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Congrats on your pregnancy! Anyone telling you to abort just because you are 44 is crazy. I wouldn't tell a 15 year old to abort either, but if I can advise against it before pregnancy limits their options I will. I had my first at 23 and felt unprepared and I was already married and doing fine, it was just hard!! Do I think I would do it better now? Yes. Do I regret my son? No. I think most just want to help younger girls make the best decision possible. It's hard not to be a little shocked when you hear of a 14 year old trying to get pregnant, especially if you are older and wiser and remember being 14!! I think you are very blessed to be expecting at 44 and I hope you have a lovely pregnancy and birth!

I agree with Frances, that telling someone to abort a child just b/c of your age is nuts!! Also, I have to agree with her, that when a 14/15 year old is trying to get pregnant, it seems a little bit shocking. I think back to when I was 14, and I was so into sports, school, etc. I don't think that babies was a subject that even crossed my mind. Now I think of my own daughter and pray that she will not be one of the teenagers that I see on this forum. Sometimes people need to hear the bear truth....no padding. You are right that some people (myself included) can be very judgemental, but I always believed in saying what you think. I think it is kinder to tell the truth of the situation, and not to sugar coat it. But that's me. I can't be supportive and compa__sionate in situations that I think are ridiculous in the first place. Congrats to you, and best of luck with your baby!!

allison,I agree with you,when I was 14 I was into the same as you,and boys had started to get my attention.To think that girls on here at that age is considering having a baby is madness.As I and others have said before,they have nothing to offer a child.

I have to disagree with that last post, no I do not in any way think a 14 yr old should try to get pregnant, but to say they have nothing to offer a child. THat's wrong. My son will be 5 in June, I just turned 20. He is no different that any other child, most tell me he is smarter and better behaved that most 4 yr olds. I raised him the way I was raised, I think that makes a difference. My dad was strict. Maybe a little too strict which he has figured out now, but I can take the way I was raised and change it into my own way and make it better. I turned down putting my son in kindergarten at 4, he could have went, he is smart enough. He is loved and a great kid. And I am told many times that I am a great mom. I think you need to think before you judge everyone. My dh and I have been married for 5 yrs (next week) and are now expecting #2. I am happy , DH is happy, and my baby boy is happy, what did I not give my child that a 30 yr old could.

To Minna: it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. I think that makes a big difference in parenting. But I must ask, do you not feel as though you missed out on your young adulthood? And because of that, do you think that you will not relate as well to your child when he/she comes to that stage in their life? I am sure that you are doing a great job raising your child(ren). I just know that when my daughter becomes a teen, I will feel like I understand her troubles. I'm not sure if I had her at 14, that I would be able to say the same. I think that everyone has something to offer, but I do think that life experience is important too. Not only for how I raise my child, but for who I am. I think you are lucky to have a husband who is supportive, and that the two of you have stuck by eachother....I just know that if I had been married at 15 and had a baby, I would not be the same person that I am today, and I don't think that my child would benefit the same way as she does now. Best of luck to you with the birth of your new baby!

Yes, I do think I will be able to relate, I was still a teenager, I still went to high school. I still did stupid things. I was just a more mature teenager with responsibilities. I think I have more to offer b/c I can first hand show him that it can happen to you. It will be fine, although he is a boy so he will probably relate to his father better. I just get tierd of people stereotyping. When he becomes a teenager I'm sure we will manage just fine like we always have.

Well I'm glad to hear that you think you'll be able to relate. And you're right, boys tend to relate better with their fathers. Like I said before, you do sound more mature than some of the girls who post on here that are young with children....so you definately do have that going for you. I guess it is hard to see the other side of the fence....if you were looking at the situation from my standpoint, you may have similar views, and visa versa. Unfortunately, sterotyping happens. It's generally because most people who have kids young do not have the dedication that you have. My brother's girlfriend has 2 kids....both of which she had young (only one is his). The reason she had the kids was to stay on mother's allowance, and so she did not have to go to school. That was her mentality, so I guess I have a hard time getting past that. She and a bunch of her friends all have kids, and they think it's the cool thing to do. I just don't get it. Piercing your bellyb___ton was cool when I was 16....times change I guess. I must ask though....you were 15 when you got married? How did it feel being a married couple in HS? And I must ask, where are you from? I don't know anyone who got married before being 18, so I guess I am just curious.

I've been reading the posts in this forum for a little while now, and I just wanted to voice my opinion on a few matters. First of all, why is it that all of these 14/15 year old girls are not using protection? It seems to me in this day and age of s_xually transmitted diseases that girls (and boys) would want to protect themselves against these horrible afflictions. Just b/c a guy says that they do not like a feel of a condom does not mean that you have to put yourself at risk for a disease, or to become pregnant. I do not care who they say they've slept with, or if they say they are a virgin. Why are young girls so eager to please these young men? You should always be thinking of your safety. With STD's and AIDS in teens on the rise, I really think that they should be better educated on these subjects. Also, who's parents are allowing these children to be married at 15 years old? Is it just b/c they are pregnant? If so, I do not agree that marriage is the solution. Girls, be young and have fun...but be safe! Think of how you would like to see your life in 10, 15, 20 years from now. I would hate to see you make a decision that would hinder you from having the best possible life. I am not saying that if you have children from your teen years that you will be worse off, or that your children are worse off. I am more concerned about these young women who are 15, 16, 17...whatever, having unprotected s_x for what reason? I really do not understand it. Protect yourselves ladies!