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I had my first at 21 and thought that I had waited long enough. Then I had my 2nd at 26 and I beleive around 26 would have been the best age to start a family. Why- because I was more pactient and calm with my 2nd baby than my 1st. I was able those not stop crying fits they have, lol.

yes I agree, 26 would be the perfect age to start a family.

I disagree. The only reason why you were more patient with your second child is because you already had some experience with a baby. Practice makes perfect. That doesn't mean that being 20 wouldn't be a perfect age to start a family if that is what you wanted. Everyone is different, but being more patient with your second baby only means experience. :)

Yes the age is just a opinon, but in my case no it wasnt easier because I had already had one. Both my kids are day and night to each other. It was like being a mom for the first time all over again..But with more yrs and better patience I think waiting is better.Waiting till around 26 is good, gives you time for college and a carrer to be started so when the baby comes you dont have to worry about anything. But if you feel that starting a family before all that is ok for you than great. I'm going back to school but only after 3 kids, lol... wish I had done it differently but wouldnt change my life now...

i agree m3 i think 25-26 is a great age to start a family. i am pregnant with my first and i have graduated college and i am now a RN i am 24 y/o i will be 25 when my baby is born.

NURSEJ I think it is great that you got to goto college and have a career first. I wish I would have taken that road, but thats water under the bridge for me now, lol. I do encourage my girls to want to do that for themselves. Are life is a great reason why they should have a education first. An not only that but live for awhile as a adult without the worries that come along with motherhood. I would never give up the chance to of ever had 1 of my girls, but I do regret not furthing my education. Congrats on the baby!!! Do you know what you are having yet? Best wishes to you and your baby.

I think that any age is fine (within certain limits of course) as long as the mother and father are healty, happy and financially stable. I got pregnant at 18, and had to make A LOT of adjustments. I was working full time and in my sophmore year of college. I graduated at 16 and I have always been so academic and future-oriented, my friends were so suprised when I decided to "keep it". I was alienated from a lot of people I cared about because over the course of 9 months our lifestyles changed completely. It was hard to change and grow so much in such a short per. of time, but it was well worth it. I also have a feeling that at any age, women make drastic changes in their lifestyles to accomodate an unexpected, but happy pregnancy. I know that I am a wonderful momma to my 18 month old daughter. I have learned soooo much patience. And I know that I will be a wonderful mother to the next baby. I am currently 17 weeks pregnant, this one planned. My hubby and I are doing great, bought a house when my dd was 2 months old. Everything is so wonderful. Another thing to take into consideration is the alienation that a lot of young moms feel around older moms. Whenever I take my gal to the park. All of the other, older moms already know each other and stand around talking and looking at me like "hmmmmm." Every move is scrutinized. It is very important as a young mom to find a support group of other young, responsible families or it can get pretty lonely.

flower.momma--I think that is sooo wonderful that you were able to do all thoses things. Yes naturaly at any age if willing and able any woman can step up to the plate for there baby. Planed or not. As only one of my girls were planed,lol. I just believe from my exsperiance and from watching friends and family having babies young and before finishing high school or only finishing high school, it can be hard. My cousin and I are the only two that didn't have kids in our teenage years and we have seen how hard it was for them. If its possible waiting is better, but most deffinatly if a surprise comes about step up for them. I always wanted to go to college but took a different road for awhile. I thought I had all the time in the world to go. Until my first daughter snuck up on me, lol. Now I have three. My husband left cause he didn't want all girls. Now I have to leave my kids with family so I can go back to school so I can make enough money to support them. If I had only went to college staight out of high school then I wouldn't have this problem now. I've so enjoyed being a sahm, but I have to step up now. I'm sure though if you look and think if you would have finished high school at 18 instead of 16 you wouldn't have been as far in life as you were when you had your first baby. It would have been even harder. Having that time in school you got to experiance life a bit first. That does help when trying to be a mother in stead of only having your-self to think about. I think that it is so great that you were able to do these things and are able to enjoy life and your children. Congrats on the new baby and best wishes.

Tank you mama3. I tried to go back to school when I weaned my dd off the b___st at 8 months, but trying to type up reports and such with her screaming in the background was just too much. I felt like I was depriving her of attention, and I certainly couldn't focus on my studies. I decided to have my family first, so that my daughter will have a friend and playmate. I also thought it was senseless for me to put in so much work building an education and career right now, only to quit again in a few years. I would like at least 2 children, and know that I would like to give my next child as much time as I have given my dd. Once all of my children are in school, I will be starting again. I do agree that my little headstart helped me quite a bit. Straight out of HS I moved to Hawaii, enrolled myself in college full time, took two part time jobs and got myself an appt. with my now husband. So we had 2 years before my daughter was born in which we were living together, managing finances, working out all of our little pet peeves. We were essentially married at that time, and I know that our family would not be so stable if we didn't have those 2 years to settle in with one another.

flower.momma--See you took time for your-self and you two, before starting a family. You got to live life before having your lo's. That is the most important thing. Just stick to what you said about going back to school. I always said I would when my oldest started school. Then I had her sister the year she satrted school. My first two are almost 6 yrs apart. I like them apart. Its eaiser. Now I have a 2yr old and a 7 week old. There sister who is now almost 8 helps mommy alot. She plays with her sister, so I can tend to her baby sister. My ex's sister found out she was PG with there 2nd dd when there first was only 4 months old. I told her I feel for her. I don't see anyone can handle them that close together. She is nervous about her-self, but she has lots of family around. Do you know if you all are having another girl or if its a boy this time? An yes to what you said about young moms fiting in. Even at 21 I found it hard to meet other moms and click with them. I wasn't till I was PG with my 2nd at 26 that I wa able to talk and hang out with other moms. I started play dates for my oldest and invited the other moms along. You might want to try something like that. Do you have a mommy and me program were you are? Thats another way to meet other moms that will talk to you. Just a few thoughts for you. If you want to chat you can e-mail me at angelwith2babies77@yahoo.com I need to update the number to 3 now, lol.

mama3 i don't know what i am having yet i am only 10 1/2 weeks along. i heard my babies heartbeat yesterday though 6-26-06. i sounded wonderful. thanks for asking.

i think the perfect age is 23. I dont have anything to go on that by...but I figure if you were into partying, hopefully by the time your 23 your over that stage. And your ready to move on. but i suppose it really deoends on the person. Im 22 and will have my 1st one before i turn 23.

"best age" is probably the most subjective topic on this forum. It's ALWAYS up to the individual person what the "best age" is. Often, you'll find, that the best age is just whenever you wind up GETTING pregnant. Life works itself out.

I think the best age depends on the person. It just depends how physically, emotionally, and financially ready you are. I am 21, but I am so ready to have a child with my husband. I know we are ready to be parents and we can give a child everything it needs in all aspects. I know I'm young, but I know what I want and nothing will make me happier than finding out I'm pregnant:)

I agree marhar, whenever the women is ready and the father is ready. It differs with every women, wisdom does not necessarily come with solely a number (age) it comes from experience and maturity, these factors come at different ages for different people. You cant just say a number that is a set standard for when is the best time for a women to conceive.. A women 'knows' when her time is here.