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I'm so sorry your feeling horrible. I went through ppd during my pregnancy and after too. It really sucked because I planned the pregnancy and tried for so long, but I couldnt even enjoy it at the end. Please if you really feel that bad there are medications that you can take. I know we never want to resort to that when we're pregnant but like prozac and zoloft are ok when pregnant. The stress of severe depression is worse then the medications. I only gained 11lbs when I was pregnant, my daughter was only 5lbs 12oz. I cried, had panic attacks, my blood pressure went through the roof. At some points I was suicidal. This time I plan to go on meds at the first sign of trouble because I WILL enjoy this pregnancy. Feel better and do not feel horrible about posting like this. Others are/have been in this situation. You cant help it.

im sorry you feel like this pcfwife.....maybe you could talk to your doc about pmd while pregnant? it could just be your hormones i know i had days where i was like i dont even want this baby! whats wrong with me i think every women feels like it at some point while there pregnant! but i didnt feel as bad as your feeling you should tell someone about it tell your doctor how you feel......it may get better with time i know i dont feel like that anymore as it seems more real i can feel the baby move ect but if your really worried defo talk to your doc.............good luck

at first i wasnt happy about being pregnant! When i took the test.. I went into my room where my bf was and threw it at him. I locked myself in the bathroom crying. He laughed and it only made me more angry. I think what you need to do is 1.) Write down all the things that are really bothering you at the moment! Be honest and dont just soften up the truth! 2.) Consult your doctor, give them the paper or tell them straight out: This is what i am feeling! 3.) Ask them questions, ask the other pregnant woman around you *if you get along with them* and see what they say! *its just my opinion* I think you do have ppd. Your thoughts shouldnt be that severe. Its normal to go through stages of like: am I sure i want this? will this baby like me or will they hate me? Talk things out with your husband open up to him!!!! I wish you the best of luck! Let me know how things go! AylaRose

Honey one of three things could be going on. 1. you could just be having an extreme reaction to the reality of impending motherhood and are overwhelmed and that's making you depressed. 2. It could simply be pregnancy induced. or 3 which it sounds like with the severity of it-you could have problems that you just didn't notice until now but are being amplified by your hormones. You could be undiagnosed bipolar, someone who was severely depressed before, or have unresolved issues from your past that are being brought up by your pregnancy and it's causing severe depression. You need to talk to your doctor about it because this isn't just a hiccup like most women experience, what you are describing sounds more serious than that, and there isn't anything wrong with it and it isn't your fault. A friend of mine went through the same thing in her pregnancy and she found out she was undiagnosed bipolar and her pregnancy was bringing up some past molestation issues she never dealt with and she was ready to kill herself. THe reality is that you aren't that far along and things only get worse from here, even after the baby comes, most women who were happy before will experience baby blues or ppd. So imagine what it will be like for you. It really is proven and most good doctors will tell you to report any strange emotional events in pregnancy so they can get you the help you need because it really just gets ten times worse after the baby is born. When I was in the hospital the nurses questioned me several times about how I was feeling and I lied feeling like they'd think I was a bad mom, well I regret it to this day. I ended up home with a baby I had to care for-who's survival depended on me, and I was already depressed and overwhelmed-I was in a constant state of panic. I realized from another girl that if I had just been honest, they would have connected me with organizations that would have given me more help and support, which is what I needed!!! So I beg you to please seek some help, and don't just let a doctor hand you a prescription for some kind of anti-depressant. Make sure you get a doctor who will sit down and talk with you, evaluate you, refer you to a counselor, make sure it isn't chemical, etc. Take care of this now so you have a chance to enjoy your pregnancy, bond with your baby, and be ready for the arrival of the most shock that will ever come to you in your entire life. Because that's what happens when you have a baby and you realize they are there and they are alive-it is a huge shock and it really takes a couple of months before you are really adjusted-it took me over a year and I am so ANGRY I didn't get help, because that was a year I could have been enjoying my son the way I am now, gotten more sleep, gotten adjusted, but instead I was in a constant state of just trying to survive it and make sure he survived. I was suicidal, and really only living because I was all he had and that is no way to be and isn't fair to him. So if I can save you from wasting precious moments-I'll do anything...I'm here for you if you need, and there is nothing wrong with you for having difficulties. These are the things that happen to many women but was one of those things that women kept quiet about for sooooo many years. So don't feel that your abnormal, it really is more common than you think-and is probably EVEN MORE common than is reported because women still don't want to admit to some of their difficulties for fear they will be looked at like they are a bad person.

hey guys thanks for answer this post.. i talk to my husband and he says that my emotions are out of whack since i been pregnant and he will be going with me to the doctor to tell them whats been going on.. guys i look at everyone and theyseem soo happy and i am really not so i need help... im glad that this forum is around because its good to no that im not the only one going through this.. i thought that if i told the doctor the truth that the army would look at me different and wouldnt want to send me places my husband is going because of medical issues.. when i told my husband my concerns he held me and told me no that they will help me and they will be happy that im actually getting help because it seems to be a problem over here that alot of pregnant women are suicidel, because they are away from family and pregnant and going through what im going through so thanks guys for helping me soo much and telling me whats been going on with you

i have to say that yes i am extremely happy now that i'm pregnant, but when i first found out that i was still pregnant (had bled a lot and the doc told me i had a m/c) i had myself so convinced that i wasn't ready that i wasn't exactly happy to be pregnant. i had to take progesterone twice a day and i was in horrible pain and had horrible cramps and was not happy at all. granted i didn't think of things to do to myself, but i wasn't bubbly like those fakies on tv lol. i would say talk to your doc because as your get further along in your pregnancy your hormone levels will build up more and more and it may intensify your feelings. definitely talk to your doc about this so you get to enjoy your pregnancy!