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Hi ladies, I have been MIA again. Only another week and a couple days left till I have my sanity back!! mcsmms I hope that the enlarged kydney is nothing more than the ultrasound not being very clear. colleen, I am exhausted too. I can't seem to sleep good and now when I roll over I kind of have to push myself up on with my hands to clear my belly and that means I actually have to wake up to roll over...so less sleep for me. I am sorry your lo is sick. There is nothing worse than a sick child that you can't do anything to make them more comfortable. Hang in there. Hopefully it won't last long and you won't get it! I got a ton of stuff at my first shower with my daughter and then my parents and my work both threw me another with my son, even though I really didn't want one. Fortunately I just got a bunch of diapers, wipes, lotions, and powder. We didn't have to buy diapers till Rory was 6 mths old and just barely had to buy lotion and body wash for the kids and he is 19 mths old now and we had used what we got for both him and Tabby! I really really really hope no one throws me another shower this time around. We have everything we need and then some and if my family wants to get us diapers and wipes and such to help out that is great, but I don't want a big to do this time around. So I got my date for my c-section in the mail on Saturday! December 10th is the date. 6 days before my due date. I was really hoping for Friday, but instead they scheduled for Wed. Oh well. Ugh I am wiped out gotta hit the hay. I need to try to drag myself out of bed at 5 in the morning. YUCK!

Hey girls, I am thinking along the lines of my shower also. I am positive my mother and mother in law are throwing me a shower butI don't know when. I am trying to figure it out. It's sometime in november, probably a sunday. I am trying to eliminate by everyone's work schedule. I hate surprises!!!!! I like to be in the know for everything. I am into scheduling things and knowing what I have to do and when... I too hate the shower games. Colleen I hope your family feels better. All of you . I hope you have a good night sleep...

clindholm-Thank you. I am having a baby boy.

Hey girls, where did everyone go? Man this cold is kicking my b___t! Bryandi you must be close to crunch time right? Hope they're not stressing you too much. Jess- how are things going? Dh still behaving himself? Tara- I am with you on wanting to know about the shower. Last time, my mom was great and I knew ahead of time. My luck if it was a surprise, it would have been the day I was wearing sweat pants or something worse! dmjdjw- Congrats on your boy! Have you picked a name yet? We are also having a boy- Luke. miscmms- how are you doing? When is your next scan? Any other news on your little one? I go to the doctor tomorrow and will hopefully get my next appt for the 33 week scan. I'm not happy about my maternity leave, the short-term disability company we just changed to sucks and I think I will be getting screwed. They will only pay 4 weeks at 60% even though I will have a c-section. This is such bs!!!! Colleen

Colleen-That totally sucks about the maternity leave! How can they do that? I hate insurance companies I feel like they always try to rip you off. I hope everyone is feeling well. Im doing pretty good. My stomach is so HUGE. I cant believe how far it sticks out. I dont think I can make it to December like this!!! DH is fine! I feel so much better now that I addressed it with him, its like a huge weight has been lifted off of me. When is everyone's due date againg? I forget :o) Mine is 12/5, though Im hoping it will be at the latest 12/1.

Hi all, Jess - I am due 12/21 - so they say!!! Colleen, that stinks about your leave. I don't get paid during my leave except for what I use from my acc_mulated sick time. It really stinks. I've been so b___hy lately. I can't stand myself. I feel tired and overextended. Some days I feel sorry for myself I think. Last night my husband wanted me to cook dinner and I didn't feel like it so he asked me to pick something up for him and I felt like screaming because I felt like he should be getting stuff for me. but I am over it today. I am just feeling really tired. We are going to a Phillies game tonight which doesn't begin till 8:20 so I know I will be even nmore beat tomorrow. My belly is getting huge also - I have mainly gained it in my belly, but I feel like its an enormous effort to roll over when I am sleeping - Forget s_x... (I think it's not fun at this point for my dh, it doesn't bother me....!!!) Oh well. Hope everyone feels well. have a great day

