Could Use Some Help With This
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Well I read a thread on here about getting negative tests and still getting your period (or what seems likes a period) but still being pregnant. I'm shaking and about to cry, I'm so afraid to hope that maybe, just maybe, I'm pregnant. I miscarriaged several months ago. Neither this time nor the last was planned. We used condoms, everything. My dreams are so vivid, and they come almost every night. Me giving birth, me pregnant, us with our child. I've been tired and sick, constipated and gassy. Running to the loo every five minutes. I'm leaking and my br___ts are tender and I swear they're getting bigger. Mood swings, back pains. I get a lot of headaches, which I very rarely got in the past. While things don't smell terrible terrible, it's sharper and unpleasant. None of my pants fit anymore. And my stomach feels tighter. I had to quit smoking because I couldn't take the taste/smell. I'm always sweating and I'm thirty more often than I used to be. Heck, even my palms tingle and itch (which I read on another site could be a sign). And I just feel like I'm pregnant. But here's the thing. I feel like I could be making it all up because I want to have a baby so badly. It's the only thing I think about lately. It's ten times worse than after I miscarriaged, this desire to have a child. And I only took one test, which said negative. And I've gotten my period, even though it was late and it seems a lot lighter than usual. But after reading that one thread, I feel myself hoping, And I'm so worried about doing so because I don't want to be disappointed. When I got my period, all I could do was cry. My biological clock and maternal instincts have gone wild. I'm afraid to take another test and I don't want to hope. What does everyone else think? Advice, comments, similar stories?
Also - I don't know why I want to have a baby. I never did in the past, at least not until I was older. But in these last two months or so, I can't think about anything else. I think about it, and dream about it, all the time. I know it's irrational and my partner and I aren't trying, nor do I have any intentions to stop using condoms (though I did stop the birth control, just in case). I can't explain it, it's not to be trendy or to repair a broken relationship or anything.
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It sounds like you were very traumatized from your miscarriage. It's to be expected... Losing a child is so hard, and I'm sorry for your loss. It doesn't sound like you are pregnant, you can take another test, go to the doctor for a blood test, or even convince him to give you a sonogram if you really believe it. I'd love to have another child, in a sense I know where you are coming from. Every time my period comes I get a little disappointed. I turn every day things into pregnancy symptoms. You seem like a very strong girl, with a good head on your shoulders. If you are financially stable, in a stable relationship and have your life together... have you thought about trying to conceive?
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I'd be very happy to start our family right now and start trying to conceive. But we're both rather young, in a month I'll be 18 and he'll be 19 and we're both in school. I've 'got a lot going for me' with my education and the idea of starting a family therefore doesn't seem logical, even if it is what I want the most right now. As for my fiance, he wishes I hadn't miscarriaged, but he doesn't think about intentionally trying to have children, either. And as it's something we should both want, we're waiting.
Thank you for replying, Amanda.
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Lynne i can completely relate to you. Although i don't really want a child as much as i can see you do. And i am as well sorry for your loss. Lately everything is BABY. commericials with baby's.. tv shows with baby's even my dreams have baby's! i'm 17 too, very young.. too young for me to be a mom.. since sometimes i don't even know what to do with my nephew. But i have similar feelings as you do, very confusing and heartbreaking. But i really hope everything goes alrite with you.. you seem to you know what you want and i hope you get it (:
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I'm in a similar situation. I am already a mother, but ever since I had my daughter I've wanted another. Even when I was pregnant I wish I had twins just so no one could blame me for having two haha. I think about having another child all the time, I even have names picked out. But, I'm 18 and I'm having enough problems with school and money with only one child. It hurts, and it's hard, but for the sake of myself and my not-yet to be conceived baby, I have to wait. I'm sorry, but that's all you can do too. I hope you feel better about it though. *hug*
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life is precious ,carpe diem.
You ladies are so young don't rush it ,there is a time for evrything in life.
Some of you are still babies ( no offense but just in the sense that there is so much more in life still to experience)
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