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You have three options, and I think it might be better if you sat down with a loved one, a friend, or a family member who is very open minded and discussed it . No one would blame you for getting an abortion sweetie, you had no choice! It's something you're handling very well too. Firstly, take a deep breath. You've taken all the right steps so far. I'm sorry the morning after pill didn't work. Abortion, Adoption, or you Keeping the baby, all are options you need to think about. You should sit down with yourself, take a piece of paper out and weigh out the pros and cons, and take every little thing into consideration. Then look over the list that you have and see what is best. You can turn the paper sideways make three columns one for Abortion, Adoption, Keep then under "Pros" and "Cons" at each one. Just write down whatever comes to mind. Then if you talk to someone who is open minded, maybe it will help your decision. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you chose to do.

i slightly disagree addy. i totally agree that she has taken all the correct steps so far and kudos to her because if that had been me, i wouldn't have been able to think straight. i don't feel, however, that abortion is an option because she has already said she wouldn't want to do it and if she doesn't want to in any way, it would absolutely crush a person to have it done when they don't want to. even a little bit. i agree with the other choices though.

She said she was impartial to abortion, that's why I told her ya know weigh the pros and cons to each thing.. in the end it's all up to her and what she thinks is best. If she keeps the baby, wonderful for her, I wish her the best. If she aborts, wonderful for her and I wish her the best... etc so on so forth lol.

Thanks so much for your replies girls :) Thats a real good idea addysmummy, think it would be easier to figure it all out if it was there in black and white in front of me cos at the moment its all whirling round in my airy head! Its sort of a feeling of.... i dunno, love for this little thing in me, but disgust at how it got there and feel angry him doing something like that that was hard enough on its own, but now this. Yaaaarrggh!!! xxx

Whatever happens and whatever you chose to do, it will alll be for the best no matter what choice you make. Good luck, hun.

well, yeah, but she said that she didn't think she wanted to. so when someone says that, i usually encourage them to not consider it. i know what you mean though.

Hey sweetie, i'm so sorry for what you are going through. God I hate monsters like that who take something that is supposed to be so beautiful to you, and make it something u almost despise. I went through a similar situation and I just wanted you to know that I've been through all of the pros and cons-I've dealt with the ups and downs-and I just hope that if you need someone to talk to or want to know the hell and the pluses you are going to go through then I am always here, always willing to help, always willing to listen. If you'd like to talk hit me up on here, u can email me at Vasa9653 at hotmail dot com or find me on myspace search vasa9653 under people. Hope to hear from you, and really, u can get through this-whatever you decide. You have all of us behind you.

Aww bless ya girls :-) Thank you :-) I wrote everything down, wow it took hours of wracking my poor tiny brain lol. I've come to a decision... I'm keeping my baby :-) I know it's going to be so tough, but when I thought of abortion, the thought of the baby not being there anymore totally gutted me?? And adoption, I know that I would end up breaking someones heart because I couldnt let my baby go :-( So... that's that! The ex has been arrested and bailed :-( I've got a restraining order so he can't come near me, not that thats stopped him before but I've got a lot of support from family, and and 2 VERY big brothers lol. Actually feeling pretty positive :-) I always thought that if I was raped I would lock myself away and have a breakdown... It's good to realise just how strong you can be in these situations isn't it... I certainly have surprised myself. Maybe it's the baby I dunno... So.. yeah! Just thought I'd let you know, and hopefully I can irritate you girls with constant questions lol xxx

yay! i'm happy that you're keeping the baby! you can definitely ask me anything. i'm 34w3d but i still remember the whole pregnancy so far =P

lol aww you're so close teddy! How are you feeling about the labour/birth now? I'm only 9 weeks and already it feels like I've been pregnant for a lifetime! What the hells it gonna feel like by the time I get to where you're at?! Can't wait for my 1st scan, that'll be another 3 weeks away. I think I read elsewhere that you had taken chlomid is that right? My sister took that and had a little boy :-) Although not quite so little now, he's 7! xxx

I'm glad you've decided to keep it and are feeing positive. It says a lot about your character what you're willing to do. I wish you the best of luck.

I'm glad you feel that what you are doing is the RIGHT thing, it's wonderful and really courageous of you to keep your baby, especially considering the circ_mstances. You're a strong woman, and you CAN do it! If you ever need support, help, anything you can definitely come here :)

apple tree: i'm doing well. ready for this cutie to give me back my back and bladder lol. as for labor and birth, i'm going for the water labor, so i'm going to try for no meds. i'm always up for trying out new pains (i have tattoos and have had piercings lol) and i just want to see what it feels like. my mother had my big sister and me without meds. but yep, i did take clomid. i have a thyroid problem and wasn't producing eggs or ovulating. what scares me is that i only had 1 viable egg and got pregnant with that. does that mean if i had had 2 or 3 or more that i would have had multiples? omg i would have been terrified. maybe on the second try i'll be ok with multiples, but i am soooo thankful that i am only having one the first time around lol.

Aww bless ya girls thanks :-) Just hope I can remain positive, I do love this little bubba already though :-) Wow teddy, the thought of multiples is scary!! They are such a blessing, but I know what you mean, getting used to one is hard enough, but when there are 2 screaming in your ear for feeds?? Yaaaaarrgh!! xxx

Teddy, i did natural childbirth. You can do it!!

Apple you are welcome here anytime you need advice or support :) Teddy I had an epidural with Ellie, but next time I want to go all natural too. Tell me how it goes hahaha.