29 And OBSESSING To Have A Baby
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I was wondering if there’s any other person out there that’s going through what I am going through right now? I am really OBSESSINNG about having a baby to the point where I can’t sleep at nights. I walk around the house as if I am pregnant. When my boyfriend touches my stomach I pretend that he is trying to connect with his baby. You see, I am 29 years old and my boyfriend is 32. He is my world! We’ve been together two and a half years now and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this man. We talked about getting married soon and get a place of ours within a year or two. Before I met my boyfriend, I never thought I would feel such intense love for another person or even thought about having children. I was a very selfish person and somewhat spoiled. It was always my way or the high way! Well, all that has changed. Anyway, about four months into the relationship I knew I was going to fall hard and deep in love with this man…and I did. I knew I wanted to be his wife and the mother of his children. He told me he felt the same way early into the relationship as well and I just smiled. I love this man with my every being and all I want to do right now is to have his baby. His family loves me and vise versa my family love him. They keep asking us when are we going to start a family and we keep telling them when the time his right. Is there ever a right time? I don’t know but what I do know is I am ready. He knows how strongly I feel about this so recently he told me to stop taking the pill. I’m just hoping I could get pregnant soon because I am going baby crazed here. This would be our first child. Thank you for your time.
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"We talked about getting married soon and get a place of ours within a year or two."...........I would say you should do this first.
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OK, so you guys are certainly old enough. The families like each other, what are you waiting for? If you are obsessing, then just start trying for a baby.
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hey dont worry about it i m 22 and beenlike this from being 19 now were trying for a baby i am even worse. the feelings wont go away i say if ur ready go for it
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Why obsess? Just get to making a baby. Although I think if you are walking around the house as if you are pregnant and thinking that touches to your stomach is your man bonding with something that isn't there.....honey, I don't think you're too stable. Sounds nutty to me. be normal, then get pregnant.
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Yeah, I think women who obsess like this make the worst mothers, honestly.
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Melissa - Thank you for your support! The primary reason for waiting is that I wanted us to buy something first because we’re renting now. Marriage is secondary for me right now because I know we will get married.
Jenny – Thank you and good luck to you! Baby Dusts
Lisa – Thank you!! I do agree with you that it’s a little nutty walking around thinking I am pregnant. LOL! I can a__sure you I’m not crazy.
Harley – Thanks! And trust me I will be a great mother.
P.S. – well these past few days have been my fertile days and we’ve been doing it so I am keeping my fingers cross.
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there will never be a perfect time, but i would say just from personal experience, get married first. that helps. i had a baby at 19, then at 20, and same dad, and we are apart now, and with my husband, i finally did things the right way, and got married first, though i to was baby crazy for a few years before we got married myself. he had no children, and i missed having a baby, being pregnant, and i loved him so much, i wanted to have that with him, and do things right, so get married, and then go for it. it sounds like you are very much in love. i'd love to get pregnant right now. my baby is only 6 months old, but we have been semi-trying now. no pill. good luck
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iam sure you will be a great mom. ttc or even the yearning for a child, can do crazy things to the stableist of people., just be happy and i hope you get your wish.
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Thank you so much Jane. I appreciate it!
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It isn't a bad thing to obsess. My first chid was quite a surprise and now I'm somewhat obsessed with ttc for #2. My hubby and I obsess together and we are having such fun doing it. I think it helps if you just remember that you want your child to be concieved in joy, not stress. Also, I think it is better to take the time to work the kinks out of a healthy marriage than to have a baby when not married. And having a place of your own can make the difference between that joy and stress thing I talked about earlier. Try to be a bit more stable than you are now, but don't wait for the perfect moment, those never show up!! Blessings and baby dust!!
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I am 27 and husband is 32..I have a daughter form a previous relationship and we are now TTC. It's hard not to obsess when you want something so much. I'd say start because sometimes it's not as easy as originally anticipated..you only have a small chance each month.
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I know what your going through girl... I'm in the exact same boat as you are.. I've been with my fiancee now for 8 yrs, and before i meant him, I always said i was getiing my tubes tied, snipped, burn, whatever they had to do, cause i didn't want no babies, but all that changed when i meant the love of my life.. Now I'm going BABY CRAZY as well!! LOL.. Just waiting for the right time to start trying, cause i gotta try and time it so i won't have the baby in the summer time, because that is when my bf has to go away and work, and he wants to be there when i have the baby... but i thoguht about all the things you thoguht about as well.. like i said, I really do know what your going throught.. I'm going throught the exact same thing as you are! Good Luck tho!! Keep me informed on what happens!! LOL
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