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Okay I'm gonna need someone else to back me up on this or disagree with sure knowledge, but I have never known a pill that is deactivated by smoking drinking or using drugs. It doesn't work that way. Yes the booklet will say "women taking the pill should not smoke or drink for this can increase their risks..." but their talking about blood clots. Yes certain prescription drugs can deactivate the pill....like antibiotics......buuuuut come on that means we REALLLLLY would have a population control problem because almost EVERY woman on the pill would get pregnant. I mean come on-colleges would be full of men and a few virgin women and pregnant women who didn't drop out. Do you know how many girls who are regularly drinking, s_xually active, and occa__sionally dabbling in drugs and are on the pill??? I used to be obsessed with s_x advice shows and the question of alcohol and drugs affecting birth control came up and they always said NO!!! No birth control out there is like there or it wouldn't have been pa__sed to go on the market-it would be pointless-it wouldn't be birth control. God it could only be pa__sed out to strict married christians who never smoke drink or do drugs. Now if you were on antibiotics to treat some kind of infection like a UTI then yeah it's completely understanding, if you were missing pills-oh yeah, and even if you didn't then your with me in that 1 or 2 percent of women who get preggo on birth control. Now they do say that drinking and drug use increases your chances of pregnancy or std's only because it lowers inhibitions and you don't practice safe s_x. If there is anyone who has heard of a new pill that is rendered useless from smoking or substance use please let me know. Anyway Manda, How far along are you, and have you talked to your parents?

When you are given the pill by your doctor he EXPLAINS all these things to you...? Were you listening then? Anyway you are 15, having s_x, smoking, drinking and taking drugs!?!?!? You need to get help now!

I agree with lunamoo, what's wrong with you? I mean okay I lost my virginity when I was 14, I'm very open about that and I don't regret it, I knew very much that I was in love so I'm not going to a__sume you aren't. But smoking, drinking, doing drugs?! How do you think your baby is going to turn out? If you continue that c___p your baby might not even survive. I met a girl the other day, she went to my school, and she was talking to me about how she was addicted to whatever drug of choice. At the hospital where she gave birth they tested her baby and found that the same drug was in her baby's system. He was immediately taken away from her. Is that the kind of fate you want for you kid? You need some help, and not like oh I'm gonna go on the internet so people will support me help, like real help.

First off, im no longer doing drugs or drinking, and i've already gotten help for that. i attend an aftercare group every tueday for an hour. It used to be an IOP group three days a week, three hours each day. but i graduated that group at the end of may. it was hard but i sobered up. i kno its crazy that im only 15, but i wouldnt come to a websit looking for more help if it wasnt true. i delt with that problem since i was in 7th grade, but decided to get help and actually use it after getting caught in a "drug bust". Even my boyfriend, the owner of the house where the bust happened, kicked his habits. He's been out of detention or juevy for 36 days on parental house arrest until his next trial, which is on August 19th. his lawyer said he'll be put on drug court. which means he'll get tested either every day or every other day. and they'll take the chargs off his record or reduce them. It's a scary situation to e in at our age. Anyways, I did miss pills but i would always take them when i noticed which would be a day or 2 later. i guess that was my mistake and not the prior problem. My only concern at this point is this baby and the health of this baby until i decide what im going to do. Im not sure if i want an abortion, or to get the baby adopted, or to raise him or her. I haven't talked to my mom about it yet because i want to decide before i tell her. im only 12 days late so im pretty sure that means im 12 days pregnant right?. Thanks to everyone so far. sometimes you need critisim to get you goin.

If you graduated the whole group then how did you miss your period and how else was the pill deactivated meaning you'd have to have been doing drugs/drinking/etc while pregnant.

if you are 12 days late then you are already around 4 weeks pregnant.

That was a nice ending statement Manda, I appreciate that. Anyway have you taken a test yet? I kinda got the impression that you were just a__suming you were pregnant. Good job on getting some help though. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.

