 | WP - July 10 |
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I have a 2-yr-old whose tantrums seem to be getting worse by the day. I'm not sure if I'm spoiling him or not giving him enough attention or what. If I say 'no' to him he completely loses it. I NEVER give into his tantrums, because I figure this will only make it worse, but it's getting worse anyway. I have tried distracting him with something else (which he usually just throws), I have tried the "naughty step". I have tried putting him in his room until he calms down, but nothing seems to be working. I don't try all of these methods simultaneously, but give each one about a month to see if it works. Nothing. Everyday I take him out to play in the park or swimming or for a walk and we play together all the time. He's just starting to play with other children, so I'm afraid he's going to hit or throw something if a child takes a toy from him. He goes to a sitter 3 days/week for a few hours and of course he's an angel there! What am I doing wrong? When is it alright to spank? I'm expecting my second in Oct, so I'm freaking out thinking about how bad he's going to regress once the new baby arrives!
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I am in the same boat as you, I am due with my 2nd in Nov, and he will be 3 in Sept.. He seems to have calmed down but he still has his temper, its his way or no way. He likes to throw things and kick and scream on the floor, but I noticed lately when I talk to him really Calmly its seems to calm him down, but its hard to stay so calm somtimes when they act like that... I will admitt I spank and he knows not to do it again, but I spank his hand or the back of his leg, where it stings... lol I tell him if he is good and stops crying so he is able to listen to me that we will go and play and he will not get introuble, I don't know if that helps any. I can tell though he is going to be a big help when the baby comes.
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The methods you described are all good and "by the book". It's hard to say what's wrong. I used mostly "the naughty chair" with my dd. But the main and hugest help was - her turning 3. The tantrums disappeared then. Now my son is in the middle of the terrible twos, and my main weapon is just knowing that it shall pa__s. That is, I am mostly ignoring his behavior. If he is stalling, I just pick him up and go, with not much talking.
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Hi WP, i have a 2 1/2 year old and his tantrums were BAD, he use to hit his head on cement, brick walls etc but i have found he has grown out of the worst of it. The method that REALY worked for me was to walk away from him. If he hit his on the wall i would just walk out let him be (unless i could see him going to do damage to himself) untill he was done then i would go and talk to him. In your case if i were to say no to my DS i would hide what he wants and show him the cupboards that he knows they were in, if he cant see them then he knows they are gone and leaves it at that. I did find with my DS that it was just a fase and now that he is older he has calmed down alot.
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| WP - July 11 |
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Thanks everyone. It's nice to know I'm not alone. I guess I'll just have to wait him out. He also hits his head on things, kristie h, and I totally ignore that behavior too. I'm guessing it's negative attention and I don't want to even acknowledge it. At times I think "I can't believe I'm having a second child and doing this twice!" I hope I'll be able to look back on these times and laugh.
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