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carrie your so cool

thank you hi for what you said.

carrie you are right,there are so many immature girls on this list....like..."I'm 16 and want a baby".They have'nt a clue what its all about!

I cannot believe that a girl of 17,leave alone one younger wants a baby,they must have an empty life to want to fill,thats not being rude,but if they had a happy full life,it would'nt enter their heads to have a child at that young age,as you said,they have'nt been with their bloke long enough,although at the time,and the maturity of them,they would argue that they were.

hi all, Carrie I have to say I agree with all you said, it makes my stomach turn to see silly posts from girls saying how desperatly they are trying to have babies and I don't think they relise how immature they seem to everyone else. However saying that I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant with my eldest son I wasn't trying for a baby I was just naive, although I would never call my son and accident as he is one of the dearest things to me, I split you with his Father after he was born this was my decision as I found out he was a compulsive liar, I later met my now husband and after a year together we started living together and decided to have our 2nd child ( it didn't take as long as we thought ) we later got married and things are really good. I am now 23 my eldest son is 5 and my youngest is 3 nearly 4, we are very happy together and my husband has a good job ( he's in the airforce ) and we are now trying for our 3rd baby. I am a great mother and was so even when I was 17, I had the help there if I needed it but I never did, I paid for all my sons clothes, food, nappies ect, although I know I'm proberly one of the lucky and responsible ones ( I know having unpretected wasn't very responsible but I can't change the past). I would never tell anyone to purposely get pregnant at such a young age as I agree that they are most proberly not responsible enough and have no idea of what really goes into looking after a child. I do think that there are some very mature and responsible teenagers out there, but I think they are all mature enough to make there own decisions without coming into these forums and making posts that make them look stupid and irresponsible.

does anyone on this post criticize u because u waited until such an older age to get pregnant? not very many people i am sure but teenagers get criticized on every post on this stupid site and its really not fair. sure most teenagers are not mature enough to know what it really takes to raise a child but nobody that hasn't yet had a child knows how much it really takes. i have my feet planted firmly and i am only 17 (18 in December) and yes i know that i have a lot of growing to do but i have what it takes, not only emotionally but financially. me and my husband have been together for 5 years and married for 3, and i know him very well. we own a home and not a tiny one, its pretty big (2200sqft of living space) we both have new vehicles, we have beautiful furnishings, are in the middle or remodeling our home and have plenty of money in the bank. and excuse me "Marcie" i don't have an empty life, i have a very full and extremely happy life. i don't have anything to fill in my life, i just want to add on to my family. is that such a horrible thing? i don't think so and i really don't care what people think of me and my decisions. but i would think that you people would make exceptions, not all teenagers are naive, immature, irresponsible, stupid little girls that you would like to think. and just because some people arnt ready for children until an older age that makes people who are young and ready bad people? irresponsible people? i don't think so. i came on here 2 months ago looking for support because it was taking me so long to get pregnant, i have been trying for 20 months, and the only thing that anyone gets on here is dumped on and i don't think that shows a hell of a lot of maturity on the "older, more mature" people. can any of you people open your minds a little a see that not everyone is the same? you guys only see the black and white, what about gray? some people don't ever feel the need to have kids, and some only feel it when they are in their 30's but then again a lot of people feel it when they are really young. i think that as long as you are in a committed relationship, are able to afford it and have a place to live besides your parents house then its fine to have a child. it may not be the right idea for everyone, but for the people that really want it then y put them down? i guess nobody on here can understand how it feels to be a teenager and want a baby, but i guess i cant understand why people think that they have the right to judge them. just wanted to say thanks for all the wonderful "advice" and unfailing "support".

Amanda, Did you get married at 14?!

yes i did. why does it matter?

