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As an infant they are very dependent on you! You change them, feed them, and bathe them.. Since you are the only one who can feed her I wouldn't worry about spending too much time with her! Besides you dont want to miss anything! You just need to make time for YOU! You time is very important. If you want I am sure you have people who will watch her for like an hour just so you can either take a walk, shower and rest! Just a little something for YOU!!! At the age 5 or some younger they really want to become independent! you then just let them although you always keep the corner of your eye on them lol

I don't feel the need to have any 'me' time. It's not like I was doing much before she came along. And no, I can't have anyone watch her or leave her too far. I'm b___st feeding and she has an irregular schedule. She could want to eat in ten minutes or four hours, so I have to be there to do it. The only help I get from anyone is to hold her for ten minutes max while I do chores or something. I WANT to be with her all this time, I just don't want her to become too dependent too soon. When my sister was a baby she was so attached to my mom that she would scream her head off the instant she left, and refused to let anyone take care of her. My mom tried to break her of the dependence but it lasted several years, and when it did finally break my sister became very bitter about it...she still is.

have you tried b___st pumps? that way you could try someone else feeding her if sh eneed it while you have me time, or even just so she,s not depentant on you, i plan on b___st feeding but i was worried that if you b___st feed and then use a b___st pump and bottle feed say while im at work she will come attatached to either a bottle or nipple? have you ever tried it?

Aw I wouldn't sweat it. You have to be careful when taking advice from older generations because sometimes they hold on to old beliefs that have been proven wrong. I'm guessing your question is more about whether or not you are teaching your daughter to be clingy and less about you wanting free time. If that's correct dont worry. First of all she is still very young and it is good for her to stay so close to you, especially since you are b___stfeeding. I used to worry that all the time my son spends with me would make him unable to deal with people and be able to deal when I'm not around, but I didn't have a choice for a long time, first because of b___stfeeding, then because there are no other options. He has no negative effects. It is obvious that the reports are true about giving your kids that extra personal time early so they will be more secure. Once they learn about object permanence and learn they can trust you that you'll never leave them, they feel secure enough to branch out and want to be around other people. I was soooo scared my son would cry and be fussy if I left him somewhere or that he didn't get around kids enough, but when he has been left with someone or has been around kids he checks on me to see if I'm calm and that's him checking to see if he should trust the situation, then he dives in. If I walk away, he looks and gets a little confused but continues what he's doing. It's like his brain reminds him that I always come back for him so it's okay. Really I believe what your doing will be the best for her, and will give her a very secure foundation. She has less of a chance of being clingy, having abandonment issues, etc. I mean come on-at this point she doesn't understand the world around her, all she knows is that the milk and cleaning machine is always there and that makes the world okay. If you just left her to make sure she isn't too dependent on you, then she learns early on that there really is nothing you can depend on, not even the one person in the world who you should depend on-that's a very pathetic feeling.

Thank you V! Yes that was my question. I'm really not complaining that I'm around her so much, I actually love it and wouldn't have it any other way :) Isn't there a certain time I should be backing off or will she just let me know when she's ready?