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Are you seriously asking if you should chose sports over your babys life?

I think she means more of weather she should simply be a mother now or not. I think she is of course scared and in panic and saying some silly things. I just find it sad and strange when people ask complete strangers if they should have an abortion....Girlie09 you need to talk to your mom/parents. You can all together decide on what is best for you and your baby.

If you are even contemplating giving up sports or giving up a child, then no, you shouldn't have a baby. There will be far more severe, and much more important sacrifices along the paths of mother hood. Whether it be your friends, your boyfriend, your education, your family, your body, your sleep.... Sports should be way, way, way, way, way down there on the list of things you are worried about sacrificing. Having a baby is sacrificing your entire life and putting another one in it's place. You won't be the same person, you probably won't have the same friends (if any at all... you won't really have time for them) you won't hold the same values... When you have a child everything changes. Some people love it, some people just can't handle it.

HAHAHA Im going to steal amanda's post and try to pretend it was mine because it is exactly what i was thinking..GOSH Amanda quit stealing my work!....I can at least have fun on here!!! If you are even contemplating giving up sports or giving up a child, then no, you shouldn't have a baby. There will be far more severe, and much more important sacrifices along the paths of mother hood. Whether it be your friends, your boyfriend, your education, your family, your body, your sleep.... Sports should be way, way, way, way, way down there on the list of things you are worried about sacrificing. Having a baby is sacrificing your entire life and putting another one in it's place. You won't be the same person, you probably won't have the same friends (if any at all... you won't really have time for them) you won't hold the same values... When you have a child everything changes. Some people love it, some people just can't handle it. ↑

Girlie....Think about this...You ARE pregnant..You are contemplating abortion because of sports right? Well what if you bust your knee and can no longer play sports, and then you got pregnant? would you keep the baby then? Or what if you had the abortion, then a little while later you bust your knees and can no longer play sports?....Would you regret later having that abortion?.....We have all given up alot of things to have our children, that is part of life and bringing life. It will happen to you eventually if you plan on having kids NOW or LATER. if you were talking about trying to have a baby i would say NO go on with your life and worry about kids later, but unfortunatly you obviously didnt plan this, but there are alot of obsticles in life that we dont plan...There is no doubt in my mind that if dh and i waited to have kids, we would be alot more financially stable, would own our home and would be traveling the world in 2 1/2 years, but now i also know that if i didnt have kids when i did then i wouldnt of been able to have kids, so we sacrificed ALOT to have even more. We sacrificed the materialistic things to have a happy healthy family, which is all we could have ever asked for, eventhough we may not have realised it when we started our family....but we realise it now.

Years ago I had a young friend who had a chance for the US ski team. She asked if I thought she should pursue that chance instead of go to college. I wish I had told her that she could go to college anytime she chose, but the chance for the US ski team is not something you can put off until later. It's your decision.

I confess, my entire post was plagiarized. I went forward in time, saw what DB was going to say, then went back in time and typed it to sound like I was the good advice giver :( *sniffle* I JUST WANT TO FIT IN!!

Amanda< that was very nobile of you to confess like that but i still didnt hear a apology.You will be contacted by my lawyer....I have copyrights you know? : P

Ah. Well, what you don't know is, I not only have a time machine, I have a MIB memory eraser. Look here for me, would you? *zaps your memories*

Thats where deja-vu comes from.......what were we talking about? and why are you wearing those funny dark gla__ses at night?

Because they look cool, of course. Yeah I'm all dark and mysterious with my sungla__ses. I'm partially blind but that won't stop me from getting in all kinds of mischief.

Maybe you should have thought about this before you screwed around......You should be ashamed of even thinking about choosing sports over your baby's life.Do you get that?Do you understand that you have a baby growing inside of you?If you have an abortion I hope it haunts you every minute of every day for the rest of your life.A baby is not a puppy,you don't just get rid of this one and get another one later and think it is going to be the same thing.In the end you will end up doing what you want to do,but softball is not even remotely more important than a baby.Although I agree you are too immature to have a child,I would suggest adoption,that way you can get on with your very important life after it is born.