Colleen, I like the name Luke. What is his middle name going to be? I got my date back for my c-section. They have scheduled it for December 10th, 6 days before my due date. Next tuesday I have an appt with our HR person to discuss my maternity leave and what I plan on taking off. I will have to use some of my personal time with my std too, but I don't remember exactly how much. Jess & Tara, my belly is getting very large too and I also am noticing it more because it is getting harder and harder to roll over at night wihtout pushing myself up with my hands so as not to squish the baby :( Oh well 9 weeks left.

colleen, your maternity is much better than mine, i have 12 weeks of no pay, just what little sick time i have. Also i like the name you picked out! We decided on Aidan, but are really having trouble coming up with a middle name. Every time i think of one i like, he hates it! : / Tara i know what you mean about your husband wanting YOU to cook dinner, or YOU to go get him something to eat! My man is the same way!! I can't stand it, i keep waiting for the time when he waits on me! (for once) So your going to the phillies game, are you from the philadelphia area? If so, im from lancaster! Im kind of jealous of everyone saying they're getting so big! Im still pretty small, you can deffinately tell im pregnant, but im all baby! I just thought by 30 weeks, i would be much bigger! I guess big or small were never happy!

The name that we like so far is Dennis Paul but well now I have changed my mind and we only have the nick name picked out, Leonard-Paul. I'm liking Kyle right now but that may change very soon. I have gotten so big as well as well as the baby, I can feel him everywhere now and I don't like it much for it doesn't make me feel that good in the stomach when he is right there. DJ feels bad but hes loving this. It seems nothing can stop him from wanting/having me/ ;) I am due Dec. 15th and it cannot come fast enough. I want him out of me so badly. lol Colleen-that does suck about the maternity but how about this, I was in college when I got pregnant. I had to withdraw this semester so there went the job that I was working at while attending school, so I get nothing. It totally bites for I want to do something to help out and I can't. I feel hopeless and useless sometimes. Oh well, there is not much I can do right now until after the baby comes and then hopfully find something.

Well I talked to my doc today and obviously she recommends 8 weeks off for a section. She said she will see what she can do, but alot of the time w/these insurance companies it's a losing battle. I had no problem last time b/c I had PIH which qualified as a "complication". I know I should not complain b/c alot of people have nothing, but I am paying for this c___ppy-a__s coverage, it's not like it's a gift from the company. Enough b___hing. My appt went well, baby sounds good, BP still good. I asked about being scheduled only 2 days before my due date and she said any earlier than 39 weeks and there is a chance the baby's lungs won't be developed enough. I have a scan in 2 weeks, can't wait to see the little booger again. Jess I'm glad all is well and you are feeling good, I was due 12/7 but section scheduled for 12/5. Tara- my dh always cooks dinner now. I'm not bragging, if you were as bad of a cook as I am your dh would too. I literally had the Fire Dept at my house twice. So now he cooks and I clean up the huge mess he makes. Don't go thinking my dh is all that either, he doesn't do much else around the house than that! bryandi- well the middle name has to be William, that covers 3 of the recently dead people in our family including my dh's dad. I hope you get a better leave than I do! I will also have to use 70 hrs of sick time to start since my std will not kick in for 2 weeks. I have saved all my sick, vacation and personal time since March. ebaby- i love the name Aiden, it was on my original list. Why don't you get any paid time off? Are you part time? That really stinks. You are lucky to be small- no stretch marks! I am just huge now and I was lucky last time but think i may end uo getting a few stretch marks this time :( dmjdjw- I like Kyle alot, you still have plenty of time to change your mind. Are you going right back to school and work after the baby? time for me to get back to work, Colleen

