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I got pregnant with my daughter at 19. Had her at 20 and am now 14 weeks pregnant. So ill be a mom of 2 at 21 years old. And i love it. I always wanted to have my kids young. My daughter wasnt planned but she changed my life so much and i wouldnt trade it for the world. This baby was planned. Me n my fiance have our problems but we;re doing very well and are perfectly capable of raising two children. We know what to expect and are financially stable. Im definately its easy b/c its far from it. Being a mom at any age takes a lot of hard work and dedication. Just be sure you're happy with where you are in life/ Do you plan on continuing your education? If not, is your bf going to be the supporter? If you two are ready for a baby then why arent you ready for marriage? Do you live together? Do you pay your own bills. Try living the "marriage life" before you introduce a child into it.

That's something you need to talk to your boyfriend about. If you can afford one, and you've graduated school ( obviously, you're 19 lol ) and you can provide a stable environment then talk to your bf about it! Write down a budget, how much everything would cost, ask people who are already mothers what they spend on this and that and see if you can do it.

And on the previous note-calculate possible extra expenses-like if you have to buy special medicines, special clothes, special food, etc. As for your question, I think with most it's not a question of age. For me it's situation. I would rather have been married. I learned a great lesson recently about the committed boyfriend. And while I can't tell you what to do or change your mind about anything I hope you'll look at why he won't just marry you, even if it is him wanting a baby too. If you have got things going so well then you guys should have no problem getting married first, and trust me, I'm not one who thinks that that piece of paper makes a whole lot of difference but in some cases it does (like having a child) and when your man isn't wanting to get that piece of paper then that is a big red flag. Now I would have wanted to wait for marriage, yes. I would have wanted to wait until I finished college or at least was a little more balanced in life and school. There were things I wanted to do that people would do anyway with their child but it isn't the same. Like study abroad, go on a road trip to Canada, experience a relationship and wild fun without having to constantly check to make sure the baby's still asleep. Having a baby takes a toll on a relationship-and by that I'm not saying it is necessarily bad, but all that personal time, fun, s_x, hanging out, concerts, dates, etc-goes out the window. Yes, you can get mom to baby sit for date night once a week, but planning romance takes a toll when you are used to trying to spend as much time as possible together. That's the thing I missed the most while me and my bf were still together. I really wished I had more time to just enjoy young love. When you have a baby, you can never fully disconnect. I finally went to a concert last summer and though it was sooo friggin awesome, every 15 minutes I was on the phone checking on my 6 month old. MOM GUILT IS THE WORSE and it's persistent and your guy never fully understands it. Even when you need a break more than anything in the world, when you leave that baby, you always feel so horrible for doing it, and you never fully get a break. So yeah I'd wait and see how things go. If your questioning it and you and your bf are of age and have been together this long and aren't on the path to marriage then yes I'd wait and see. I'd get everything out of your system, and I also don't like all the trying to get pregnant stuff. When you are secure, stop the birthcontrol and condoms and let it happen naturally. If it's meant to be it'll be. So really, take a look at your life, and if there's things you still want to do or enjoy with your mate-even if it's camping next summer or something you tell yourself that you'll rearrange to fit a baby in, then DON"T DO IT! I always wanted a baby, and I couldn't stop thinking about having a baby when I fell in love with my bf, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you need one-I'm not saying don't do it! I'm just saying to really dig in your brain because it is a b___tload, and while it's worth it-it's a frigging b___tload.

I would have to say bad idea at the moment; sounds like you and your BF have some living to do before you start a family. I have to agree with newbaby; if you are so ready for a child why not try marriage or living together first? Do you pay for your own home or live with parents? DO you pay all your own bills? Are you going to further your education? I understand your need for a baby but you (both) will be happier in the future if you take care of yourself first; live your life, mature more, and see what that holds before starting a family so quickly. I understand it is your decision but I have friends who became parents at 18 and others who waited...do your child a favor, wait...a few years will not hurt you and you will more than likely be in a better situation for a baby than you are now regardless. Please understand that i know age is not the determining factor to being a good mother but a few more years under your belt will only help the situation. Take care of your needs now; when you do choose to bring a new life into this world your needs have to go on the back burner. Also, this will last for the next 18 years (and more) after the child is born. Being a mom does not come with an on or off b___ton. I hope you consider your future first, take care of what you need, and then you will be in a better place to take care of a baby. I have seen too many teen and older mothers mikling the system that we pay a lot of money into. I am not saying you are included but please do not become a statistic. It sounds like you want it and you want it now....which has me thinking you are a little on the imature side. Throw that line of thinking out the window...Just please reserch all aspects, list pros and cons and talk with your family. They care about you and will hopefully be honest in their advise. Did anyone watch the baby borrowers? I really think that was the best experiment and any young women who desperatly wants a baby (right now) to have to watch an infant day and night for a few days. It is not always as easy as it looks. Being a mother is one of the best things on the planet but one must be ready for the challenge...GL.