this situation i have lost my son at 21 weeks due to the tremendous amount of stress that i have been under. She already has a son by my husband now she says she wont stop until she has my husband to. I understand that many women who have affairs did not know they were married in the start, and then feelings take over, but it seems to me that she has been out from the start to make my life hell. I dont think i have ever done anything to deserve being treated like this, and find it hard most of the time to be strong and carry on. Any advice about what i should do next would be grately appreciated, as i have run out of ideas.

To "!!!" let me be vey honest with you, she can't lust let him go, and I mean CAN"T..what I mean by that is that the feelings you get when you think of losing ur husband is the same that she has but she just doesn'd have as much time invested.. i think the problem with this woman is that she is hurting, she is hurting very much and the only way she knows how to get at him, is by attacking you..because as long as he has to argue/defend himself withyou she knows everything will not go back to the was they were with you two, there will always be problems..I know because that is how I used to be.. I was so angry at him for using me and making me love him, and then just basically saying f**k me... i still hurt because I still love him, it sounds bad but that is just the way is is.. She probably does not even want him at times but it hurts to think that he =can dog her out, dog out out his wife and then after you both are stressing, he gets to go back to his normal life..he has abackup plan, his wife..The words she says are cruel and are meant to hurt u b/c she is hurting..do not get me wrong these are noe excuses but it is true..did she know he was married from the beginning?...u can be strong and carry on because you have made it this far..everything in time will pa__s..it seems like you can't make it to the next day but you can..as I type this I cry because..I feel for u both..I wonder can I go on too at times but I know if I can survive death of my father, then this too is survivable...If she was tricked then she will not rest until she is completely over him...and until then she will continue to harra__s you.. if all else fails put out a protective order for harra__sment and advise her unless sheleaves you alone she wil notbe able to call or anything.. I hope I have helped you understand and have strength...

In my first line i meant"just" not "lust", funny that the typo came out that way.

To !!!. My heart goes out to you. As a previous "other woman", I want you to know that what is happening to you is just verification that you are doing what is right. Your heart is in the right place. Just reading your post has made me feel stronger and able to look past the mistake I made. The devil is mad now because you are inspiring women who had fell from grace and are trying to pick themselves up again. Do not be discourage by the confusion..that's what the devil wants you to do. Keep your focus and let her know that she can't hurt you she can't defeat you because what God says is so will be so...including your marriage. I know this now and I asked God to forgive me for ever trying to come between something that he decreed. Even if he said the marriage was not working, it was not my place to try to come in between that. As a woman of God I should have been encouraging him to pray. We were together for 5 years and he married the girl he cheated on me with. (DRAMA) So before I knew it..I was not THE woman but the other woman. Just put it in Gods hands ladies...no matter what side of the situation you are on. The devil feeds off of our weaknesses; the things he know will make us second guess what we have already decided is right. Keep your head up !!!. The woman in your situation was probably dealing with some deep rooted issues before she even met your husband. Don't try to deal with this on your own because you will stress yourself out. GOD loves you so let him fight your battles. Be Blessed

Thank you so much for listening and giving me advice and support. To understanding...Yes she did know he was married, in fact we were friends and i was the one to introduce her to my husband. That is probably why i find it difficult to understand why all this started in the first place. She knew our marriage was good and how much i loved my husband. Dont get me wrong, i know my husband is no innocent party in all this, and so does he, he knows that this is not something i can forgive over night, and how much this has and is still hurting me. I try to be understanding when it comes to her feelings, but when she acts in such ways its difficult to keep a clear head. Maybe your right, she is trying to keep a rift between us, well i can tell you that will not happen, in fact we have become a lot closer (as strange as it sounds). You are right, like you i have had to recover from grief, not just for my 2 babies, but also 3 very close members of my family (all within the last 18 months), and if i can get through that, this should be a walk in the park (so to speak). If it is at all possible i would like to continue talking to you as a firend, maybe so we can swap advice but to also have an understanding ear who will listen whenever its needed. I wish you and your son all the happiness and strength to get though this. x