Ok I'm not a teen but since in some other forum they were talking about how idiotic some post are in this forum I decided to take a look. I am amom of 2 boys and 1 angel who left us just 7 weeks ago . I had my c section at 39 weeks and he was stillborn due to an umbilical cord accident. Sme of you girls make a lot of sense some don't . Abortion it's a harsh word and I'm not one to judge if any of you decide that's the best course of action; but It ' a life you are taking and whatever you deide remember you have to live with it. Now you may be ok but 10 years down the road you may think differently and you can't change the course of action you have taken.I love babies /kids ' life is just so precious and there are so many parents that unforynatelly have to deal with loss due to circ_mstaces that are beyond our control .I do believe strongly that abortion should not be used as a mean od late contaception. Pill , condoms ,there are a lot of contarception out there to prevent a pregnancy and they should be used . Abortion should be considere when only medically necessary.

I think some are coming down a bit harshly on girlie. Here is my take on it. She has an opportunity here in her young life to compete in a sport that she is obviously doing well in, and go to school to get a great education. Should she throw that away to have a child?? I can see where she would be stuck. Yes, she shouldn't have had s_x if she wasn't ready for a child..but in reality...no one is ever ready at that age and kids still mess around. Unfortunately, then they have to make some serious decisions like girlie has to make. So....girlie...all I can say is do what is in you heart, If you are saying that you really don't want to have an abortion....then don't. Don't do something you will regret later in life. But the decision is personal and ultimately up to you. You need to sit back and really think about what you want out of life for yourself. Good luck to you and I wish you the best hun!

The replies to this young woman kill me, at least the negative ones do. Fourteen years ago, I was in a very similar situation. Seventeen and pregnant and scared out of my mind. She's a child who, until now, has only had herself to think about. She doesn't know how to put a child first, she's probably never even thought about it. She scared of how her life may change, what her parents reaction will be and even what her peers will think. I was lucky, I personally never have believed in abortion but that doesn't make it wrong for someone else. I also remember thinking when I found out I was pregnant that I was to young and I was still focused on myself and wondering how I could get out of this as quickly as possible. Of course urine test never showed on me until I was five months and even then (and barely 18) I was still scared. I had MY life mapped out, ready for college and still wanted to stay out with my friends all hours and I wasn't ready to give that up, or so I thought. The second person I told was my mother. We've always been close and she was great in that she never pressured me one way or another. She even offered to adopt her own grandchild. I told her I wanted to talk to an adoption agency and consider my choices. It only took seeing my daughter in a dream that very night to make my decision. I knew I couldn't handle the thought of my child calling someone else mother. The last four months of my pregnancy, I did a lot of growing up. My child came first and I knew I would never regret my decision to raise my child. My daughter is now 13. I'm 31 and no it hasn't always been easy. The father has never been involved, so no child support has ever been received but I've always been fiercely independent and we've somehow made it on our own. I put myself through nursing school at the age of twenty but if my family hadn't been here for the emotional support and all the free babysitting, I never could have made it. I was also using birth control pills when I got pregnant so it can happen even if you are careful. So if this girl decides to keep her baby, I have no doubts she'll mature as the pregnancy progresses. My advice, talk to a trusted adult, whether it be your parents or a sibling or even a friends parent. Don't go on advice from friends, they can't even begin to understand the magnitude of pressure you are under. You may be scared that your parents will flip but after the shock wears off, I bet more than likely they will just want what is best for you and the baby and will support you in whatever you decide.

Well that's kind of silly... You could say to anyone that pregnancy would change them. It doesn't always happen. Sure, some people dramatically change when they get pregnant... I was one of them. But to those who don't change... Especially in teen parents, there is a vast majority of them too. We can't give advice based on what we think, or hope will happen to her. All we can do is take what she has told us and think about what having a baby will mean for her and her baby. I know plenty of teens who were in her situation. Scared they may have to give up their life to have a child... and it's true, you do give up your old life, no matter who you are. As I had said to her before, some people love it and change because of it... Others pawn their child off on their parents, neglect/abuse their children, become depressed, leave their babies in trash cans...etc.