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Okay....I got my BFP yesterday Jan. 10th! Me & my boyfriend are both VERY excited. It wasn't planned, but very welcomed! :) I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now, it will be almost 5 when I am due. The question is, how do we tell our parents? I am 21, 22 in September, and he will be 23 in November. We aren't "too young" to be parents, and our parents won't be mad, just dissappointed. Any ways to break the ice?
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Do you plan on getting married to your boyfriend? Do you live with each other?
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Yes, we have lived together for about 2 years. And we are also planning on getting married, but we aren't going to rush it just for the sake of the pregnancy. He's my best friend, and he's sticking around! I'm just totally against abortion, and I'm keeping this child...so I am not sure how to tell HIS parents, more than mine.
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You should just tell them in a creative way. Buy them somthing that suggests the idea that your'e expecting, like a baby bib with something cute written on it. Maybe you should wait a while to do it since you did just find out!
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Yes, we are planning on waiting at LEAST another month, just to make sure everything goes smoothly. :) Thanks for your advice though!
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I would make sure that when you tell them, that you are excited and happy when you tell them. Even if you think your parents will be disappointed, you may be surprised at how quickly they become excited to be grandparents! Also, now that you are pregnant, why wait to get married? It sounds like you have been together long enough to know he's "the one."
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we definatley know we are "the ones" lol...but I've always wanted a nice big wedding...and with the baby coming...I won't have the extra 10 grand laying around. So we were thinking after the baby is born, we can see how are finances are then...because the baby's priorities(diapers, formula, clothes, toys, and healthcare) will come before my He/she is about 2 they can be the flower girl/ring bearer! I hope they will be excited! I know I am!
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Okay! So thanks for everybodies help! I know I should have waited, but I just couldn't. :) We told our parents, and as they aren't "thrilled" they are still excited, and said they will be supportive of our decision. It seems so much better now to have that off my chest! Thanks!
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Congratulations! However, you two might want to get married-because legally in many states, the child won't be the father's unless there is a binding contract. That does not include the birth certificate.
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It sometimes takes the parents a while to become thrilled but as soon as they see their grandchild they will be so happy. You should get married though. Once you decide to be parents the big wedding idea is not really fair to your child. You can still have a happy wonderful romantic wedding without spending money that could have been used for college fund or for other things. You never know what will happen. I married my husband when 5 months pregnant. We had planned to have a big wedding but didn't since we were pregnant. My son loves looking at the pictures of our small but sweet and inexpensive wedding. He loves seeing my stomach and knowing that he was there with us. And my memories are not the least sad that I didn't have the big wedding. In 2 or 3 years it won't even matter to you. You will be so happy chasing after your baby that planning a wedding at that time will seem trivial. Go for it and get married before you have your baby. Especially since you two love each other and have been together so long anyway.
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