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Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly, and getting married just because of an unplanned pregnancy can take a bad situation and make it worse. Yes, your parents will be livid, but you need to tell them. Once the shock wears off, they will be there to support you. If after calm and rational thought you decide it is the best thing to get married then do so with your parent's blessing. But don't dive into something that can just make things worse. If you can't find help with your parents, talk to another adult you trust. Teacher, neighbour, other relative, guidance counsellor, etc. Even your doctor (please tell me that you've already started your prenatal check-ups) can help you find support if your parents are not going to help. Pregnancy and raising a child are two of the most challenging times in any one's lives -- please -- for your own sake and that of your child, please reach out and find help before doing anything rash.

yea its in pennsylvania me and my boyfriend were going to drive there and get married but i wasnt even pregnant yet and we have only been dating 4 months and were about to be going on 2 years so if theres even the smallest doubt in your head dont do it cause like i said we've almost been dating for 2 years and im 20 weeks pregnant and im not even sure if we can last that sounds horrible but the truth and the last thing i think you have to be 16 years old before they even let you

Yes, never make life-altering decisions out of desperation. It's like driving (which legally you can't do), when you run into an emergency,the stupidest thing to do is to panic and jerk the wheel. It's over-correcting-people flip cars and kill themselves doingstuff like that. The biggest mistakes I have made in my life have come from panicking and over-correcting. Also, if you get married that means that you are the responsibility of your boyfriend. I'm guessing he is underaged too, so how are you guys going to survive? Is he going to find a job, buy a house, food, etc. for you both inthe next two weeks. You are pushing on a road that is going to lead to a lot of resentment from him. Of course you are already pregnant, but you are still your own responsibility and your parents'. If you marry him, you will make him responsible for you AND the baby, and finding shelter, and trying to figure out how to survive, and for working, etc etc etc. If you really want to marry him and make it work, why not have the baby, work together in taking care of it, with the help of adults. Allow him the room to age and slowly get able to support himself, and the baby, the he can growinto being able to support all three of you without such a jump. Slow adjustment into adulthood and responsibility is always best, especially with guys. I wonder why is this so urgent ithas to be done in two weeks?

You guys, read her other post. She wants to get married in a different state because she's 14 and her boyfriend is 24 and her mother is giving her an ultimatum.

her other post is "Need some real answers to my problem"