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haha after two kids and this depo lupron shot I would love a answer to this as well!! TMI, but with this shot not only is my s_x drive pretty much nothing, but even when i can get in the mood, i have no form of lubrication....that can propose a problem when on the spot...hmm

I'd also love to know the answer! My s_x drive disappeared long ago, and it's out there somewhere hiding from me! I get the odd flashes, but nothing to write home about. I have a better s_x life in my mind than in reality!

OMG I am so glad you bought this question up Amanda17 - me too - mine is virtually non existent - I haven't had s_x since my bub was born and she is 5 months old!!!!!! - my hubby is very patient but I know (and understand) that he is very frustrated. We do other stuff - but I never really initiate it or am in the mood for it. Its not like I am not attracted to him because I definitely am (I still think he is as s_xy as when we first met) - and I don't fantasize about having s_x with anyone else - It is really horrible - I just want to have a "normal" s_x drive again - at least I know I am not alone - but what do we do about it????

HAHAHA oh girls, i had the same issue, we went for months without s_x and it was sooo depressing and things that used to turn me on didnt anymore and you know i did, i got new things to turn me on, i tried outfits,candles, anything vanilla is supose to boost the s_x drive, i was also on the depo shot and it was like a dry dessert in there and after i tried outfits and smells i did something inever thought i would, I GOT A VIBRATOR!! LOL i know what you are thinking, if i cant have s_x how can i masturbate, honestly i t was almost as if i had to reteach myself to get off, because nothing that used to work worked anymore, and once in started getting back in tune with myself by masturbating s_x CAME BACK!!! now we do it at least 4 times a week and sometimes twice in a day. and im talking i went FOREVER without it. so i know it seems weird and i thought it was kinna gross but it worked and let me tell you now that i retaught myself i know different feelings during s_x and i can have better orgasm then i had before i even had austin!!!

Thank God I am not alone!! I was embarra__sed to say it haha. I feel so bad about it, Harold is trying different ways to get me in the mood but nothing is working. I've also tried masturbating but it's awkward for me and I could never really get into that either.

i also have this prob, im just putting it down to being heavily pregnant! but it started the second i found out i was pregnant lol! i used to have a very high s_x drive and now its just not there! i get moments about every 2-4weeks where im really h__y for like 2 days and we,l have s_x like 5 times so that keeps him happy................whats annoying is sometime i,ll be in the mood and just as things are moving along i all of a suddon loose the mood and we have to stop........i hate being touched sometimes which doesnt help! 9im hoping this will disapear.................i find that if im not thinking about s_x and he gives me a ma__sage or just cuddles that helps....................you could look on google for things that could help............also this might sound weird but have you tried c___torus stimulation to help you m_________e more easliy? i dont think a vibrater could ever feel nice to me lol! i need to be touched in other places lol db maybe buy some lube?

Amanda I swear i feel like i follow you around cause you and i seem to have the same issues in the same time frame...lol...After i had dante it took me several months to get back in the groove of s_x, but honestly ill admit it, I became a mega b___h after I had dante. Jimmy and i werent doing so well so that is when we had our mutural split. I didnt get my s_x drive back til i started sleeping with my ex, and well about the only way to make him happy was with s_x.....gucci is right, explore new things. i think having a baby is like a new start as you as a woman, so everything you liked before is different. Honestly the best thing ever for dh and I was when we split up, we both slept with different people, and because they were DIFFERET people and him and i before then had only been with each other, it didnt feel awkward trying new things, because the new people didnt know anything about us s_xually...Luckily dh and i were still very close when we split up, so we were able to talk to each other about our new s_x life and what we liked....It made s_x GREAT when we got back together...NOT SAYING YOU SHOULD VENTURE OFF FROM HAROLD AT ALL BTW!! Just wanted to share my side. S_x was great until 2 hours after my water broke with zaiden....lol.....But since Ive had Zaiden i have had so many problems from my infection from my c sec, to the endometriosis, my surgery, this lupron shot...I just have had NO s_x drive...like lady said, I have a great s_x drive in my mind, but when it comes down to doing it. I have no desire at all what so ever. Dh is GREAT! he has told me before that he loves me and eventhough s_x is a big thing for both him and I he knows i am going through alot and wont try to talk me into it, or manipulate me into it, or try 50 million different ways to seduce me. I feel, horrible when he says things like that because i know that everytime he gets turned down by me it has to hurt his self esteem...I know it would hurt mine if i EVER got turned down for s_x. Like you amanda. I dont do any special s_xual acts for him because i feel ANYTHING s_xual should be mutual. Though i want to please him, i just feel like i have to be in the mood to do anything for him such as head, or even a simple hand job....honestly a hand job wouldnt be a big deal to me, but i feel stupid like it is somthing 15 year olds would do...I mean what what wife only gives her dh a hand job?...I just feel like it wouldnt be good enough and mybe even a insult to him