I stand by what I said,and as this is a forum,people have opinions,that is what makes it work,otherwise the list wuold be empty.As for support,no I will not support a girl that has become pregnant with no idea the implements that means,many young girls are just out of school,they have little in the bank and experience on life,relying on their family to help out,which is unfair.lois asked if you married at 14,you asked why did it matter,well it says it all does'nt it?No-one is the same person in their late twenties as they are at 15,Suzx said about having a baby at 17 and splitting from the father,something not uncommen,they grey apart.There is nothing wrong with wanting to add to an established family,and a ralationship that has been solid for a number of yrs,plus both being mature enough to share in responsibilities,this is why it is wrong in my eyes for youngsters to bring a life into the world,because it is hardwork by two adults who share the same values,as you get older and these values become clearer and more mature thats fine,but it is not ok to bring on a demanding baby when the adults know little about themselves.If you cannot see whats wrong with getting married at 14 then you are one of the ones who is immature.If you have a child when it gets to 13 thinking of your child getting married would make your skin crawl.

i asked why it mattered because we were not talking about that. i didn't rush into marriage i was with my husband for 2 years before that.and i know that me and my husband may divorce but that is something that i will have to deal with like everyone else.and honestly i don't care what people think about me being married at a young age it is the best thing that has ever happened to me. and yes most parents don't want to think about their child getting married at a young age and most will not allow it but i was screwing my life up before i met my husband and now i am a square and i like it. i love my husband and my life and i am hoping for a child very soon and well to be blunt about it if you don't like it then screw you. and u saying that if i don't see anything wrong with getting married is immature is c___p. i don't see anything wrong with getting married at a young age, its my life and the law said that i could. if you don't like it then that's fine but i got married for the same reason every other person decided to and thats because i love him and I still do more then anything. But no matter what I say will be wrong so why even bother explaining anything to such narrow minded judgmental people? everyone is different and the people that don't understand that are the ones that are more immature.

UVE BEEN TRYING FOR 20 MO? HAVE U TALKED TO UR DOCTOR ABOUT THAT? LIKE HAVE YOU AND UR HUBBY GOTTEN CHECKED TO SEE IF THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH YOU?

no my husband hasnt been checked out yet but my period is screwy sometimes so i am betting its probably me, i have been checked for pcos, thyroid problems and hormonal imbalances but everything came back normal. and i have been using opks for a while and noticed i don't ovulate every month so since i cant use fertility drugs yet i have been trying herbal remedies and they have been working pretty good.

hmm well have you been intimate everyday or around when you think you are suppose to ovulate? My doctor told me that having s_x every other day but also being relaxed you know not stressing about trying to get pregnant helps. But its s_x everyother day not just on the days you think you are ovulating. Maybe your husband should get checked out. I had a cousin who had been trying for 3 years but she had been checked and she was fine, her husband wasnt checked. Well they divorced and she remarried and it took her 3 mo. to get pregnant with husband number 2. Also I have a friend that was also trying for almost 3 years, she was convinced that she couldnt have kids and so she stopped trying or even thinking about getting pregnant then all of a sudden after almost 3 years she got pg.

no we have s_x everyother day. at first it was everyday but i read that it could do more harm then good. and he does want to get checked but i know that he isnt comfotable doing it so i am just trying to get my cycle alittle more on track before i make him go through that (he usually wont even get a physicl unless i make him,he isnt comfortable being touched by a doctor). but thank you for your advice, i truly do appreciate it and that is really weird about your friends but i have heard a couple other stories like that. Well thank you again.

I think your husband should get tested. If he really wants to have a child he should. In case there is something wrong their might be something they can do about it. You guys are both young so its good to know if there are problems early on.

I agree entirely with marcie,you have it so right,so she did have a messed up life before commiting into this relationship,and saw it as a way out.I don;t care what you do Amanda,I don't know you,and its your life.These women have some very good points,and you should realise that instead of going off on one.To say these people are narrow minded is a joke,you are the one who is narrow minded,at a young age,jumped into marriage,wanting a baby..just to broaden the family,but as people say,we are not narrow minded in pointing out other factors,like your obvious immaturity in some of the things you asy,like realising when people say you grow up,change values on what is right and wrong,creating a life that is there for good,you have to be sure in your own mind that this is stable,you are ready.I admire women that do not jump headlong into a relationship,have a baby too fast,they split and move onto the next.