Scared Mad 8 Mos Pregnant
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Hi everyone. I'm 28 yrs old and got pregnant shortly after my divorce when I started seeing a guy I knew from highschool. He's 31. I have two children from my marriage and one on the way with this guy.
One of the problems is that he has a serious girlfriend that I did not know about. Well now we know about each other and she has decided to stay with him.
He has claimed that he wants to be a dad and take care of the baby. He calls about once a month to check on me and hasn't done much other than that. I am really hesitant and afraid to involve him and his girlfriend with my baby. I am tempted to just cut him out and not deal with him, but I don't want to deprive my baby of a father, either. Plus, I really need the child support. But so far, he's just been very unreliable and lies about dumb things. And I can't depend on him for anything.
I know it sounds selfish, but I wish they would just break up. Not so we can be together, but just so things would be a little less stressful.
I ran into them at the store today, and she didn't know who I was. But it was so awkward and uncomfortable. It just made me feel icky to see them together. I didn't talk to them. I don't want to meet her, but he wants us to meet and "get along". I just don't understand how she'll ever be able to accept my baby when he's the product of her boyfriend cheating on her.
Please tell me what you think.. Thank you.
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melonbelly,
I can understand you wanting to cut him out completely since you are unsure of how his current girlfriend will react to your baby but perhaps at least in the begining you can try limited contact and only with you present at all times. This way one of two things will happen, either you will begin to feel more comfortable about her around your child or you will know for certain that visitation will not work at all. His paying child support should have nothing to do with the time his girlfriend gets to spend with the baby, it's not about her. You have enough on your plate, it will be time for him to step up and make this work.
We wish you all the best, know matter what you decide follow your heart.
All the best,
kellyandbeth
http://www.kellyandbeth.com
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My husband just had a baby girl with another woman my husband and I were seperated for about 6 months last year. After we decided to get back together his girlfriend calls and says she is pregnant. It was hard for both of us at first, but we have had a lot of time to think about it and i had eccepted that my husband was going to have another child that would not be mine. When she was born mom called me to let us know. My husband, myself and our two children went to the hospital to visit the new baby. Everything went well. It was our first time meeting face to face. She was very nice to me as I was to her. But that is it. My husband has gotten to see his daughter twice in the two months since she was born. I know she will not let him see her because of me. She does not want me to claim her as my own or to be taking care of her. I felt the same way when this woman took care if my children when him and her were together but I had to get over it. Nobody loves your children as much as you do. I would try to do what kelly and beth mentioned. Have visits where you are there also or start with a 1 hour visit and see how things go. We have mentioned all of these things the mom but she refuses everything. We are going through a needless Court battle because of it.
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