I Think We Re Ready But He Don T
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My husband and I have been married for almost two years. He is 23 and I am 22. I think we are the perfect age to start a family. Besides having polycystic ovarian syndrome which means we should start young if we want any at all. We own our home and it is completely paid for and both our cars are paid for. He has great insurance with a program for expecting mothers. We are done with college! But he thinks we have to be rich or something to have a baby. I am so ready. I see all my friends having babies who are way worse off than we are. How can I get through to him?
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Talk to him. The problem, in my opinion, is that so many people feel you have to have *everything* under control for a baby.
Yes, financial responsibility and security are really important, but there is never a 'perfect' time for a baby. I have a friend who is convinced she needs to have her job, social, financial life and living arrangements perfect to even try for one. I have a feeling she'll be waiting for a while.
I am pregnant now and not everything is perfect. But as long as the child has the best life possible, and the love and attention it needs... and the best environment possible, then it'll be okay. Not everything needs to be perfect.
Problem is, I wouldn't ever recommend trying for one unless both mom and dad are ready for it. Give him time, maybe he's using the 'everything must be perfect' reason as an excuse. Maybe he's just not emotionally ready? Talk to him though... that's pretty much the best you can do. Can't force him to change him mind, but maybe a heart to heart talk will help him understand.
Good luck.
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