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so i havent been here for a while but i have a son who is 16 months.. and h__lo to all the girls out there.. anywways im starting to feel really.. like i dont belong see i lost a lot of my friends wheni got pregnant and people my age are all about partying and drinking and i dont do any of that anymore i just kind of sit at home.. and now my son is in daycare which i am really happy about but the other moms wont even really talk to me... or they are really nice until they find out how old i am and then its like.. oh.. and i dont understand i mean i went to college i work as a medical office assistant and i dont feel young mentally but its like these moms have a specail society and im not alowed in it.. and i was really looking forward to doing play dates and getting to know the other moms.. so now im not sure what to do? any help would be awesome
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you are 21 right??? i'm also 21 i know how you feel bc i feel the same way. i am a stay at home mom with a almost 2 year old but right now i am 33 weeks and 3 days pregnant with identical twin boys and in the hospital on bedrest. i don't get to talk to a lot of people bc i'm not alowed to walk around or anything so this is the only way to talk to people.
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Well those other moms sound like jerks... There has to be at least one of them that doesn't have a huge bug up their b___t so keep an open mind to that. I say if you're feeling down it's perfectly okay to give yourself a break. Higher a babysitter, go out and have a good time! I'm a__suming it's been over 16 months since you really gave yourself a break, so it's about time for one. :)
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I am sorry you are feeling bad. You are young, but you are also an adult, so I do not see why other moms would be so quick to exclude you. And the friends that left you when you were pregnant are definitely not friends at all! Have you tried initiating talk with the other moms? Or tried setting up play dates? It sucks to have to be the one to step up...but maybe they will respond positively.
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yea im almost 21.... wow twin boys.. haha i wish you luck.. i have my hands full with one little boy!! I dont really have any babysitters.. i mean my mom does it but i have to drive 45 mins to drop him off and after that i just dont want to do anything cuz its another 45 mins home... and i have tried to set up dates but they are alwasy busy or something comes up or they dont call! sooo i dunno maybe ill jsut keep trying and one day one of them will actually step up and do it! its weird cuz its like.. as soon as you are labeled as a teen mom ppl turn their heads.. and i dont really even consider myself a teen mom.. i was already 18 when i got pregnant!
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wow 21 isn't even that young! How cruel of the others! Are there no other mums there that who are a close in age to you or seem a bit more friendly than the others? I suspect that you may get to chat to them more as ur kids all make friends with each other.
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I've encountered the same type of situation, and I'm not a teen mom by any stretch of the imagination! I'm in my mid 20's and I really don't think I look THAT young. But nevertheless, the "soccer moms" seem to shun me no matter what group my 3 year old and I join (I also have an 8 month old)... I don't know, I think it's just that some women are naturally clique-ish and catty. It's unfortunate, but I suppose it still happens even long after jr high is over....
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