Well if she knew he was married then I do not know what she is thinking, unless she believed something he said.. i will always continue to talk with you because as u know this will be a lifetime thing, for me - my son will lways be here and for u - everytime she calls, etc..the pain will come back.. I know that it is hard to think of her feelings when she is acting a fool, but since she knew about you then it is hard for me to be sympathetic to her,but we all make mistakes... i have a question for you..Since I have the baby and you are a wife..my dilema is the wife in my situation wants "him" to choose between her or the baby..he does not want to choose, he told me he can't..Of course I think there should be no question, he should tell her that he is going to see his son no matter what buthe is to weak.. Instead he has hr thinking that he is not seeing the baby, when he ssees him alomost everyday, but he does not want her to find out.. I think it is wrong for her to give him this ulitmatum, but I could also understand that she is scared of what could happen..I allow him to seebaby and go home and turn his cell off and not be available..I am at his beck and call almost..Should I call her and ask for her to meet me one-on-one and try to talk or should I just leave it alone? He still tells me that he loves me and they are divorcing but I know it is not true..I think that if me and her can get on the same page then his lies will stop, but I am afraid that if I call her, before shemeets me she will run and tell him and he will intercept her..What should I do?

This is a difficult one. If they are getting a divorce then i dont understand why he cant tell her he is seeing his child no matter what. He is obviously lying to you again. Do you know for certain that she had really given the ultimatum or have you taken for granted what he has told you.? It sounds to me like he has told his wife he is having nothing to do with you or his child, and maybe promised her to work things out, and then came back and lied to you just as he always has done. He seems to be a compulsive lier (like most men in these situations. lol). You are right, she does deserve to know the whole truth. I wouldnt speak to her face to face though, at least not at first, but what i would do is maybe write a letter, it wont be easy putting into words what you need to say, but let her know you are sorry and that you feel he is still lying to the both of you. You need to let her know what you want to happen with regards to him seeing your son, but also let her know that you have no intensions of carrying on any sort of physical relationship with him. Make sure you add that he has no idea that you have written the letter, and you are more than willing to speak on the phone or meet up to discuss a solution if she would feel comfortable to do so. It may be an idea to try to find out from him what lies he has really fed her. If i was the wife in your situation, i would appreciate being told the truth, no matter how hurtful it would be, but seeing you or speaking to you in person may be a bit too much. Never forget though that he has an obligation to provide love and supprot to his child, remind him that the child will grow up and see his father for who he really is, so maybe he would be better off making up for all the mistakes he has made now, rather than when he has to answer to his son in 15 years or so. I hope this has helped, and good luck with whatever you decide to do. Keep me updated.

I never imagined that I would be in this situation, let alone ever be posting about it on the internet. In reading from the wives the past couple of days, I just want to say I am so proud of you!! I am having this baby even though the wife wants me kill it, is hoping I miscarry, or is expecting him to take it away from me if I make it full term. She is also telling him that he cannot have any kind of contact with me at all if he wants her and their child. At first I was p__sed, thinking he was going to just set us aside even though he is just as much a part of what got me pregnant. But you know what?? I have made the decision for myself, I am no longer going to try to convince him to love this child, to accept this child, and to be a father to this child. She is putting demands on him and he is willing to abide by them, if their marriage does become stronger then that will be wonderful for their child. As for my child, with or without the love of it's father our life too will be good. I know the sense of betrayal must destroy so much of a woman, but the hardest part for me to comprehend is how the wives are willing to punish a child because of their dislike for the mother (due to this kind of situations), or allow themselves to believe that only their child (from marriage with the husband) are the real children. I am having this baby because it is a life and I refuse to punish it, and each and every day I am realizing that the husband and the wife both wanted me to terminate and since i won't they are wanting to punish me and my child. So their actions are to pretend this child and I do not exist, and I am going to grant them that.