Hi Everyone, I went to my doctor this week for my 30 week appointment. I asked her to detail the last ultrasound result- and the "enlarged" kidney that they saw. She read through the notes and said that I shouldn't worry about anything until it's declared a problem. I've done research on all of the fancy terminology that they've used to name it- and nothing looks fatal or too terrible. Hopefully it's just a positioning thing that will look normal on 11/18- my next US. And of course they will do an US on the baby once she's here. BTW, almost 100% that her name will be Alaina Rose. The middle name is the only thing we are still pondering. I like Rose, it's a family name and think it sounds very pretty with Alaina. Where I used to work, before I was laid off... They would have you use Vacation- then Short Term disability at 60% pay. I am conducting my job search with the criteria of the job start being in late Feb, or March. She is due the 12 of December, so everyone- please wish me luck on finding something that will work out for me. It's pretty scary having a baby with no job. I feel so guilty, and I've never had to depend on anyone financially, until now. Its quite defeating.

micsmms3-I understand completely how you feel. Things will get better though, they always do. As for going back to college, right now it looks like I won't be doing that. For one, it cost way too much just to go back and we don't have the money for that. Another, I want to be the one to raise m child, not some starnger. I want him to know me as his mom and not as a stranger. I will be looking for a job though cuz I know that I need something to do besides watch the baby all day. DJ will be helping as much as he can as well. I worry sometimes about what will happen for things with us starting this relationship out then with me getting pregnant that things will be too hard for us. I trust in God and know that he will take care of us all. I have a question though...why are most of you going for a scheduled c-section instead of having a natural birth? Just something I was curious about for I would like to do that but the nurse I have said that only comes with complications. By the way things sound, there is not much complications in this group. I maybe wrong,but I'm still hoping for the best.

Well, lots of times if you ended up with a c-scetion for your first one (due to failing to progress, fetal distress etc.) your doctor will most likely want you to have a c-section again. If its been a few years some doctors will let you try a VBAC (v____al birth after cesearian) but that is risky b/c your uterus could rupture from where it was cut previously with the first c-section. I had a v____al birth 2 years ago, but it was extremely hard. My dd was stuck in my pelvis and they had to use the vac_me to get her out. It was extremely painful for me and her. It left a huge red bruise on the top of her head and she was extremely fussy b/c of it for the first few days so it made b___stfeeding even more challenging and stressful than usual. So my doctor said I could opt for a c-section this time or try v____al again and hope things go better. I am still really torn on what to do. I havent made up my mind yet....

Ok, since we are on this subject.... for those of you whom have had v____al delivery- then C section. Which did you- "prefer"? I have heard that healing is longer, but less painful with a cesarian. Just because the sutures are on the tummy, vs. in the very sensitive delicate area that is tender with every step you take. And, when you have a cesarian section- do you heal up pretty well or is your tummy a mangeled mess?

Ebaby-You should be happy you are so small. I would take that ANY DAY over hearing people say- "you still have 8 weeks, but you are so big!!" Its so annoying, plus some of the people that say things are not the thinnest people themselves so I feel like saying something rude back but I dont. I just figure they are trying to put me down to make themselves feel better. We just got back from Disney/Epcot this weekend. Probably our last trip of the year (we have season pa__ses that expire in Dec.) Whew!!! It was way harder for me to walk around than I expected. I know, its kind of silly I dont know what I expected being 8 months pregnant. LOL! My pelvis was killing me, it felt like she was pressing down on it so much. We still have fun though, DD didnt want to leave.

You girls are probably right! I'm sure its better to be on the smaller side. (definately easier for working!) I just feel like i've waited 30 weeks to get that cute pregnant belly, and i just keep on waiting, but oh well!! There's more important things i have to worry about!! But your right about the rude comments people say! Biting my tongue isn't as easy now a days, but i try really hard to not say what i want to!! Jess thats really exciting that you were at disney! I haven't been there since i was 5! Im dying to go back, hopefully in the next few years! : ) well i hope everyones feeling as good as you can feel for the third trimester!