How Much Worse Could This Get
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About four months ago me and my bf had s_x and the condom broke. At first I wasn't conserned about pregnancy just getting a STD or STI. But then I started no feel weird if that makes scense and i didn't really think about what it could mean because it didn't occur to me untill I missed my period. I waited a week to make sure that it wasn't going to sneek up on me and finally took a home pregnancy test. The results were unmistakeable there was the pink line. I stayed in the bathroom for over an hour just crying. I was luckey I was home alone or my mother might have found the test before I threw it in the neighbors trashcan. I waited untill I had my first ultrasound to tell my bf about it. And it turned out that I was going to have twins... A pair of identical girls. That was when I had a total breakdown... I was asking things like how will I pay for two babies at once? How will I tell my mom and dad? Will I keep them? Will I keep one? And if I do bow will I choose? Will they have defects from me being so young? That's just some of what went through my mind. So it was time to tell my bf about it. I went to the store and found a shirt that said "four feet will be pitter pattering in a few months". Of course it was big on me I figured I'll be able to wear it when I tell my parents and for a wile after that to so it wasn't a waist of money. I asked my bf to meet me at the movies for a surprise. When I saw him we kissed h__lo and then I unzipped my sweat shirt so that only he could read what it said. I swear he almost fainted. The first thing he asked was "are they mine or are you playing a prank on me?" and when I said they were his beacouse I lost my verginity that night and the ultrasound said that it happened on that day, he basi ly said "I'm not ready to be a father" and ran for the hills. Of course I was crying, and I figured that I might as well tell my parents that night. When I took off my jaket and walked into the kitchen my mom left and literly passed out in the living room. And from there on I've been confined to the house except fo work and I dropped out of school so no need to worry about that... I'm now 17 weeks pregnant and my twins are doing great so far and I'm hoping it stays that way...
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One of the single most important things you can do for your children is get an education so you can support both you and them. Try to go back to school, even if it's getting your GED or taking the extended cla__ses offered to pregnant teens and teen moms.
Second, have you signed up for everything? WIC, welfare, food stamps, everything you can think of? It's a right pain to run around, but it'll be to the benefit of your children.
Third, make sure the father understands he's going to be paying child support, even if he isn't ready to be a father. Again, it's what's best for your children.
And finally, and on the brighter side, your parents may come around when they see their grandchildren. It hits a lot of parents hard when they learn that their children are pregnant, and it takes some time. But I would have a talk with them (this is what I would personally do, the choice is of course yours)about confining you to the house. You're going to be a parent, and you're going to have to do what's best for your children, which includes leaving the house.
Good luck.
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