Change My Daughter S Last Name
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My daughter is 11 months old. In MS, one has till the child is one year old to change their name. My question is this:
The father and I were planning to get married so I gave my daughter his last name. Now things have completely gone down hill. He doesn't want to be involved and he'll come see his daughter once every couple weeks even though he lives no more than 15 minutes away. He's always asking me if I'm cheating and while I was pregnant, he said he wondered if my daughter was his since over the course of 2 years I hadn't gotten pregnant but then all of the sudden I did. So before I had my daughter and THE DAY SHE WAS BORN WHILE WE WERE IN THE HOSPITAL I asked him if he wanted to have a paternity test because I don't want him doubting me and i am 1000000% sure my daughter is his because he's the only man i've been with . HE SAID NO. He's never doubted her or said anything else about her not being his child until Sunday. As I said things have been ugly and we agreed that he should start paying child support, he had no objections. Then he says, I want a paternity test because I don't think she's my daughter. In MS, paternity test are required to receive child support. I'm angry because I asked him a year ago and he said no but now all of the sudden because of child support he doesn't believe my daughter is his child. Things haven't been going well at all and I found out that I am pregnant again (yes i was on birth control. my doctor prescribed me a medication even though he knew i was on birth control and i wasn't told that the medication would cancel out my birth control and it really didn't cross my mind to think about it happening. so while i was taking that medication, i became pregnant). Neither of us are happy about it, but I'm dealing with it. Because things have been so bad and as of now we aren't together, I want my daughter and the new baby to have my last name. He's on my daughter's birth certificate as the father and signed it. I'm wondering if I can change my daughter's last name myself or if we'll both have to agree for it to be changed. Or even if I can do it myself because paternity has not been determined but I know my daughter and this new baby are his children even though he's doubting both of them. I know he won't agree for it to be changed. PLease help sorry for this being so long.
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I know that when my mum wanted to change my last name, I had to have my fathers consent unless it was done after I was sixteen. i was also required to stand some place and read a doc_ment which basically said i agreed and wanted to change my name. obviously a baby can't do that, so yes, i think that you may have to have his consent.x
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Does it really mean that much to you....?? She is his daughter afterall.... she can change her own last name when she is 18. I realize you are upset with him, but both your children are his....So maybe try to focus and remember the good about him, what made you fall in love with him in the first place.
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I'm sorry things aren't going very well for you, and having to deal with another pregnancy at the same time. Are you sure everything is over between you guys? Is there any way you two can get some counselling together, or if things are really over a mediator would be a good idea so that everything you guys need to discuss about the kids and the legalities can be said without fighting. Do you have some close friends or family to help you through this? I'm here for you to talk to whenever you need to as well, keep me posted.
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