Thanks everyone. AddyMummy- i explained that i must of been wrong and i respect you all for letting me know whats up. i dont really know what it was. but i do know im pregnant. at least thats what the test said. is there anyway it could be wrong? ive read about it and it said there not really false positives. i duno if thats really true. And wow 4 weeks. a month. goodness gracious. I kinda want to know what some people would do in my situation. My boyfriends going to back me up in any decision. and he's going to be working alot and making money since he only has to take 2 cla__ses this year. And he gets 15 thousand dollars on his birthday in a couple of months. And he had 15 thousand hidden in a safe that he found after getting out of detention, which was veryyy lucky. I know babies cost alot of money but i think between that and our parents, that wouldn't be a huge problem. Plus my boyfiends grandpa just died and left him some money to buy a peice of land. he said that someday we can get a little house. i really am in love with him. ive never felt this way with anyone. Anyways, what would you do? im scared that i wouldn't know how to take care of the baby. I would never everrrr put anothers life in jepordy. its a scary situation to me.

I just wanted to see if that's what I got right or not.

Im not really sure what the question is. sorry.

I don't have a question, you answered what I didn't know or was confused about.

Okay hunny first of all I give you props for kicking the drugs-that's impressive for 15 and hell if Drew can do it so can you! Anyway, no one can help you decide what to do. There are some people who might say have the baby and either deal with the consequences of your actions or give it up to a family that can't have kids, some might say have an abortion-so we can't help on that. The most mature thing you can do right now is realize that you are not mature enough-and I mean brain development-and that's not an insult, it's true-to make the decision alone. At 15 your brain is going through so many changes, you'll notice the difference every two years when you look back at yourself-and I think the other girls can agree with me there. You need to talk to your mom, a counselor, a responsible older friend, your boyfriends mom, an older responsible cousin, an aunt-someone who is older and well placed in life who can help you figure this out. And I'm not saying go to them and have them tell you what they want you to do. It has to be someone you trust and you usually can talk to about things who just helps you see the pros and cons of every decision, instead of trying to sway your judgment-you need to do that now. No offense but if you are in the situation where you are pregnant, didn't know how birth control worked, missed day, and thought you were 12 days pregnant because that's when you missed your period, then you DO NOT need to be walking around pregnant without some kind of talking to. Some kind of guidance. And again I don't mean that as a diss, I just mean that there is sooo much about pregnancy, health, these MAJOR decisions you are thinking over-everything, that you can't go into blindly, at least for your baby's sake. You NEED to talk to an adult and someone who can hurry up and get you to a doctor because even if you haven't decided what you're going to do, you should be on prenatal vitamins and checked out, because what if youdecide to keep it-at this stage it is sooo important to have everything you need. Good luck and PLEASE find an adult-an informed adult who can get your at least started. Like you said, you would never put another life in jeopardy, but every day you don't take take care of yourself and get the care and info you need, you could be.

