Baby Shower Drama What Would You Do
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Ok, so this is me VENTING! Feel free to comment if you like. Saturday March 8th was my baby shower. It was also the biggest snow storm of the year!!! We had 60+ CM. drop in a period of 12 hours!!! Those of you in Ottawa, Canada know what I am talking about!!! Out of 40 + people that were invited, 4 showed up, THATS RIGHT 4!!! MIL was hosting it , she did not bother to call anyone in order to reschedule or anything!!! In fact she doesn't seem to even care at all. My heart is broken!!! I have been crying for 3 days. I know that we can't control the weather but we can control what we do about it after and noone seems to be doing anything! Of course I acted like nothing was wrong to make sure that the 4 guests that did make an effort would not feel any less special, but inside I am soooo hurt!!! What am I to do? How would you feel and what would you do?
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Aw. I am so sorry to hear about your shower. That really stinks. Hopefully, someone will reschedule a get together for you. I am sure that the rest of the guests were disappointed also. Maybe you could express to your husband how you are feeling and he could possibly arrage a gathering at your home so that you may celebrate with those you care for. If not, try not to let yourself get too upset. (I know that is easier said than done) Again, I am so sorry. A baby shower should be something special, but remember...you will have tons of moments to remember once your little one arrives. Good luck!
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oh maymommy im sorry to hear that, how awful 4 you. we dont really have baby showers in UK but im sure i would have felt the same, i think pomny143 had the right idea though, mention how you felt to your hubby or drop hints about whether his mam might be able to re-schedule. gud luck with everything huny :=)xxx
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That is so frustrating, I'm really sorry that happened to you. But I am in Ottawa and can totally understand why people wouldn't have taken the risk of trying to go anywhere on Sunday, although I know that doesn't make it any less disappointing for you. I would have definitely expected it to be rescheduled, and I'm sure all your guests would be expecting that too. Maybe someone else could arrange something informal for you? By the way, I'm due May 2nd, are you delivering at QCH? Maybe I'll see you there! I don't think there are many Ottawa mommies on here!
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Maymommy, So sorry to hear about your shower turn out. I would be hurt too if my MIL didn't try to atleast reschedule or plan for it to be another time and get the word out. A shower can be such an important part of pregnancy because it is one day focused on you and baby for pampering and lots and lots of baby talk, games, gifts and just and overall stress reliever. I really hope you get the baby shower you were to have. If it was me I would say something to my husband and if that doesn't work or even if it does you could always mention something to your MIL that you are thinking after the baby is born, you are going to plan a gathering for all to see the new addition since the baby shower didn't work out due to weather. Imagine all those people were probably looking forward to your shower but the weather didn't cooperate so they may still have a gift for you they are holding on to and would enjoy a stressless day with you. Good luck and just think that something will get done for you if you at least say something to you hubby.
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Hey Maymommy, I am due May 9th and also in Ottawa. Erin: I am scheduled to deliver at QCH! Anyhow, I have to say that I am surprised that your MIL wouldn't have called everyone already beforehand to reschedule, given that this was a terrible storm but it was planned. I think what surprises me the most is that she has not brought it up herself (I mean re-schedule); I really don't understand how she could act like if everything was normal. But I agree with the others, the guests certainly still have gifts for you and if your MIL doesn't reschedule, you should do it yourself!!!
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Thank you so very much for you warm and thoughtful comments! Erin & CGgirl; I am due May 11th but will be delivering VIA C-section at the Ottawa Civic Hospital arount April 30th. I agree with all of you MIL should atleast care enough to ask me if I would like to give it another try. But I am to shy to ask. DH knows how upset I am he's just not sure what to do about it and I'm not sure what to tell him. This whole thing is so devastating not because of the gifts or the wasted efforts and money. It is because we were TTC for almost 3 years and this is definetly our last pregnancy. (We have a 4 year old). It would just have been nice to see everyone before life gets crazy due to a newborn. However I am looking at it in a more positive way now (mostly thanx to your comments). Also it will be summer soon and hubby is taking 3 months of Parental Leave, therefore we will be able to have company and also go out and about. Again thank you all for being so supportive. It was impossible to get through this alone.
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