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Of course I want to show off my baby, I am so proud of her, like any parent would be, what is wrong with that! Any mother, no matter what age shows off her baby!!!!!!!!

some of you say we only have babies for that reason, to show them off, which is obviously no true, it just natural as a mother to show off your child,

Whats the problem with having a website to show people your beautiful child? I am very proud of my daughter and think she is BEAUTIFUL so I made a website for her.

This is the correlation between age and experience and having a baby: 16 with a GED might get you to the drive-thru at McDonalds. 20 and a high school diploma might graduate you to a “real” restaurant. 25 and a college degree and you might be running the restaurant. 30 with a college degree and a work history and you might actually own the restaurant. No, that kind of experience doesn’t help you to know how to change diapers, but it sure makes it a heck of a lot easier to afford them! And for all you ladies out there with babies and dependant on your husband’s income - don’t be! My husband was car-jacked at gun point, beat up badly - it was a horrific ordeal! That was the first time that I realized that I could have lost him! If the unthinkable had happened, I would have never emotionally recovered! But, being that I am at the stage where I can “own the restaurant” I would not have to financially struggle to raise our kids. Please keep in mind that I fully understand that not everyone’s life is the same! Not trying to put anyone down - just like everybody else, I am just saying it as I see it.

Hey jayne, thats what life insurance is for....;-)

jayne, you make an excellent point I agree, but also I must say , not directed at you, just in general that most older women think that " financial security" is a must before having a child, which I must say is not absolutly true, children that come from wealthy families end up having a diminished imagination due to having so many diffrent toy, they become frusstrated and lose their childhhod ability to play " make believe" they end up spoiled and are more likely to through tantrums, have more learning diablilities due to having watched so much TV ( or educational... c___p ... videos) CHildren from lower income families get the same nutrional if not better ( because they are b___stfed) needs satisfied and are generaly happier children. That is a researched fact. For example Children from rich families will get so frustrated from opening so many christmas presents, they will cry and refuse to play with anything because they can get so overwhelmed... whereas if a child that recieves maybe...3... presents will tresure them so much and will be definitly happier than the kid that got 20 pesents, think about... yes it is true that living ina bsolute poeverty isn't ideal for a child, but you don't have to wait unitl you are completely secure, with 5 bedroom house in a gated community to have a child, by then you may be 35 years old. And who says you can't increase you financial situation while raising your child, that is completely plausable. By thye way I am 37

Dansi: Please post a reference for any of your research.... as I work in Social Services and have found none of that to be prectically true in real life. Financial security isn't huge house in a gated community.. is security in knowing that you can easily pay your bills, put money in savings, provide a caretaker for your children ( hopefully Mom or Dad) and still live without stress over money. Plus, your comment about lower cla__s being more likely to b___stfeed.. not that this is pertinent in this forum, but that is absolutely not true. In fact, the opposite is true. Lower cla__s/income families are eligable for so much government aid.. including WIC, where Formula and other necessary food stuffs are free. Most lower cla__s/income families require 2 incomes, or are single parented and require that parent to work, so MOST of these persons choose to feed Formula as they don't have the time/inclination to pump.. Please don't state information as fact when it is instead biased opinion.

Teah, How far do you think a $250,000 life insurance policy goes, when you have a $180,000 mortgage, cars don't last forever, you need heat, lights and gas (all month after month) not to mention the most IMPORTANT expenses: 3 mouths to feed, 3 bodies to clothe, Health insurance x3 (all for the next 15 years), College x2, a wedding x2, and on and on..... Those aren’t even luxuries! And when the kids move on, I still have to live! And if you don’t work a decent job, 9 times out of 10 there is no health insurance and no pension plan. Maybe you depend on your husband's income in life and his life insurance policy in death, but when do you depend on yourself? If your husband is no longer there your bills don't stop. And having a life insurance policy on your spouse doesn’t mean you hit the lottery if he dies!

To the original poster, I totally agree with you some what, I DON'T condone young women going out there and having boyfriends and getting pregnant because I believe in marriage first, but aslo you are totally right, no matter how old you are having your first child or children, no one is prepare for what to come, I believe that one shoud atleast obtain a high school diploma and just some type of foundation for themselves and then start a family, but at the same time God is the best of planners and he is the one that gives us our sustenance, so we could be rich today and poor tomorrow, or vice versa, for the couples that sit around in their 20's adn early 30's talking about enjoying life, partying, getting the big education and big house and career, I think that is a bunch of c___p, because most of the time they maintain this by the time they are forty and that is the time it is harder for them to have babies, those are the same people you see on fertility board being angry at other women who are preggo. I say we don't know when we are gonna die, and the career fancy house and car, is not gonna save us, I rather have babies in hopes that when I am older I will have some one to take care of me, then to wait till am old and can't have babies and it is just me and my husband stuck in a big house bored to death which finally ends in a divorce, just my 2cents