Alright I'll tell you what I did in your situation. As most people on here know I have had abortions, and I have a daughter now. If you're going to ask me do I regret getting an abortion... Ish. I was 15&16 when I had them, I was really friggin stupid, in a tough spot in my life and had no business having a kid. I just think that if you aren't 100% sure you want to have one, you shouldn't get one. Even 99.9% don't do it. To tell you the truth, having those abortions and having a child now has actually made me religious. It sounds ridiculous but I believe God wanted my daughter to be born, and it took her three tries to get here but she made it through. I regret that I wasn't ready for her. *cough* Okay getting a little emotional here. I got pregnant with my daughter on my 17th birthday. I was scared out of my mind but eventually I decided enough was enough, I was going to own up to my responsibilities, stop being such d__n child and take care of her myself. With or without the help or approval of anyone else. But first, I hit wikipedia like a sack of bricks and did EVERYTHING I could do get as educated as I possibly could. I read about getting pregnant, pregnancy, labor, parenting, the first year, the toddler years, starting preschool, how to deal with a teenager etc etc etc. Now I'm like a walking text book, I'm even giving my mom advice and she has six kids! I wanted to know exactly what I was getting myself into. I calculated out the cost of living with a child, what kind of job I would need, what kind of house I would want, what area I wanted to live in, what type of things I'd like to be able to afford, what kind of school I want her to go to, what hours I want to work... then I figured out the perfect job and calculated out how much schooling I would need to get that job and how long it would take me to reach that goal. I even set up b___stfeeding goals and added them in there too. I made sure I covered every single possible bit of information I might need. I went all out on it, I was obsessed with it my entire pregnancy, I'm still obsessed with it. I research(ed) until I turned blue in the face and then some. After I was confident with the basics which took me maybe 3 months, I finally told my mom and she set up a much needed doctors appointment and gave me prenatals (Don't wait to tell your parents like I did, you need those appointments and vitamins right now) I had my first appointment in January, and heard her heartbeat for the first time. Cried my eyes out. At 24ish weeks I had my first ultrasound, found out the s_x. Cried my eyes out again. At 32 weeks I had a preeclampsia scare and thought I might need to be induced prematurely. I cried my eyes out. At 37 weeks she was born. I probably cried just as hard as she did. In the hospital I wouldn't put her down, when the nurses took her away I stared at the door waiting for them to come back. The first night home was easy. She slept through the whole night. I couldn't of course, because my milk came in and my b___bs felt like they were going to erupt. My shirt was drenched. First three weeks were pretty smooth. Every three hours like clockwork she would eat for 20 minutes. Regardless of day or night. And when she wasn't eating she was sleeping. It was a very healthy schedule. After those three weeks though... she started crying, a lot. I tried everything. Feeding her, burping her, changing her, playing with her, comforting her, giving her gas drops, giving her gripe water, infant tylenol... nothing worked. She's 10 weeks old now. Still nothing is working. I even saw several nurses and doctors about it, all acknowledging she has a problem, but none knowing what to do about it. There are days where I just sit rocking her watching her cry because I can't do anything for her. You feel very inadequate when you love someone so much but you're helpless to make her happy. There are tough times to parenting, you will get frustrated out of your mind but you can't show it. You have to put on your happy face with a silly voice and sing her songs while in your head you're thinking "Seriously, why can't you just go to SLEEP??" You'll be up all hours of the night, that's for sure. And you'll be too tired to move, my legs always feel like they'll collapse from under me. BUT being a parent is rewarding, I love waking up to my daughter every morning, scooping her up, feeding her, talking to her, reading to her, showing her pictures and letting her feel different textures of things. She just learned to smile and tears swell up in my eyes every time she does. When I leave the room she looks around for me, and if she hears me coming down the hall I always open the door to her waiting for me. I look forward to every stage in her life as well as appreciate the ones happening now. I've never been more happy doing anything more than being a parent. So that's been the first two months for me so far...mhm

umm mandapanda sorry but drugs, smoking and drinking does not cancel out the pill the only drug that can is antibiotics so unless you were addicted to them im sorry but i dont think so! amanda your last comment just nearly made me cry lol

I was crying when I wrote it haha. We've probably got more hormones than we know what to do with :P

Thanks guys for the help. today i went and talked to my boyfriends grandma ( i would of talkded to his mom but shes in jail) Shes going to help me sit down my mom and tell her in the next few days. that took some b___s. Anyways, Angelmonkey you obveously have not read the entire conversation. i do not understand why your critisizm now when i already had this conversation. V9653- thank you very much for the help. reading that made me really glad i told my boyfriends grandma cuz i dont want to hurt this baby. amanda17- i really look up to your story. i duno how you do it. but im really glad your here to give me advice. i strongly look up to you and V9653 for the help. Thanks Yall :) and good luck to you and your families