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" judge ye lest ye be judged" I don't judge others, we all make mistakes in our lives and each one of us has some skelatons in our closets. Katie is only human just like all the rest of us, with faith and the willingness ti work hard and give her baby all the best she can in life, she will be just fine...........shame on the ones that are so d__ned judgemental, wake up, you aren'r dead yet, and if the truth be known I bet most of the ones who are so negative has much worse in their pasts.......guerenteed!

I am pregnant by a man who revealed his marriage to me after finding out about the pregnancy that was pretty much planned. We had plans to get married also. I have an appointment for custody next week and will be sending off the child support papers as soon as the anesthesia goes away. I do not condone knowingly being involved in an affair. If I hadn't cut him off he would still be going from woman to woman. His wife doesn't want to face the fact that she cannot blame me for her his lies. I have already had 2 abortions and had my second child after that. I will not have another abortion. His wife is proposing that I have an abortion. Now that I am no longer an option for him, he agrees with her to abort the baby. Why? To make their lives easier? Their so-called reasoning is to protect the child from mental issues in the future. That could happen but it is not gauranteed. If he was concerned about that he would not have created this situation. The sad part is that we've known each other for 9 years. His behavior has shocked EVERYONE except his wife. I believe he is still lying to her which is why she is blaming me. I don't even think his mother is speaking to him now because of what he has done. His wife became pregnant a month after finding out about mine. Our children will be 3 months apart thanks to that trifling husband of hers and former friend/future husband of mine. I think her pregnancy is the other reason she wants my pregnancy aborted. She is hara__sing me by attacking my character through correspondence and telling me that I have done all of my children a disjustice because they have different fathers. She forgets that her husband was going to be the last guy in my life. I was already getting my life on track. She doesn't know anything about me except what her he is telling her and that is not all true. If I were Katy I would keep the baby if I were emotionally stable to handle being a single parent. If you are not stable, I'm sure there are support groups that can help you the same way a post partum depression support group reaches out to mothers. I know my baby and family will be blessed and you should have faith that yours will also. The bottom line is that you are the only one that knows what is right deep down inside for you and your unborn child.

Sorry, didn' t realize I wrote so much.

what is wrong with the people who said the child should miscarry. shame on you indeed. your words are worse than her actions, you wished death upon an innocent child whos only fault is having a horrible father who couldn' be faithful and who couldn't be honest. Katy everything will work out and none of the people on this site who are saying these horrible things is even close to as strong as you are. keep your head up and remember most women are the way they are because a man made them that way. now that you have seen the way he has made you - change it and do right by yourself and your new baby.

katy, email me at twinsmom7@aol.com. I know exactly what you are going through word for word. Not everyone on this site is the same. For those who are "attacking" instead of "helping", why bother to repond?

Whoa! Okay, why bother to respond "a friend" asks? TO LET HER KNOW WHAT SHE DID IS INFURIATING & DISGUSTING. I would say it to her face but I doubt she would have the courage to publicly announce what she did. The fact that she denies that what she did is hurtful to the family makes me more upset. I do not care to help someone that cannot face up to their wrong doings. Facing up means taking full responsibility for yoru wrong-doings and not placing the blame on anyone but yourself, as you are the only one who can control your actions and decisions. That was not accomplished here. Let the attacks continue. I hate cheaters. My dad was a cheat and so was my mom. My ex-fiancee was a cheat... Finally I am with someone who is honest with me, as I deserve at least that.

Maybe the two of you can start a "We Knowingly Sleep with Married Men" Club? Sick.

To set the record straight "E" I do not sleep with married men, nor do I mess around with them but I do understand how she feel. Atacking someone on a page that is designed to help someone is useless. I'm sure dhe feels bad enough without complete strangers sttacking her character. YOU have baggage? Okay then voice them but to attack someone you don'tknow without knowing the whole situation is just plain stupid. What she did for whatever reason she did them is her pain and one she is trying to deal with. The baby is an innocent pawn in this matter and to wish it death is just sick. If you have issues and concerns about the issue, deal with it. We're here to offer advice and help for those who are in need of it, not to be attack because you don't know how things came to be. Keep your negative opinions to yourself. There are people out here who do need some sound and safe advice if for nothing more then to stay sane.

Other wise "E" you wouldn't be here, now would you?

I will not keep my negative opinion of this horrible cheat to myself. You stated you know what she is going through "word for word". I think you know how I arrived at the conclusion that you also diddle married men, or a married man. Is it so far-fetched to think that based on your post? This is an open and free forum so when you post your trash, expect it to smell. It reeks to me and I have every right to post my opinion about it. Who decided this forum was only for helping women??? This forum is also designed for opinions, positive or negative. By the way, when someone poses the question "What should I do?" expect honest answers. I am not ashamed to say I am here to tell her she is sick and twisted and it would be FABULOUS if she showed some regard for the family she screwed over. So glad she has people like you to tell her everythings okay:) I am proud to be on the other side, miles away from a mentality like Katy's and her supporters.

Also, I do not know how you have come to the conclusion that Katy feels badly about what she has done? She claims to have HELPED the family via her affair. Sometimes the best help is a good slap in the face. I do not believe she deserves kindness and understanding after this post. So I guess it is a good thing she has you, huh? You can feel good about your stance as much as I can feel proud of mine.

Well "E", I'm sorry, but I am not as childish as you are and yes it's true it is a good thing that you are miles away becuase the likes of you are ignorant and nieve as I supose the way you live your life as well. You criticize those you don't know and pat yourself on the back. Well pat on, congradulate yourself and I wish you the best. But givien the pattern of cheaters in your life I suspect that you my dear have learn from the best and that your fate with his new man is already written. What's learn at home is often a direction for our life so I guess we can thank mommy and daddy for your ignorance. My prayer is for your kids......to have such an horrible mother with sick and twisted ideas of who is wrong and who is right. And, for the record, before you judge someone or come to the conclusions of others try asking that person, you just might be suprised with thier answers.

Only in a naiive and pathetic mind like yours would someone's fate be decided from their parents actions 15 years ago. Maybe you never learned a lesson from something so awful but others are stronger and have more will to succeed. I will spare you of having to hear about how wonderful my marriage is as I doubt you will be able to go to sleep at night. Again, good luck cheaters:)

"E" As this can continue to go on and on someone must be the adult here. Have a blessed day. ;)

when we have s_x we a__sume the responsibility of what can result from that act. he should have been more cautious about birth control for the both of you and has no right to insist you have an abortion. you want the baby. I hope that you have an easy time with your pregnancy and a healthy child. I can tell that you already love your baby. a child will be lucky and not "ashamed to have a mother like you". women who wrote those cruel things are clearly in a lot of pain in their lives too, so just remember that. they probably have had to deal with husbands who stray and perceiev the other woman as the culprit. it is true that his wife is getting the rawest part of this deal. I hope that she doesn't turn bitter and hateful of women. you didn't make any vows to her in front of god, did you? her husband is the one who let her down.

My boyfriend cheated on me with our childrens babysitter. She was married and had 2 children. It has been 3 yrs since she had the baby. We have not talked to her or her family since the news broke out about the affair. I have found out from a friend that the baby was not her husbands. Now they are going through a divorce and I have not told my (now) husband what I found out. I don't blame you for having the baby, it's yours. Just be very careful you are not having it to get him for yourself. It won't work. The affair my husband had made our relationship stronger. I know it sound weird but the only one who got hurt was the other woman. She lost my husband and her husband and in the process of losing all her children to her husband who wants to adopt the other child.