Feeling Harassed At Work Due To Stupid Pregnancy Questions
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Ok, I'm 39 weeks and super grouchy. I realize this. But at work I feel almost harassed by people due to my "condition". Has anyone here contemplated taking their maternity leave early due to stupid people?
Some examples: Every day this week I had at least 10 people tell me "OMG you are still here!" or "Would you just have that baby already!" I've even had some people pull me aside asking me if there's 'something wrong with me' because I haven't delivered yet. It's not even my due date.
I've gotten several 'huge' 'wide load' 'omg you are so big' comments. Normal - I know.
Had several people blatantly interrupt business meetings, conversations, phone calls, to ask me "when's your due date again?".
I go for walks on my break. I've had some people RUN out of the office building to ask me if I'm in labor. When I tell them "no, I'm just walking" they'll follow me around the rest of the time accusing me of lying saying "I think you really are having contractions you just don't want to tell us".
I'm losing my mind! I can't get anything done without being interrupted and I can't have 5 minutes to myself. I've seriously broke down crying because people follow me around. It seems sadistic! Anyone else have this?
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Hang in there, you're almost done! With my first pregnancy, people from about 36 weeks on drove me crazy! Most of it was my family, who would call and god forbid I didn't pick up then they'd freak and try to frantically call me thinking I'd gone into labor and not called them. It drove me insane, to the point that I actually stopped answering the phone altogether. Like the end doesn't go slow enough without everyone reminding me about it every freakin' two hours. With all my pregnancies since it hasn't really happened that way, probably because afterward I told them all exactly how I felt about the situation. Believe it or not, they're excited but just not handling it correctly:) Hopefully you'll have baby before Monday so you won't even have to worry anymore. If not, try to take it with a grain of salt.... they probably have no experience with pregnancy or else they'd keep their mouths shut! And just remember, you're almost done and then you won't have to worry anymore.
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Thanks GloriaD. I know you are right. I will try to hang in there. Can totally relate to the family calling every 2 hours. Mine did that with my first. They dont realize that you are more ready than they are :) Thanks for understanding. My hormones are getting out of control!
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I had my boss at work make a comment at a meeting, in front of everyone, about my taking my vacation time in July even though I was going on maternity leave in October. Like maternity leave is a vacation? I earned my vacation and I took it. What does my being pregnant have to do with that? P__sed me off.
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Wow - have they never heard of a babymoon? And who cares if you take time off 4 months after a vacation? That's just ridiculous. I am tired of people at work treating my pregnancy like it's not a medical condition at all, that I should be bouncing around just like before. I'm going on bed rest next week by DOCTORS ORDERS for the health of my twins, and I've had numerous comments (incidentally all from men) questioning the merit of my bed rest. Also things like "so-and-so was two weeks from giving birth and she was still hiking/biking/etc, etc." Well wonderful for her that she a) had no complications, b) wasn't carrying the double weight of twins! Geez, if it was bed rest for back/knee/hip issues, no one would say a word, but pregnancy is an open invitation for people to share their opinions, apparently!
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Id be really upset too... people can be so rude, mostly the ones who dont want/dont have kids. They just dont get it!! Even my partner, having no experience had to read about everything that was going on with me in my pregnancy before he believed it was real!! He thought I was just making excuses.
In my last pregnancy I had people asking if I was due any day from 7 months, also I was living in a farming community and they used the term "calved" alot. OH and "she looks like she is "baggin up" ...disgusting.
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