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nicely put!!!! thank you for the support!!!

I think you should remember that the majority of the "wait till you're older" posts are directed at the under 20 group... teenagers, not 20 somethings. Are you saying that you encourage teenage pregnancy?

huh ? encourage teenage pregnancy ? 99% no but if the case is that they would be pregnant I STRONGLY recommend a practical supportive approach . Lets not make those who are either more troubled and in need of support than they already are . This area is my main purpose for even writing my post for anna , we are talking about very young women who are immpressionable and this world is their future . The cause for being 14 and wanting a child comes with mostly a variety of personal recognition reasons many of these reasons are determental to their rational thinking and their lives but the final influence comes from mostly having had cared for someone elses child and being praised and successful at doing so . this insures their trust in themselves that they could do it and for them there is no better feeling than fitting into a category of the more mature when you are that young . They feel more dominant or at least to their peers . Sadly keeping an older 17 or 18 year old man in their life (sugar daddy included) will encourage her to get pregnant and steal/keep him away from those other so called b___hes and just knowing that she got him instead of them can justify her cause . Sometimes its a matter of finding the love from others when they never have been able to get it from their parents peirs or immediate family . I am not going to say that a teenage girl could not and would not love herself enough to give that love to their own child with good maternal instinct but I recommend that these girls be the best big sister to their brothers and sisters they can and maybe wait for that man who is equally caring for your little brothers and sisters because you are not going to die tommorrow and loose any chance of being a good mom by caring for your own brothers and sisters ,and possibly even neighbours child . Unfortunately just the fact that this forum even exists will from time to time encourage young women to want a child . That will never change but when we speak to them we should be alot more practical about our approach . I suggest asking questions to find out where their influence toward wanting a child originated and then take our answers from their.I'll bet the topic could be taken clearly away from pregnancy and wanting a child very quickly . I also believe everyone here knows that , including the young women wanting a baby .

I'm sorry to dissappoint you.When I had my children,I chose the timing,security,and money,many of these young teenagers,do not think fully before entering into motherhood,as others have said,they rely on their family,which I feel is wrong.When you say the younger the better.A girl,and that is all she is,of say 15/16 having a child is madness,the girl is still at school or just leaving,she has no idea of life outside school,she is underage,and cannot possibly have a house,or money to support that infant,so she relies on her family,that have done their bit before.As for meedting most,all of my family,I could not give too hoots about that.All my husband knew was his brothers and sisters,his grandmother on his mothers side was only twenty,or twenty two when she had his mother,and died the day after.If she had had her in todays world,where things have moved on,maybe she would have lived.My husbands Grandfather moved abroad,and the other side of the family,lived far away too,so he never got to meet his grandparents,but its a tru saying,what you don't know,you don't miss.I knew my Grandparents,both sets,but they are dead now,life goes on.I feel so long as my parents,not Aunts,Uncles,but my parents tried to bring me up as best as they can,then that is all anybody can really ask for.My parents were married,and I was planned and wanted,and brought up in an established house,if my time with them was short,then so be it.As I said my husbands gran died just after giving birth at a young age,you can get cancer which is commen these days.You never know when that time will come,young or old,but to encourage young girls to have a baby,no,never.They have a lot to learn first.

I AM SOOOO TIRED OF HEARING THAT TEEN PARENTS RELY ON THEIR MOMS AND DADS! NOT ALL OF THEM DO! I SWEAR, I AM BARELY 18, HAVE A KID OF MY OWN, AM NOT ON AID, AND HAVE BEEN RAISING MY LITTLE BROTHER AND SISTER ON MY OWN BECAUSE RATHER THAN GO INTO FOSTER CARE I TOOK THEM. MY PARENTS ARE STUPID DRUGGIES WHO SHOOT UP ALL THE TIME AND GUESS WHAT? ME AND MY HUSBAND BUY MY SIBLINGS' FOOD, THEIR CLOTHES, TAKE THEM TO AND FROM SCHOOL AND TRY OUR DAMNEDEST TO EXPLAIN WHY MOMMY AND DADDY AREN'T AROUND ANYMORE. SO NO, I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THAT IT'S NOT ALWAYS THE CASE! I AM RAISING A 6 MONTH OLD, A 2 YEAR OLD, AND A 4 YEAR OLD THAT MY PARENTS WON'T BE RESPONSIBLE FOR. HAVE YOU EVER TRIED EXPLAINING TO A LITTLE KID AND MAKE EXCUSES TO COVER YOUR PARENTS ASS ABOUT WHY THEY WEREN'T HERE TO VISIT LIKE THEY SAID THEY WOULD? I DOUBT IT! SO TO "TO TOTAL AGREEMENT" HAS MY FAMILY DONE THEIR BIT? HELL NO! UNLESS YOU PERSONNALY KNOW THAT ALL TEEN MOMS LIVE OFF THEIR PARENTS OR THE GOVERNMENT, DON'T SAY HOW MUCH YOU KNOW ABOUT TEEN PREGNANCY. DO YOU ALSO MEAN THAT UNPLANNED KIDS OR KIDS TO UMMARRIED GIRLS ARE UNLOVED AND UNWANTED? BECAUSE AS GOD AS MY WITNESS, MY LITTLE BROTHER AND SISTER MAY NOT BE PLANNED OR WANTED BY MY PARENTS, BUT I'M BUSTING MY ASS TO SHOW THEM THEY ARE LOVED. NOT TO MENTION MY OWN SON. I AM DOING MY BEST AND ALL I SEEM TO DO IS GET BASHED AS A TEEN MOM. WELL YOU KNOW WHAT? SCREW YOU GUYS WHO THINK YOU ARE BETTER BECAUSE I LOVE MY SON, MY SISTER AND MY BROTHER AND WOULD GO WITHOUT ANYTHING, AND I MEAN ANYTHING AT ALL, TO SEE THEY ALL GET WHAT THEY NEED! UNLESS YOU HAVE EVER BEEN IN THE SHOES OF A TEEN MOM STRUGGLING TO DO HER BEST FOR HER KIDS, I SUGGEST YOU BACK OFF THIS SUBJECT!

I do sympathise with the previous post.There are families that are no good,either will not work when they can,and there are those teen mothers who we aim these threads at,who get pregnant on purpose,with no thought for the infant,responsibilities etc etc etc.It is unwise to support a teenager who knows little about life,just that they want a child.You are in the minority,although,I was friends at school with a girl whose sister was raising her because ther parents divorced and each met a new partner.When you have a young innocent sibling/child you cannot help but to love it,and do what you can,as you said you would not want your siblings to suffer.However,what you do not have you don't love,so for a young teenager who has not got their life in order,they should think long and hard before raising a child/children which as you know can be difficult.The reason so many of us are against young teenagers is because they have not got money to support themselves and they want children,etc etc etc.You do have a difficult task in explaining to your siblings,just like a friend of mine had trouble with her kid,that got to 15 and told her mum to leave her alone as she was not much older when she had her.It is difficult being a parent at the best of times,but people forget what teenagers are like when they get rebellous,and that is what they are,not ready to become mums.

sorry to diappoint me ? sorry you did not read anything I wrote . you're being funny if you're disagreeing with agreeing with me .