 | SC - August 7 |
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Ok here goes I'm 20 my Fiancé is 22 we have been engaged for a little over a year and have been going out in total 6 years.... we bought our first house a year ago just to get on the property market, and have recently sold it and bought a lovely 3bed semi. We our mature for our age we both have good jobs i work in an estate agency and David is a painter. I have been thinking about a baby all the time and how it would be perfect to have a family. But is it the right time do i wait till we get married in Oct 08 and then starting trying or just go for it now? It's a big decision but how do people do it. It life changing but exciting………….
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I was 21 when i got pregnant the first time, and was definatly not as set as you seem to be but 5 years later, things are great for me and my daughter and another on the way. If you think about it, there is never really a right time, if i were you id just take it as it comes, if you want one dont try to prevent it, just let nature take its course and it will happen when its suppose too. good luck
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I don't think there's ever a "perfect time" to have a baby. I am 20 and 24 and a half weeks pregnant. I am not as well established as you and your fiance, but couldn't be more happy that we are expecting a baby. It really depends on if you want some "alone time" with your partner after you're married, or since you've been together so long, just jump start on a family life. Good luck to you!
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OH I forgot, if you were to get pregnant now, you risk feeling terrible with morning sickness for your wedding/ honeymoon...I was lucky enough not to have MS but some 80% of women do...just a thought
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| SC - August 11 |
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Thanks, i really dont know what to do, i might let nature take its course, but i smile every time i think about it. i just need some one to tell me what to do. or for it just to happen i that would be it.
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I am actually 20 and 8 weeks with my 2nd. My husband and I are excited and still scared about another one. But if you would like to drink champagne at your wedding and so anything fun on your honeymoon I wouldn't because like she said what if you get morning sickness. Then what if you start to show early and your dress doesn't fit? I think I would just wait two more months.
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OH and the whole wedding thing may not stress you out now but that day will be so stressful and stress is not good while your pregnant. The planning is stressful too.
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i say go for it im 20 and been married 2 yrs and i am 26 weeks pregnant with our first, we werent trying though. it sounds like you'd be fne only i ould wait until after everything settles down a bit and after the wedding because being pregnant is stressful enough in and of itself!!!
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ultimitely this is your decision - but why not wait two more months...or even just to the beginning of october? That's not that long and it will make it easier as far as wedding stress goes.... even if you don't find your wedding stressful, it is A LOT of running around and can be very tiring that last week before the big day. As for everything else, i think you sound so well established that it shouldn't even be a concern. Also, you and your fiance have known each other for a long time right and have been living together already so you don't need that 'first year' many others do in order to get use to sharing a house/payments/responsiblities ect. with the partner. Goodluck on whatever you decide to do!!
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Err she said she was getting married in October 2008, I doubt she'd still be pregnant then! To be honest I think I'd just see how it goes, not exactly 'try' (as long as your fiance agrees) But with the wedding to save up for and stuff it may be a good idea to get that out of the way first. But if you get to the point where you both feel you want to try, go for it!
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