a___l, lolwe have lube, for umm other things lol, but we arent use to it for v____al s_x so the few times we have tried it is a major mood breaker, and we havent been in a place where the lube is easy to get too. a___l, i know s_x and pregnancy can be horrible, With #1 we pretty much had no s_x, and i promised with Zaiden I wouldnt let that happen.....lol it didnt! We had s_x 5-6 times a day with Zaiden and once after my water broke...which is a VERY bad idea btw.....We made up our own positions for pregnncy, we used evening primrose capsules for lubricant, because it helps soften your cervix...things like the evening primerose oil made s_x alot better, because it made s_x GREAT and it made us feel like we were helping labor in the process...I was in a way better mind frame with Zaiden to have great s_x. I did LOTS of research, and talked to lots of people about it. We didnt even have to be in the mood. it would be like "well i thought of a new position today lets try it" then once we got the ball rollin, it was more exciting then the usual

After kids you TOTALLY and COMPLETELY lose your s_x drive (for some). It's not always true, but lots of women go through this trust me. I didn't have s_x for MONTHS after Addy was born. Granted Jeff was overseas, but he did come to visit us after she was born and we STILL didn't have s_x lol. This time around it's a little different but that's not the point. Anyways, I digress. What you should do is really look into all the types of forplay you and Herald can do. That might actually turn you on, which will hopefully get you guys into having s_x.. with in turn might make you want to have s_x more you know what I mean? Or just try to initiate it. But you should start by spending more alone time together. Cuddling together on the couch watching a movie, or enjoying being together. Maybe that will help.

I'll try to explore new horizons lol. Not to be too personal but... What is your guys' favorite foreplay thing to do? I'm not sure where to start. We cuddle all the time but that just makes me want to sleep haha

db i never knew that epo helped soften the cervix? i may try it............ amanda do you mean what they like to do or what they like having done? i think oral s_x for us either way although i have not done that to him since the begening of my pregnancy where i felt so sick all the time........he seems to enjoy it alot tho............tonie said to me that the best way to please him is to show him how h__y he is making me, he likes it the more i like it if you know what i mean.......you could try asking him to do soemthing like kissing your neck or whatever does it for you and see how it makes you feel..........so you dont feel like your turning him down as your not actually doing much......or light forepaly and see where it leads.............a thing that worked for me a couple of times is tonie stroking me abut with my hand on top of his leading the way so he is doing exactly what i want him to be doing........

I dunno. That's all the stuff we usually do. Lately I don't like being touched more than a hug or a peck on the cheek.

i love it when we are just laying there like things are completely innocent then he lightly starts rubbing my inner thigh....and im sure you can see where it goes from there ; )

I also love it when i rub his back and i "accidentally" suduce him by straddleing him and giving a suductivly innocent back ma__sage, until he cant take it anymore and throws me off him and takes over......Honestly i like things to start innocent like, then i like things really rough

lol gucci. I am big on the c___t stinulation too in fact it is one of the only ways i can get off, so when dh and i have s_x i usually have to lean forward on him so it rubs the right spot or i have him lean forward so he hits the right spot. I have this tingling gel that you can use on your c___t. it basically feels like toothpaste...lol, and astroglide is our friend for other things *wink*

lol i am embara__sed to ask this question but is rubbing your own c___t and getting off masterbation? if not then i can count on one hand how many times i have m_________ed in my life...lmfao!