to the previous post,just because you have children does not mean that when you get older they will look after you.My cousing for instance,rarely see's her parents,might be a couple of years,she is married carreer woman,and family loyalities are not a strong point.There are women like Susan who cannot stand her parents.You may have a row that you cannot immgine happening,could be to do with their chosen partner,the way they lead their lives,but that upset could mean a major fall out.Also,you may get ill,and need more proper care,instead of your children with their own lives.You should never think children will always be there for you.I can remember what is was like before children,more money,free time etc,I have friends who are childless,and they are not bored to tears.One couple told me they will leave their money,as they are financially very well off,they will leave it to animal charities,up to them.To Dansi,I like the idea of rich kids opening presents and...cry,refusing to play with them!!That is just a child being spoilt.I am glad that we were,in a very comfortable position before having our first child.There is less pressure for money.I am not in the same league as ones you are aiming at,with their nannies,mansions etc!!However,you can also get there,remember at the lower end.An old schoolfriend I saw one day,invited her to my house,she came,with her three children,all different fathers I must add.he had no idea with them.In the end,I took the hood of the little boys jacket,in my hand,and pulled him towards me,and told him to sit down and behave.The mother said she could not control him.I told her it is because she allows bad behaviour.

to " an older woman" I absolutly agree with you, you couldn't put it in a better way, in the end all the materialistic things people put ahead of having children don't do you any good.. and and Its also difficult to give up this childless lifestyle once you think you want kids and that will make you an impacient or resentfull mother. i constantly see older women ( my friends) that had children in alter life saying, " oh remember how asy it was before, I had so much time to call you, and go out... ai miss the old times..." and on and on, and yes they are the bitter womenon fertility drugs resenting young mothers.... ( out of jelousy)

That last post is so full of it, lol.

TO LORAINE! What makes you think you have to have all of life's experiences to be an adult?! That's like saying you aren't mature until you're 30. I am 20 years old and have been an adult for quite some time now. I have graduated high school, gone to community college, worked since I was 15 and I have had my own apartment in expensive Northern VA and I have always paid for EVERYTHING myself. I have always been very mature and independent and I consider myself an adult. What makes you think age defines maturity or someone being an adult?!

just having a browse while waiting for baby kicks... interesting topic.. young vs old... i dont think age makes much difference though dont think 15 year olds should be trying to get pregnant. However, i am in my 40's and pregnant and my neice is a teenage mom, she is a great mom and i am actually going to ASK her how she gets her baby to be such a good sleeper before this one arrives. Her baby is always clean, smiles heaps, healthy and she is neat and tidy and relaxed. One of my best girlfriends started having her kids at 18. She has never missed out on 'life experiences'.... she went out to parties, did sports etc when she wanted either having the father or a sitter to look after kids, or she took them along to share life experiences.

And just not to paint too a rosy picture of my niece, if she had the choice she says she would have been 'careful' and not gotten pregnant at such a young age. She has huge purple stretch marks all over her stomach and paler but still big ones over her chest and thighs. Her labor was a nightmare and ended up in emergency c-section because her body was just not mature enough. Does she regret having her baby? NO. Does she regret not taking precautions and waiting a couple of years? YES. And no one would dare say to my face she is a bad mother because she is young, she puts a lot of 'mature' women to shame. Her pregnancy was not planned and happened when gran was ill and her mom was spending lots of time at the hospital... and her boyfriend comforted her. Goodness, gran just got over the heart attack and nearly had another when told about the pregnancy! It was a case of making the best of a situation rather than a 15 year old actually trying to have a baby.

Madaleeana-I know where you are comming from.I had it difficult life.I would have to write a book to tell you everything that went on.At 13 I couldn't get along with anyone under 25 and to this day I still get along better with men then woman.My husband is nine years older then me and the men I dated at 18 were at least seven years older then me.Now I have a easier time talking to men at least in their earlier 30's or older the woman of any age or younger people in general.I relized later when your life is hard and forces you to be mature at such a young age it is more important that you take extra time to find yourself once things calm down and life becomes easier.Anther thing is at 20 I had a baby(unplanned) and bought a house and a few years later now at 26 I have people in their thirties or forties say things like"I remember my first house".Talk about a reality check of how young 26 is.Even though I was very mature I still look back and see myself as immature at 18 even 20.I have a feeling this will offend you and I'm sorry but I have yet to meet a 18 year old that eguilitied a average mature thirty years old.Some of maturity does come with age and now amount of hardship,travelin, paying your own bills or being on your own changes that.I say this from my own experences and that of others I know.Marranic-I had compliment after compliment to and I still do.I have also seen my fair share of good and bad mothers to of all ages.I am not so lucky to have a family menber or babysitter and my husband work 50 to 65 hour a week( I happen to love).That doesn't mean I sit at home and pout.I do more with my two kids then most do with one.General-anyone who thinks 30 or 35 is old must have a immature side.Fifty is the new thirty.More and more woman are staying healthier and more active much longer then woman of the past.Some have even said life doesn't begin till 50.Not only that but more and more woman look and act younger longer.That is not just for celebrities anymore.